Sexless Relationship.....but she doesnt want to split

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Im so confused and hurt.

My partner and I are both 40, she has recently told me that she no longer wants a sexual relationship with me. She says she no longer finds me attractive, has no feelings for me, thinks the sex is bad etc.

This has all came completely out of the blue, things have been great between us. Shes suddenly become really brutal with me, but then when I get serious and start heading towards ending things she finds an excuse to end the conversation. As if she is scared shes gonna get dumped.

Im so seriously hurt buy all of this. Its came as a complete shock and I dont understand it, as everything was fine.

Well if you can support her through all that and she can't see your worth I don't see what future you have of the value she places on her relationship with you depends on who she has talked to that day.
It is awful she is suffering these problems through no fault of her own but if that makes her incapable of being a life paertner to someone (and not just temporarily) without inflicting irreperable harm to them, then maybe she can't sustain a relationship.
That would be tragic for her and you, but we all have a limit and no one person can bear the cost of submitting to be deemed worthless indefintely.
Maybe she can't help what she is doing, and if she can get to a point where she can be well and take her own view on matters that would be the goal. But if that isn't possible you are looking at a future as a carer not a husband. We all face this possibility if our partners are disabled in some way (mentally or physically) but you don't expect to be deemed worthless while doing it. That's the killer.

She hasn't said she's gone off sex, she's said that she doesn't want sex with the OP. She's out and out said she has no feelings for him and doesn't find him attractive. There's a very good chance someone else has turned her head. But regardless, the relationship is done. Maintain your dignity and walk away. She's already emotionally vacated and isn't coming back (at least not until she's realised the grass isn't actually greener over there, and you don't want to be taking someone back in those circumstances).

LTB.

Leave The Bitch.