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What's keeping you awake?

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YukoandHiro · 10/11/2021 04:14

I've managed about 1-5 hours tonight, but here I am. Just having a crap time rn.
For a load of reasons I was already having a rubbish week and now I've got two poorly DDs as well.
Youngest is 13m and still hasn't had her MMR jabs as we've had to move the appt 3 times due to illness. Eldest has asthma and is really struggling with the colds going around (not had covid luckily). She's in reception and has already missed four days of school this year due to it and I think I'll need to keep her off tomorrow to get her seen by a GP.
I've had barely any sleep for weeks due to all these issues - lots of tag teaming being up at night with both children, plus a bit of peri menopause insomnia too.
I've returned to work and I'm really struggling with it - I'm self employed so I can't really just drop balls without missing out financially or losing clients. Managed to miss a very important call today as the brain fog kicked in.
As an aside we're having some issues with our home too which is making me miserable.
I feel like every day is just hard and stressful and the lack of sleep is breaking me physically. DH works nights so a lot of childcare is down to me and I feel like I'm just not coping at all.
So that's the end of my moan.
Tell me about your rubbish weeks....
What's getting on your nerves tonight? What keeping you awake?

OP posts:
Lookuptofind · 10/11/2021 04:27

Im mid thirties, pregnant, just been fired, an unsupportive partner, no savings, no career, i just go from job to job, hating the fact that i want to be self employed and build a business but fear stops me. So i feel like an utter failure.
Oh and eating for england Ireland scotland & wales, feel massive!!!!

Also bloody dreading going back to the baby years.

What a shit show ay ?

💐

SpangoDweller · 10/11/2021 04:28

I’m on holiday for the first time in a couple of years but work stress is keeping me awake too Sad. Just thinking about all the work piling up.

Also a coughing toddler. Covid test was negative and it’s a productive cough with no other symptoms but he sounds so uncomfortable at night. Also because he’s in the bedroom with me I’m hiding under the duvet so my phone light doesn’t disturb him and I’m too warm…

Flowers to you, it sounds like you have a lot going on.

awesmum · 10/11/2021 04:28

Hello there. I just wake up every night at 3am, every night.
Then my mind starts ticking over, will DD come bursting in here soon? Is the cat in? Am I hot? Shall I get up and have a drink? Do I need a wee? Shall I check the time? No, don't pick up your phone!
Then the serious stuff starts and I have to consciously NOT think about anything that will dip me into hours and hours.

I'm sorry you're having a tough time at the moment. As much as you're in it, it will be better soon.

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Kezzie200 · 10/11/2021 04:28

My shoulder is playing up again and is hard too lie on

DoesHePlayTheFiddle · 10/11/2021 04:33

Old woman waking up to go to the bathroom. I might have had five or six hours, which is great for me. Just noticing it's another day and I'm still here.

ItsTheTreasure · 10/11/2021 04:33

I'm sorry you're having such a tough time lately. I hope things get better soon Flowers

I'm up feeding baby DS. He's 6 months and I'm supposed to be teaching him to sleep in his cot instead of my arms, but neither of us are very good at it! We need to go & stay at MILs house before Christmas but there's no where I can sleep with him. DD age 6 has a cough so I've kept her off school and ordered a PCR but she wont let me do it. But I can't get her older brother to school while isolating her so he is upset too. My mum is having chemo, and I've never heard her be so down before. I think she's depressed but she thinks she just needs to pull herself together. I feel like I'm failing everyone, and dropping balls all over the place especially the housework ball

Upwardtrajectory · 10/11/2021 04:35

Partly neck pain, partly I seem to just lie awake a lot these days. Start of peri-menopause maybe 🤷‍♀️
I’m up for work in an hour anyway so I may as well admit defeat.

Softwonder · 10/11/2021 04:46

I always wake at some point, look at my phone for an hour and then go back to sleep. It's a distraction from what is troubling me usually.

Yesterday my Y10 son was suspended for selling a few disposable vapes at school and a parent complained. My son was searched and admitted it and he is suspended till Monday. ☹️ I just dont get why he can't just get his head down and stay out of trouble. It seems endless.

KingRoloIV · 10/11/2021 04:46

Completed on our new house today and am freaking out at how much work needs done to it. I just can’t see it being a cosy, comfortable space for us. We really stretched ourselves to be able to afford it…….. I’m wondering have we made a terrible mistake 😳😳😢

RoyKentsHairyBack · 10/11/2021 04:48

Up for a wee (my own fault, coffee too late last night) and can't get back to sleep.

I have work stress plus a thumping headache from my sinuses.

I'll get up and clear my inbox soon I think.

