Do you strip the bed as a guest?

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I've always done this before leaving when staying over at friends/family.
Half my guests do and half don't. What's the consensus on this?

I don't and I wouldn't want my guests to - housework ruins the vibe of entertaining people or being entertained

I ask if they'd like me to.

As a host it would depend on who slept in it. I gave my bed to my sister and her husband for a night last week as she was knackered and giving her the air bed would've been mean, I put clean bedding on for her but I don't care about sleeping in their sheets that they've only need in for one night so wouldn't want it stripped.

I tend to in an Air BnB or holiday cottage but always check first when staying with family/friends. I know, for example, that my SIL really appreciates it. I guess it depends - not everyone finds it helpful... I really wouldn't mind either way 🙂

I wouldn’t because I’d worry they’d see it as rude but ironically I’d really appreciate guests doing this at my house.

I don't assume anything so I ask what the hosts wants.

Equally if I'm the host I tell people what I want - it's not always the same

No, and it annoys me when people do it when they are staying with me.

i would assume someone doing it as they KNOW the sheets are needing changing - a hot sweat or a nightrime blood leak?

At my parents i ask who is there next in that room, often it will be me so don't strip it then.

@TheSpiral

No, and it annoys me when people do it when they are staying with me.

Why does it annoy you?

I find it helpful to have one less job to do

I make the bed at my sisters I'm not dirty and she can use it again
When she stayed with me I didn't change the sheets after her visit

Miss those days I don't have space anymore with the kids

But I love going to stay at hers and I'm her only guest

Please don’t do it without asking first.

If they say “No, please don’t worry- leave the sheets” then do as they ask (otherwise why did you ask?)

Some people find it annoying for a variety of reasons so discover if your hosts take it as help or hindrance.

That’s the politest thing to do.

No, and it annoys me when people do it when they are staying with me

Why does it annoy you?

It annoys me because I may not want to wash the bedding that day. I wash all the bedding on Sundays and Wednesday and have a particular routine that works for me.

Why does it annoy you?
Why does that matter?
I find it helpful to have one less job to do
You are not the other person, so if it’s not helpful to them it’s not helpful at all.

I make the bed at my sisters I'm not dirty and she can use it again

Are you sure her next guests to use the bed will be so thrilled to be sharing your sheets?

Yes, I see stripping the bed as a politeness.

I ask, or just make the bed so it doesn't look untidy. Even though they'll probably strip it anyway. I would never leave it a mess and unmade. That just looks impolite. Even though the sheets are probably going to be washed, the host might not be doing that straight away depending on what else they're washing, so I just make it look tidy

I just ask. I find it easier if someone asks me too. They aren’t really saving me a job, taking the sheets off is the easy part

I don't, and I hate when guests do it here. I have my own way of doing laundry, so I'll do it when I'm ready. I feel under pressure to do the bed sheets when guests strip the bed, I also feel judged that I wouldn't change the bedclothes (which of course I do!), so they're making sure that I have to ( perhaps that's my own issue with MiL).

But I may well ask in future

I find it annoying as even though they’re clean (washed etc) the pillows sometimes have stains on them which I’ve covered over with under pillowcases, and if they took that off too it would look bad
But I appreciate it if someone asks, and I always ask too.

I usually fold the duvet back to the bottom of the bed, smooth the bottom sheet and plump the pillows. That way it should be easy to re-make or to strip!

No, and it would annoy me if someone did. We tend to wash the spare room bedding when we know people are visiting. After they’ve visited we’d leave them until the next guests come as the cats often sleep there so they can dirty up the used bed rather than the clean one.

I don't, I also don't expect my guests too. That is part of the role of a host.

No and I find it annoying too. Someone probably sleeps in our spare bed once every 3 months. I leave the sheets on and just wash them the night before new guests come. I don't want to have to wash them immediately. I want the 'just washed' smell when new guests get in

No. And I wouldn't want nor expect guests visiting us to either.
We don't have removable duvet covers anymore anyway so far less likely to.
Means I can more easily chose when I want to wash but still have the room looking okay.

I never strip a bed in hotels, villa, holiday rentals or B&Bs either unless there are express instructions to do so.

I ask if the host is there. It’s a 50/50 split as you say, between those that want it stripped or not.

If I’ve housesat for a few days and can’t reach the host, my to-go option is to pop it in the washing machine and hang it on an airer before I leave, so the owner finds it all clean when they get back. But these are people who have given me permission to use their washers and do their laundry before!