I have a dilemma. First date and golf

[Heshowedmeheaven]

Hi everyone. I've a first date at the weekend but it's going to play golf and I have never played it before. I'm wondering what to wear, first to look good but also not to be embarassed by dressing inappropriately. For footwear, Would riding boots or uggs be ok? It looks like the weather is to be very cold on Saturday so I don't want to freeze. He mentioned the driving range, Is that different to a golf course? Can I wear a hat, scarf and warm coat or will I be able to swing the cue bundled up for the weather lol Any guidance appreciated.

A driving range is different to a golf course. It’s a set of stations facing a big field where you work your way through hitting a bucket of balls.

It is unlikely to be muddy. But it will probably be outside and, therefore, not warm. It’s probably covered.

Be aware that your date may be looking to ‘teach’ you, and may try to do that by standing behind you and putting his hands over yours. So you might want to decide how you feel about that.

Whatever footwear you like will be fine. Well it strapped heels, but boots or shoes or trainers or whatever you like really.

This is a driving range.

Definitely don't wear Uggs

Definitely wear some gloves because the golf clubs can hurt after a while.
He’ll probably be checking out your bum so some good jeans/leggings etc.
Maybe take layers as you can get warm hitting the ball.
Uggs, trainers it flat boots would be fine.

Tell him to get away if he attempts to spoon you. The thought has put me right off! If no spooning is attempted, he is a keeper. This is an excellent way to sort the wheat from the chaff.

For footwear, Would riding boots or uggs be ok?

No. Since you obviously won't have golf shoes, wear trainers or something similar. Definitely not boots as they will restrict ankle movement.

Is it just me who would see an invite to a driving range to a non golfer as a red flag? Its such a specific sport, and needs lots of gear, that a casual participant would likely not have, it just smacks of control to me. Even though its only a driving range theres still a level of skill needed to hit the ball. I had an ex who did something similar, except it was an 18 hole competition, and he expected me to caddy for him. It rained solidly for 3 hours and I remember thinking I wouldn't ask an enemy to do this, never mind a girlfriend.

It's definitely a very specific and niche place to go!

Trainers would be fine, you want reasonably good grip, boots won’t allow the range of movement needed. A coat won’t work, too constricting, but a hat is fine. A few thin layers is the best idea. No dress code at the range so jeans are fine too. It’s an odd idea for a first date, are you sure he knows you’ve never played golf?

Also most decent driving ranges have overhead heaters these days so layers that you can remove will be best! Also make sure your booth is downstairs - if your rubbish your ball will constantly get in the way of those below you otherwise!

Don’t worry, I love the driving range and I’m shockingly bad 🤣 it’s a real mix.

I am possibly overthinking but did he suggest driving range. I feel he might be an insufferable show off who is waiting for you to say you have never played before so he can mansplain and spoon you. Hope I am wrong. But I would probably be down the range daily to prepare and tale a set of high end clubs so I could offset his plan. But I am petty and suspicious.

Is it a driving range or something like Top Golf which is a good laugh and you need no experience?

will I be able to swing the cue

Only if you're playing snooker. . It's a golf club, not a cue.

Yellow85 I’m the opposite to you and prefer the upstairs booth.

@justforthisnow

Is it just me who would see an invite to a driving range to a non golfer as a red flag? Its such a specific sport, and needs lots of gear, that a casual participant would likely not have, it just smacks of control to me. Even though its only a driving range theres still a level of skill needed to hit the ball. I had an ex who did something similar, except it was an 18 hole competition, and he expected me to caddy for him. It rained solidly for 3 hours and I remember thinking I wouldn't ask an enemy to do this, never mind a girlfriend.

I’d suspect he’s trying to manoeuvre a spooning ‘teaching’ situation. And to show off his golfing brilliance 🙄).

Even more cynically, I’d see it as a strong hint that a relationship with him would involve a lot of him fucking off to the golf club. Whether that’s positive or fodder for MN posts about DP’s mysterious ‘hobby’ depends on all sorts of factors. 😂

Or it could be he’s viewing it like going bowling which is a fun activity for any ability.

I think it’s a nice idea for a date and I’m not a golfer
Do watch out for spooning though or general unwanted touching when helping you “get your position right”
Wrap up warm though

That's an unusual choice for a first date. Wouldn't a chat over coffee be easier?

Are you actually interested in golf because if not it could be extremely dull whacking golf balls for a bit and then watching him show off his swing or whatever.

Bizarre venue for a first date, unless both parties are golfers

@Chippymunks

Or it could be he’s viewing it like going bowling which is a fun activity for any ability.

Bowling is more accessible. And bowling alleys provide all the kit: shoes, balls, etc.

Plus… no one looks cool golfing. 🤣

Are you sure that you want to go? Sounds hideous! Did he suggest it? Is he a golfer? Beware that golf may come above all else and he probably wants to show off his 'skillz' / teach you.

Something like junkyard golf, yes, great date, an actual driving range, not so much, but maybe that's just me!

Oh come on…the OP is going on a first date please pull back the negativity. Yes it’s an unusually choice but you might have a massive amount of fun. Please go in open minded or you may as well not go at all.

BadlyFormedQuestion I’ve never played proper golf but booked a few Groupon deals where you use a driving range for an hour (they provide everything except shoes) and then you have a burger and drink in the club house/cafe. It’s a good laugh.

I'd wear trainers....and clothes wise I'd wear something that is a cross between going to the gym and a day to day casual outfit... decent gym leggings, vest, nicest zip up hoodie that it's possible to get! Hair and make up done though.