Think period due to start which makes me hot anyway and peri seems to have kicked in now so I find if I do wake it's impossible to go back to sleep.

GlumyGloomer · 10/11/2021 04:52

Coughing dc here too, also not covid. Oh, and our CO alarm went off yesterday, so in the morning I get to hunt for an engineer to come test our boiler and cooker, which obviously we can't use until it's sorted.
Flowers for everyone. It's rubbish isn't it?

IhateBoswell · 10/11/2021 05:01

My 6 year old is autistic and has begun waking up at 3ish, full of beans and ready to start the day 🥱

PermanentTemporary · 10/11/2021 05:06

In a miserable state of stress because of my elderly mum who is stuck in hospital and I can't seem to make the move to nursing home happen. Also there are no staff at work, currently there is officially only four bodies/3 posts providing a service for an 1100 bed hospital, there should be an absolute minimum of 6 whole time posts. 2 of us have mothers actually in the hospital right now, 1 has a child who is refusing school and not sleeping, 1 has a preschooler. One was in tears yesterday and told me she's going to hand her notice in. I don't blame her. We aren't providing a proper service, we're pretending to.

Redglitter · 10/11/2021 05:07

Kept awake by Stomach pains which started at 0130 followed Vomiting from 0200 & diarrhea at 0430

It's been a fun night 😔

Xyzzzzz · 10/11/2021 05:11

1 month old baby - so feeds but also she has a snotty/blocked nose so she’s struggling with that. I also have a poorly toddler with a cough - not covid just gather usual winter stuff. She goes to nursery to always be off with something

Invasionofthegutsnatchers · 10/11/2021 05:14

Had a horrifying nightmare so had to put the light on. Drenched in sweat. Had a bad evening with DD10 and DS8 being arseholes. DD has anxiety but is also taking the opportunity to be irritating and demanding non stop. DD8 is lazy and oppositional. Getting him in the shower is hard work. He keeps losing stuff at school too. They are good kids but I just want a stress free evening.

Whysotired · 10/11/2021 05:14

Whimpering toddler who keeps crying in his asleep. He isn’t well.

Thinking about all the issues with the house that everyone things I’m over exaggerating/aren’t there but they are. I’m obsessed with googling about it but I know doesn’t help.

Also can’t stop thinking of a friend who has just lost her baby - makes me want to just snuggle DS all the time.

For once I am not thinking about work. Need to try enjoy today with DS as on a holiday day as no CM. Even if he is poorly.
Hope everyone is doing okay - sending Flowers

TableDesk · 10/11/2021 05:16

Coughing DS in my bed - just got the negative PCR email so that's a plus point of being awake at this time. He also told me a few things that happen (have happened) at his dad's house that aren't sitting comfortable with me but has begged me not to say anything. He is also now refusing to go.
Period (endo) starting to rear its head again. I was hospitalised last month because of the bleeding. Joy of joy!

Un mn etty hugs to all those awake & stressed Flowers

ditalini · 10/11/2021 05:32

UTI.

It's not even that bad but I had a terrible one earlier this year so the fear's keeping me awake as much as the discomfort.

Resigned to waiting it out until I can get on the phone for a prescription.

Also perimenopause insomnia (utis probably related to that as well).

CelloYouveGotABass · 10/11/2021 05:32

OP you sound like you’ve got loads on. Other PPs too! It all becomes harder to cope on no sleep.

Can I recommend headspace app (you often get a free trial). I’m an insomniac but have never made it to the end of one of the 45 min sleep casts after a meditation.

We’re completing on a house move today, I’m 36wks pregnant and in agony with PGP from overdoing it yesterday. Going to give up and get on with cleaning down soon. Though we have run out of boxes and bags for life!

Loubiemoo · 10/11/2021 05:33

My uni assignment.

mumjustmum · 10/11/2021 05:40

We can't afford to buy a house for a few years, and we are in the wrong catchment area in our rental.
If we move rentals in the 'right' catchment, we will be tripping over one another in these houses as we are a family of five with a WFH husband.

bloodywhitecat · 10/11/2021 05:41

Woke at 4 as the baby needed feeding and now sat worrying about how the future will pan out. People tell me how brave I am but inside I am screaming and bloody terrified but I don't feel able to tell anyone. DH has cancer and we know it is terminal and, although he is OK at the moment, I have awful images of what is to come in my head.

PermanentTemporary · 10/11/2021 06:11

Flowers Brew bloodywhitecat. What a headfuck.

romdowa · 10/11/2021 06:15

I've a 6 day old baby who is quite prompt with demanding his feeds 😳 🤣