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Bedroom conundrum.

114 replies

Sexnotgender · 29/10/2021 19:10

We are potentially moving to a new property.

4 bed
2 children
1 large master suite
2 reasonably big doubles
1 single

We need a guest room which we need a double bed in.

That leaves a big room and a little room for the children. Ages are currently 2.5 and 6 months.

Do we just put the baby in the single?

I feel bad that big brother gets a really decent sized room and little sister gets a small room!

Am I overthinking it?

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Whitefire · 29/10/2021 19:14

Yes you are over thinking it, room allocation doesn't have to forever more, so can always change things way down the line.

Wormsarecool · 29/10/2021 19:15

I would go for a different property I think. I would worry that DD would feel unimportant if mum & dad had a large room, brother and guests got a decent room and she got the tiny room.

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Sexnotgender · 29/10/2021 19:16

@Wormsarecool

I would go for a different property I think. I would worry that DD would feel unimportant if mum & dad had a large room, brother and guests got a decent room and she got the tiny room.
Literally no choice on the property, sorry should have said that.
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ThePoisonousMushroom · 29/10/2021 19:17

How often do you have guests?
When we were in this scenario the two children had the larger rooms, with my eldest daughter having a double bed. When we had guests, they used her room and she went in with her sister (bunk beds).
Now I have 3 children so the youngest has the smallest room. He may well feel ‘unimportant’ but we can’t afford to move just for a slightly larger 4th bedroom.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 29/10/2021 19:18

Do that for now. When she’s 11 move her into the spare room (if she wants the space) and put a sofa bed in her room, or downstairs.

It’s fine for 10 years, don’t over think it.

GreyhoundG1rl · 29/10/2021 19:19

How often do you have guests that they get a bigger bedroom than one of your children?!

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Sexnotgender · 29/10/2021 19:20

@ThePoisonousMushroom

How often do you have guests? When we were in this scenario the two children had the larger rooms, with my eldest daughter having a double bed. When we had guests, they used her room and she went in with her sister (bunk beds). Now I have 3 children so the youngest has the smallest room. He may well feel ‘unimportant’ but we can’t afford to move just for a slightly larger 4th bedroom.
We’ll likely have guests at least every couple of months for a week/several weeks at a time.
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rrhuth · 29/10/2021 19:20

You are absolutely overthinking it. You can review in future if the rooms need to switch, but in the meantime you are providing a safe warm home for your kids and they have everything a child needs.

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Sexnotgender · 29/10/2021 19:21

@GreyhoundG1rl

How often do you have guests that they get a bigger bedroom than one of your children?!
As above. And I need a double bed for them and I don’t think a double will fit in the smallest room.
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girlmom21 · 29/10/2021 19:21

Long term you could split the master suite into two rooms and then take one of the doubles yourselves if needed

ThePoisonousMushroom · 29/10/2021 19:21

That’s similar to us (pre covid anyway) as my family live abroad. Ours were happy to share (in the bunk beds) for a week or so at a time.

GreyhoundG1rl · 29/10/2021 19:21

We’ll likely have guests at least every couple of months for a week/several weeks at a time.
Maybe this is because you keep a dedicated double room at their disposal...

WhatHaveIDone21 · 29/10/2021 19:21

We have a 4 bedroom house. We changed the 3rd bedroom into a larger family bathroom so had a big master bedroom, a slightly smaller second bedroom (still really big) and then the small 4th bedroom.

Youngest DD went into the smallest room and elder DD had the second bedroom. It was fine when they were little but now they are 10 and almost 7 we are converting the loft so they can have equal size rooms. DD6 does ask why she has the smallest room.

So I would say fine for now but maybe give your youngest the spare room as they get older? How often do you use the spare room?

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Sexnotgender · 29/10/2021 19:22

@GreyhoundG1rl

We’ll likely have guests at least every couple of months for a week/several weeks at a time. Maybe this is because you keep a dedicated double room at their disposal...
No. They are welcome and invited guests who we absolutely want to stay with us.
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ThroughThickAndThin01 · 29/10/2021 19:23

If the spare room isn’t used pretty much 24/7 then you need a sofa be downstairs, or you’ve got a spare room sitting empty which is not fair on your dc.

dudsville · 29/10/2021 19:23

As the youngest child I was allocated the guest room at home in that I had a double bed and when guests stayed I moved elsewhere. Your children could take turns moving out when company come to stay.

ThirdElephant · 29/10/2021 19:24

We've got two big rooms and two smaller. TBH I don't worry about it- my sister grew up in a literal closet- you couldn't open the door without hitting the bed and the bed touched three of the four walls. It was just the way it was, we didn't question it. She didn't resent me for it- we had and continue to have a strong relationship.

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Sexnotgender · 29/10/2021 19:24

I’m thinking the bunk beds in one room might be a good idea! Definitely food for thought.

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Sexnotgender · 29/10/2021 19:25

@dudsville

As the youngest child I was allocated the guest room at home in that I had a double bed and when guests stayed I moved elsewhere. Your children could take turns moving out when company come to stay.
Hadn’t actually thought of that. Really good ideas here. Thank you.
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MrsTophamHat · 29/10/2021 19:27

The small room doesn't have to be the consolation prize... I had the small room growing up and I was the eldest. I liked it because it was only mine and my sister had no reason to come in, whereas her room had all the toys, games console etc in it so it was more shared between us.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 29/10/2021 19:29

Overthinking it- most houses have a box room- my youngest has the smallest room, I had the smallest room. I wouldn’t be upset my brother had a bigger room but rather the gusts do- can’t you put a small double in the small room, they don’t need furniture as such

dammit88 · 29/10/2021 19:29

I think you are overthinking - its pretty standard that the youngest kid gets the smallest room I think!

Starcaller · 29/10/2021 19:31

I doubt many houses have bedrooms that are all the same size anyway! Someone has to be in the smaller one ... I wouldn't overthink it, OP. Just do what works for now and revisit it in the future if you need to.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 29/10/2021 19:33

We have two kids and a 3 bedroom house (2 double one single).

The child in the bigger bedroom has a double bed, and moves in either with her sister or with me when we have guests.

In your situation I would put them in the double room together and reevaluate in a few years.

waltzingparrot · 29/10/2021 19:35

Is the single next to a double such that you could move an internal wall to create two small doubles?