Why don't parents give their names on party replies

[Itistimeforquiche]

Just why be so guarded. Means I can't address anyone at the party ask about safety forms etc.

"It's dickhead mum. He's love to come to xxx party. Thanks. "

Why not say either

Hi I'm dickheqds mum, Dolly. He'd love to come. Thanks .

Or.

Hi It's dickhead mum. He's love to come to xxx party. Thanks, Dolly.

I suspect these people don't have simple social skills required for life.

I always give my name, but I couldn't care less if no one else does. Surely the only name that's important is the attending child (so you know who has confirmed).

I honestly dont understand

1. Why you think they are being guarded
2. What sort of safety forms do you need their name for?
3. Why you can't address them "hi" - why do you need their name?

Why do you keep calling the kids dickheads?

Who is dickhead? The child?

I wouldn’t care if parents didn’t give their names, the point is knowing the numbers for the party, surely. It’s pretty normal to describe yourself as “x’s mum”, although not “dickhead”. That’s weird.

Because you don’t need to know my name, you just need to know my child’s name.

@DigOlBick

Because you don’t need to know my name, you just need to know my child’s name.

Wtf?

I see the irony in you saying they don't have social skills for life, whilst referring to children as 'd*heads'

I always say If I don't know the mum already "hi, this is Anna, Max's mum"

Yanbu...otherwise you potentially spend years not knowing their name...although if I want to speak to a mum that I don't know the name of I usually just say "hi James mum, so sorry, I don't actually know your name"

Nb...names have been changed!

@bookish83

I see the irony in you saying they don't have social skills for life, whilst referring to children as 'd*heads'

Quite.

@DigOlBick

Because you don’t need to know my name, you just need to know my child’s name.

Why do you mind people knowing your name?

It's even worse when they actually phone and say "Hi, it's Gertrude's mum" and don't say their name!

@DigOlBick

Because you don’t need to know my name, you just need to know my child’s name.

. Wow! I didn't realise once we had children, we had to lose our entire identity?! Maybe you should change your name by deed poll to "Amys mum" or whatever your dcs name is!

I give my name but I notice that parents don’t always give theirs on invitations to rsvp to; maybe that’s the same ones who don’t give theirs on a reply

Assuming you consider yourself to "have the simple social skills required for life" I'm sure you can manage to introduce yourself!

Better to assume good will in your guests - they have realised the most important bit is giving the dc's name so you know who is coming. Also since they are actually RSVPing they are not the worst parents.

Calling your dc's friends dickheads is wierd.

The NHS has set a precedent for this. When you take your child for an appointment they always just address you as Mum. Schools etc do the same. They obviously have your name on file somewhere but they never use it.

You seem nice.

Why dickhead though?

Obviously if someone asked for my name I would give it but if I mm replying to an invite I just say yes x can attend. Wouldn’t occur to me to put my name.

I've never experienced this. Use of dickhead is strange, are you always like that? Maybe send invites on what's app - it will tell you people's names then.

At the party just introduce yourself and find out their name when you need to ask about safety forms or whatever? No big deal

I’m with @DigOlBick. I just reply saying x can attend / can’t attend. I’m not deliberately withholding my name, it just wouldn’t cross my mind to add it in.

I suspect these people don't have simple social skills required for life.

Skills such as asking someone their name when you meet them at your child’s party?

SausageRoll would love to come to X's party, thanks, BogRoll

It's not that hard.

They're probably the same kind of person that rings you and say's "it's me". I tend to reply "which me, I know lots of mes"

The trouble is they're not the worst. The Flip Flops are hard... we had one finally decide to come with 2 hours to go after accepting and cancelling.
We also had a Random Attendee turn up, brought by a different parent so we couldn't say or do anything other than go up and pay another £13 for Random Attendee to join in.
Strangely neither Flip Flop nor Random Attendee had ever hosted a substantial party or ar least invited DS to one

You lot are so uptight it's hilarious. I could well have said little Johnny.
Im not referring to anyone of my party guests as dickheads.

Will leave you all to your weird responses.

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Oh god I do this I didn't think it was such a big deal?

I just say "Hi it's MiniCleathStuarts Mum, just letting you know they will be going to XYZ's party thanks for inviting them!"

I'm not leaving my name out on purpose I would just assume that the other Mum is only interested in party numbers and couldn't care less about my name.

Also please don't refer to children as dickheads.

@MrsRobbieHart

I suspect these people don't have simple social skills required for life.

Skills such as asking someone their name when you meet them at your child’s party?

I always introduce myself. They say nothing back mostly. It's not my job to prompt them like they are 6. I might ask their child their name.

Seriously - I'd get fired for such rudeness. Is it my job to prompt them?

On the list of things I give a shit about, this would be very near the bottom.