WWYD if your partner said....

[itsme1978]

"I'd be much more attracted to you if you were in better shape".........?!

I'd tell him to go find someone more in shape he's attracted, to, then.

Leave.

I'd say "at least I can get into shape if I choose to, there's nothing you can do about being a dick"

@Palavah

Or... That's awkward, because you could do all the burpees in the world and I'd still think you were a knob

This

Well I didn't like to mention it but I feel the same way about you. Maybe we could join a gym together.

Time to split up. How could you ever sleep with him again knowing he struggl3s to be attracted to you.

There's the door .. fuck off out of it

My ex husband used to say I'd look much better if I was a size 12/14 (I was an 18) I now am a dress size 12/14 and I'm much happier but it's nothing to do with my dress size it's because I'm now married to someone who builds me up and couldn't give a stuff what size my clothes are.

To be fair it would depend on the circumstances.

I know a couple where the man is morbidly obese, and could be doing a lot more to change this, and I could well imagine the woman saying this, and I wouldn't blame her.

But generally I'd be telling him to go find someone he's more attracted to, and to let me find someone that appreciates me as I am, which shouldn't be hard.

I would tell him to fuck off and find someone he found attractive then.

I would take him at his word and expect him to support me in trying to get in better shape. As long as he was happy to help pay and look after the kids while i went to the gym I wouldn’t mind at all.

Was it unprompted or did you ask him something related? Is it about frequency of shagging or was he randomly having a go at you?

I’d laugh.

My partner is currently obese due to medication he has to take for a chronic condition, did he look more attractive thinner? - yes, would I ever voice that to him? Absolutely not. I love him regardless of his size, he isn't an idiot and when he can get the condition under control I know he will take steps to lose weight but I can't see how commenting on his weight would benefit him now. My ex would constantly comment on my body and all it did was make me miserable and take less care of myself

He can fuck off. What a horrible thing to say.

Depends if you were having an honest conversation or a slanging match. If it's the former then it would give me a kick up the bum to get back in shape (I was in fantastic shape a few years ago due to a certain exercise but not so much now). If it was the later I'd tell him to do one!

I would be really upset and angry (at myself and him).

@itsme1978 are you okay?

Well, be honest. Have you piled on the pounds? Harsh as it might be to hear, maybe he does think you've let yourself go? Is he still fit looking....? If not, he doesn't have a leg to stand on.

My ex partner would be handed a mirror

Maybe on his head !

Happened to me with my ex 'D'H! One of the many reasons...

I think it's fair. My DH and I wouldn't dream of getting out of shape. I wouldn't feel attractive to myself let alone him.

‘Yeah I get that. I’d be more attracted to you if you were less of a dick…but here we are ’

I'd be more attracted to you if you wasn't such a nasty twat"

I hate all the ‘well have you put weight on?’ Comments. Even if the OP has gained 5 stone in the last year saying ‘I’d be more attracted to you if you were in better shape’ is crappy and cruel.

How to handle your partner putting on weight:
Gently broach the subject and offer support ‘how do you feel about us trying to be a bit healthier?’ ‘I want to support you to be as happy and healthy as possible’ Give it a bit of time and see if it works. If it does great, if it doesn’t then decide whether you’re happy to remain in the relationship regardless, if not LEAVE. Weight is not something to hold over someone. Just because someone was a size 10 when you met them doesn’t mean they have to remain that. Equally you are entitled to leave at any time.

I'd write "I'm a Knob" in sharpie, on the back of his baldy head, when he was asleep.
And then cheerily wave him off to work next morning.