Thanks for the comments guys.
My partner suffers with MH issues. She has bi polar, Depression, anxiety , adhd, paranoia etc. Lockdown hit her hard, with me having to contact the crisis team due to her having massive melt downs.
She would get a tiny bit of attention from a guy and then start imagining a fantasy life with that person and id get thrown away.
This was incredibly difficult and went on for months. Though I stood by her and got her the help she obviously needed. Shes on meds which have an effect on her labido, but we discussed it and I told her, as long as she was ok and stable. Thats all that mattered.
I have a higher sex drive than her, but have taken a big step back and given her plenty of space in this regard. THough I have shown her plenty of attention.
For the first time in a year, things have been going really well. We have been spending much more time doing things as a couple and having fun, posting to facebook. She literally told me that she was happy! she said this to my face with a smile.
She then met her friends out in town, they had been drinking for hour before she arrived. They ambushed her and told her that they thought all her MH issues where down to her not being happy with me etc etc . They regularly cheat on their husbands, sleep with married men and are very jealous of her.
She took this all on board, and being rather suggestable. Especially from her mates (Who can do no wrong), came to the conclusion ....they must be right, why else would they say this?!
She eventually saw through them wanting to cause trouble, after talking to more reasonable people in her life. Though suddenly has the opinion that Im no good any more.
I have no idea whether this is down to her MH condition, has she had her head turned/is she hiding things from me or is it exactly as she says.
Either way, her brutality is unbelievably painful and damaging to my self esteem