Hi. Ive been married to my husband 6 years, been together 9. We have a lovely home, two beautiful Children, 18months and 4 years.
Its been challening since two came along, I understand you dont get time as a couple. I was happy with this as i know its the norm and I love my husband very much no matter what. However now i think my husband doesnt want to be with me anymore. Read on....
A week ago i spoke to him how i was feeling, try to remember we are a couple and to remember to cuddle and look after each other as were both tired have a really defiant 4 year old and has burnt us both out., i said I missed intimacy , he said its cos were tired and his new job is a bit tougher and is on his mind alot. This week in the morning i asked if he was ok, as he was not him self. He said he was sad, couldnt put finger on what it was , said hes got a lot on at work, the kids and me, and he just does not want it anymore, wants to be on his own. I asked if he still loves me and he said he thinks he does.. :( That evening is when he dropped the bomb shell he said he felt like we were no longer married , drifted apart, no longer finds me attractive, has felt this way past 6months to a year, and if hadnt had kids we wouldnt be together now.
I just listened to what he had to say. It was so hard, i love him so much and our family, in the end i said he needs to think about what he wants to do, i was happy to work through things, but if he really does not want me then I can not live with that , i did not see it coming. Im so sad me and my kids will be on our own, my poor kids. Ive given him space i go upstairs and leave him downstairs to think and see what happens each day. Any advice , or anyone been in this position and got back together. my heart is broken