@latte101
And when we've had parties to go to my DH and I have always split it. He or I will take DS and the other will look after DD. There was an occasion where he was away so I arranged childcare for DD so I could take DS to the party. It would just never cross my mind to ask.
Well I'm not sure you can have it both ways. If people can't drop their kids then some will
have to ask whether bringing siblings is as option.
- what about single parents who can't divide and conquer?
- what about families where one parent works at the time of the party, so the other one has all the kids then?
- what about families with more than two. If two kids have separate commitments then one parent is going to have to bring a smaller child
- what about mums that are still breastfeeding and / or can't leave their baby
There are thousands of reasons why a parent might need bring a sibling, many beyond their control.
It's a sign of great privilege on your side that you can't imagine what some of these might be. Can you really not imagine a circumstance where your eldest was invited to a party and you had no option but ask to bring the younger?
In any case, it's neither entitled nor cheeky for people to
ask if siblings can come. Just as you are totally entitled to say: "no there's no room", or even just "no".
You may find that some of those families then have to decline your invitation because they don't have childcare for the other one, but that's life.
(Kind if like people can have child-free weddings and people with children can decide not to go or that they can't make it)
When people turn up with siblings
without asking that is rude and entitled.