What age did you or let your dc shave their legs

[onelastgoatthis]

Dd is 12 and asking to shave her legs, I'm sure I was around 14 when I started to shave...just after opinions

When people are saying why does she has to ask, they mean why do you think you might not give her permission.

I don't have a DD but I was around 12 and wish I had had the opportunity to shave a couple of years earlier. Whatever the rights and wrongs of societal pressures, they are there and I remember feeling deeply ashamed and humiliated at that age, especially when having to wear skimpy leotards/swimwear at school. If she is asking she likely feels the same.

Why wouldn't you allow this? She's old enough to make the choice for herself.
If I remember correctly at about 11 I told my mum I wanted to shave my legs, and could she get me the stuff to do it.

We rave about body autonomy as women, but aren't allowing it to our young females.

My dd is only little but I remember the first time I shaved my legs and I was 12. Someone had commented on my hairy legs at school (mortified!) and I thought, I needed to defuzz them as soon as.
I pinched my dad’s Gillette and when my mum realised what I’d done, called me a “silly bitch” and smacked me. The memory has stuck with me forever which is why I know how old I was!
I would be as supportive as you can and like others have said already, go out together and get her the stuff she needs.
I think it’s great that she feels comfortable enough to talk to you about it.

Dd didn’t ask she just got on with it. I’ve no idea but certainly by 13 or so

When people are saying why does she has to ask, they mean why do you think you might not give her permission

This. When you say do you let them shave means it is your decision whether she shaves or not.

It is not my decision, dd’s body, dd’s choice. I always make sure the bathroom is stocked with shaving gel and many disposable razors, and they got on with it when they were ready.

They don’t need to ask. It’s only body hair and it’s personal choice. Safety razors mean it’s pretty impossible to cut themselves, an accidental nick maybe, but they managed fine. As did I- athough I had to steal my mums old razors as she wouldn’t “let” me until I was old enough to buy my own.

DD was interested from about the age of 9. She has very hairy legs and I explained how to do it and said she could use my razor whenever she wanted to. She doesn't usually bother though, and she's 12 now.

I don't think children need to ask permission to shave their own body hair.

My DD was 10 in May this year and before she went back to school in September she wanted to shave her legs. She had been self conscious for a while as her colour skin tone and hair colour don’t make it easy to disguise.
I got her the vet with the plastic remover. I applied the cream and showed her hot to use the tool to remove the hair. It lasted about 4/5 weeks until noticeable regrowth and she managed more independently second time around, she needs assistance applying and removing around the back of her legs.
I don’t think I would let her loose with a razor just yet but she is happy with this method at the moment

10. She asked me to buy her a razor. I did. Showed her how to use it and fingers crossed never a nick yet going on 2 yrs.

I was never allowed, and was bullied horribly for it.

Dd is 13 and uses veet. She might have asked age 12 but spent most of that year in lockdown so only came up last year. I waited for her to ask as buying her stuff felt like me putting society’s pressure on her.

I was 9.

DD has been incredibly lucky and didn't need to until she was 12. She thinks it's odd my hair grows back in days.

I bought mine a ladyshave for Xmas when they were about 11, I don't know how old they were when they started using it / shaving though
I was around 11 when I shaved mine. I didn't ask, I just swiped my dad's razor.
Which caused him to tear down the stairs with bits of loo roll stuck all over his chops as obviously I blunted it
Not a happy chappy 😳

waited for her to ask as buying her stuff felt like me putting society’s pressure on her

I didn’t buy her stuff particularly, we all use the same supply, including Dh and me, although I rarely shave. It’s just all in the bathroom for anyone to help themselves to.

Tell her not to do what I did, egged on by a particularly nasty friend who knew how to do it properly, and dry shave them.

The Venus razors with soap are great, but £'s.

I also see that Harry's do a brand called Flamingo (great name) for women.

I don’t get it when people say what age did you let….what do you mean? Why is this something that is even up to parents? When did this happen?

I never asked my parents permission to look after my own body.
Surly it should only be up to the person themselves. It’s personal hygiene, does she have to ask permission to trim pubes if she is under 18 too? Funny how no one ever asks that question though is it?

Yes I think let her. I was actually about 10 but I remember asking my mum and her saying it was fine but did I realise that once I’ve started it’ll grow back and be the start of shaving long term eg , seems silly but I appreciate her pointing out the obvious

I don’t think my older DD asked permission, I just bought the stuff for her and showed her what to do.

For those that bought electric shavers, can anyone recommend (an inexpensive) one please?

@onelastgoatthis my mum wouldn't 'let' me until I was 14 and I got made fun of during PE. Looking back I think she was a bit mean and controlling. It's your daughters body!

I always felt too embarrassed to ask my mum, who made it clear that she considered it unnecessary and silly (and naturally doesn't have any hair on her own legs...).
I felt so embarrassed at school, trying to hide my legs, and was teased by it. I stole my father's razor and badly cut my legs as I hadn't a clue what I was doing. And then had to hide that from my mum too.
I would have been so appreciative if my my mum had made it clear that I could talk to her about this, that it was my choice and not a big deal. If she is asking at 12, help her out. Buy her the stuff, show her what to do, make it clear that you support her whatever she chooses, and that she can always ask.
(My mum was like this about bras, eye-brow plucking, and deodorant too. It was awful).

I think I was 12. I definitely didn't ask. I just bought a razor and got on with it.

I wouldn't expect my DD to ask - she could either take a razor from the cupboard or ask me to buy a specific one on the next shop. But if she did, I'd just let her. Her body, her choice.

She doesn't need to ask permission. She should be taught that it's her body and that she has autonomy over whether she wants keg hair or not.

12y is definitely enough to decide. Dd was younger. She started puberty a fair bit earlier and her leg hairs became darker and more noticeable.

She didn't ask permission. She just asked me how and what she needed to do. I already had things in suitable for her ready for if and when she needed them.

I showed her and helped her the first couple of times, at her request.

I'm not sure about the age tbh. Probably 12ish but might have been 13? I let her start shaving as soon as she said she wanted to... it's her body. We did talk about it, we talked about not having to bow to social pressure etc, but ultimately I wasn't going to stop her from doing it if she really wanted to. I think you have to gradually start relinquishing control when they get to that age, and shaving legs is not a battle worth picking in my view.

to those asking why does she need to ask
....Surely a child does have to ask because they need someone over 18 to buy the razor.

Please help her and show her, I was too embarrassed to ask and cut all my shins, deep, so just help her, she will try anyway so best her being safe and shown properly.