Bedroom conundrum.

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We are potentially moving to a new property.

4 bed
2 children
1 large master suite
2 reasonably big doubles
1 single

We need a guest room which we need a double bed in.

That leaves a big room and a little room for the children. Ages are currently 2.5 and 6 months.

Do we just put the baby in the single?

I feel bad that big brother gets a really decent sized room and little sister gets a small room!

Am I overthinking it?

My 2 chose to share , they're still in one room now at 8 and 6, we're moving them this weekend . Youngest gets small box room but also a mid sleeper and den- hes pleased with it! At thise ages I'd get them to share and reevaluate in a few years.

I would never have very young children sharing if I could avoid it - recipe for disturbed nights. Nor would I want to be constantly shifting small DC in and out of their rooms, for the same reason. I'd put baby in small room as intended. She won't question it until she is years older, if ever. You can always put her in the guest room and have her move out for guests when she is older, if you feel that suits family life better. Don't overthink it, just do whatever makes life easier for you when you have such young children.

My brother had the big bedroom because he had a massive train set and I had the small room. I loved my little room with a high sleeper. Don’t over think it op.

There are some fully bonkers answers on here.

In fairness it is mumsnet, I take a lot with a pinch of salt😂

Some good suggestions though that I hadn’t thought of.

Tbh most houses don’t have equal size rooms.. I’d put the biggest bed possible in each-maybe a bunk bed and the kids move if you have visitors

I hated to stupid box room. It wax tiny and cold. My brother had a massive room that was warm and had lots of sunlight just because he was born earlier. I had no space for things and constantly got into trouble for being messy, I had nowhere to study etc. When my brother moved out he hadn’t even left the street before I was moving all my stuff into his room. Give your kids the best room and set the stall one up as a study with a sofa bed. The kids can take turns moving when you have guests. It will actually seem exciting to them.

My best friend in school selected the smallest bedroom in the house when her family moved. She loved it. I was jealous and I actually moved my furniture in my own bedroom to split the room to try to create a smaller space and shut my bed in like my friend had. Small rooms can be absolutely brilliant so don’t assume. I would have older child in bigger bedroom. Also maybe bigger bedroom is children’s playroom as well.

We didn't want to give up one of our double rooms as a guest room and the single wasn't big enough for a guest room, so we compromised with a (decent) sofa bed in the snug downstairs. My son also has a king size bed so that can be used for guests if needed too. As the kids are always in the house I want them to have a decent sized bedroom, that said my kids are older, I think it's fine to give her the single for now but in a few years I'd prioritise her over guests.

Not everyone wants a bigger room. Our teen choose the box room.

It’s honestly fine. Put the baby in the small room. Rethink it when you need to. In 4 years - which is the VERY soonest she will notice (and not likely - more likely 5/6), you may wish for them to share the big one; you may not need the guest room so much; your son may be happy with the smaller room; one of them can basically have the guest room, with the double bed, unless there are guests. Worst comes to the worst, they swap every two years!

I do think it's a bit weird to turf kids out of their rooms for guests tbh. It'd be very disruptive. To me, it makes far more sense to just put the youngest in the small room- young kids don't care.

Then, when 7 or so years old, ask if they'd rather move into the bigger room, on the proviso that they get kicked out for a week or so every couple of months due to guests, or stay put.

Some children prefer a small, cozy room. It's hardly deprivation!

I wouldn't put guests over children who live in the home 24/7. But your 6 month old is so young, won't notice anything about room size for a few years and then you can rethink, so I wouldn't worry about it for a while to come.

Stop overthinking it. Or current house was a complete renovation and extension job. The dc chose their rooms which range from massive double to teeny tiny single. Nobody feels overlooked or hard done by.

mine are now 6 and 8 and shared a room since the smaller one was 6 months old. They know that as soon as they ask, they can move into separate rooms - they have never asked. Try it.

Your DC might like to share a room until they are 9 or 10.mine did.
You are wildly overthinking this. Your baby will know no different for now .Someone always has the smaller room.. it's the way it is.

It's totally normal to live in a house with a box room. Only in the privileged world of Mumsnet is it considered a traumatising event to be allocated it. We shared when we were young and then when I (eldest) wanted my own room I offered to take the smaller one but dsis wanted it because it was cosy. Other friends shared for their whole childhood and beyond. None of us were deprived or grew up resentful.

I like the idea of having them share as early as practicable i.e. I've they're both sleeping soundly. Baby can have the box room until then.

At some point one of them will get sick of sharing and literally beg you for the box room.

Actually thinking about it my kids are the same. We extended the house when dd1 was about 7. She didn't want to upgrade her room as she likes her little den. She's 10 now and still loves it.

My youngest has just moved out of the box room at aged 8, she's delighted that she now has "2 bedrooms" and gives up her "big room" for her grandparents on a regular basis and moves back into the box room when they stay.

We have a three bed house and one child. We put her in the second largest bedroom (we had the biggest, obv) when we moved - she was 4 at the time. She started voluntarily taking herself into the spare room (which was tiny - only just fitted a double bed) during the first lockdown. We think because it was closer to our room and she was unsettled. So, we moved her into the small room - she has a three quarter double bed, a chest of drawers, a bookshelf and a wardrobe on top of the 'stair box' thingy. She's slept through the night ever since, having always been a dreadful sleeper.

How about put them both in together and have the tiny room as a store for toys/playroom.

I'd put twin beds in one room for guests or kids. Double beds are too small.

What LividLaVidaLoca said. I had the boxroom. Nice and cosy and all mine.

It never crossed my mind to feel less important; I wasn't treated as less important in any other way.

And it would have been a right pain to move every time we had guests - I would have been bound to leave something I needed in there and have to disturb them at an inappropriate time.

Over thinking.
Can you not squeeze a small double in the single room and no other furniture. C

You don't need a huge amount of space around a guest bed.
Rather than put a double in (depending on dimensions) you could put in something like this www.ikea.com/gb/en/p/brimnes-day-bed-frame-with-2-drawers-white-10503656/
We have one in my son's room as don't have a spare room but my parents visit regularly (he then shares with sibling). A doddle to pull out, you keep the storage underneath whatever position it is in so can put extra bedding in it and it is really comfy. I give them two single quilts rather than a double. Keep one clean and made spare which is very handy in the event of illness or accidents for kids rest of time.
This would make the single room more useable and less cluttered when you don't have guests and if it fills most of room when you do then doesn't really matter as they'll not need loads of stuff in there with them