Do you strip the bed as a guest?

[MyMushroomsInATimeSlip]

I've always done this before leaving when staying over at friends/family.
Half my guests do and half don't. What's the consensus on this?

I ask, but if someone wasn't there to ask id strip or and fold the duvet and bedding back up and put it on the bed so it's not just dumped in a mess.

I don't like it when people strip the bed. When people leave I just want to relax not stress about washing and putting sheets back on. If they take the sheets off it will just remain unmade with no covers or sheets on until I get around to it - usually the next weekend as I work. In that time my cat will be sleeping directly on the mattress or uncovered duvet. I'd rather she slept on the dirty sheets as it's one less job to do.

@NoSquirrels

Why does it annoy you? Why does that matter? I find it helpful to have one less job to do You are not the other person, so if it’s not helpful to them it’s not helpful at all.

A bit harsh!

I was trying to understand another person's viewpoint and also giving my own.

Thanks for everyone's comments. I will in future ask my host first. I had always hoped that I was being helpful but understand that it's not helpful for everyone

@MyMushroomsInATimeSlip

Thanks for everyone's comments. I will in future ask my host first. I had always hoped that I was being helpful but understand that it's not helpful for everyone

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excellent plan

Same as other pp, I only put clean sheets on before a guest stays, so stripping the bed would cause me twice as much effort and is the opposite of helpful. I would probably put the dirty sheets back on!

I always ask if they want me too.

I hate it too. I might not want to wash the bedding right away. I like to wait until fair weather drying days to do bedding. Until then I want the bed made up and looking neat.

I my mum asked me to strip their spare bed after I'd slept in it for one night and knew I'd be the next person to sleep in it. So I pointed out that it wasn't worth it!

No and I'd find it a bit weird if someone did it in my house without at least telling me.

I very rarely stay at other people's houses but generally I wouldn't (though, might offer) unless it's somewhere like my parents where I feel confident it's helpful.

Whether or not I'd find it helpful for guests to do has really varied through the years depending on whether we had a spare room at the time, whether the cats had access to the bed, whether the bed was used for other things (e.g. in one house it was in the play room and my boys would use it as somewhere to play with their soft toys). I would appreciate someone asking but wouldn't always be thrilled if they did it without asking.

My mum always forbids me from stripping the bed at her house because she goes in there to get away from my Dad's snoring and doesn't want to change the sheets in between. My friend (who's a therapist) reckons this is her (possibly subconscious) way of ensuring that I don't have sex while I'm there.

I'm another one that doesn't, and hates it when anyone does if they're staying with me.

• either I have to immediately wash it (which may not be convenient) or I have it hanging around waiting rather then being neatly on the bed waiting for when I'm ready
• Guests don't know what our plans are. They may well be the next person to stay again, so no point in changing at all.
• When we had a cat, and a permanent spare bed, I only put fresh sheets on immediately before guests arrived, so I could be sure they didn't get covered in cat hair. I definitely didn't want the spare bed with no sheets on for any length of time, because then there's cat hair on the much-harder-to-wash mattress and duvet. Not an issue now but very much so then!