Why don't parents give their names on party replies

[Itistimeforquiche]

Just why be so guarded. Means I can't address anyone at the party ask about safety forms etc.

"It's dickhead mum. He's love to come to xxx party. Thanks. "

Why not say either

Hi I'm dickheqds mum, Dolly. He'd love to come. Thanks .

Or.

Hi It's dickhead mum. He's love to come to xxx party. Thanks, Dolly.

I suspect these people don't have simple social skills required for life.

@PotteringAlong

I’m with *@DigOlBick*. I just reply saying x can attend / can’t attend. I’m not deliberately withholding my name, it just wouldn’t cross my mind to add it in.

I'd say here you don't need to give name.

Party with activity. Waiver form needed.

If there's an incident abs I have call parent I won't know who I'm asking for.

Not sure I care particularly. It's the kids I care about and look after.

@babouchette

On the list of things I give a shit about, this would be very near the bottom.

🤣

I would say say the first rule of Social Skills Club is not to call kids 'Dickheads'. Even on an anonymous forum. Or even to think it is crap.

Tbf dick head covers quite a lot of kids.

Usually the result of larger dick head parents

There is only one dick head here and its neither the children or the parents you are writing about.

Oh dear the op is getting a hard time on here...I'm sure she doesn't refer to the kids as dickheads on a day to day basis to the parents faces.

But putting that aside I absolutely agree with the op. And to those of you who don't tell people your name, just because you have a child, it doesn't mean you no longer have an identity...not is your name a state secret...stop being so precious

*nor

@Miniestelle

I would say say the first rule of Social Skills Club is not to call kids 'Dickheads'. Even on an anonymous forum. Or even to think it is crap.

Ah of course. Thanks for correcting me. Of course I was utterly wrong.

@Comedycook

Oh dear the op is getting a hard time on here...I'm sure she doesn't refer to the kids as dickheads on a day to day basis to the parents faces.

But putting that aside I absolutely agree with the op. And to those of you who don't tell people your name, just because you have a child, it doesn't mean you no longer have an identity...not is your name a state secret...stop being so precious

Thank you for getting the point of my post.

Tongue in cheek reference to kids in an anonymous way.

The comments on here are just amusing.

Sunday MN at its best. 😊

@Babybellblue

There is only one dick head here and its neither the children or the parents you are writing about.

Ah don't be hard on yourself babybluebelle.

It’s not really about being precious. It just wouldn’t occur to me put my name. I literally don’t give a fuck about other parents names so I wouldn’t think they would about mine!

I always introduce myself. They say nothing back mostly. It's not my job to prompt them like they are 6. I might ask their child their name.

“Hi Jonny, what’s mummy’s name?”

@Itistimeforquiche That actually made me laugh

Sunday MN at its best. 😊

Ahh come on now! You’re flattering yourself. This is nowhere near Sunday MN best. You need to try far harder for that.

It’s not something I’ve ever noticed, so either the parents of my children’s friends give their names, or I don’t give a shit what their names are. Not sure which!

I agree. I don't think I would assume someone has lack of social skills though OP.

I went to a party recently and I texted the mum my name and said its X mum... here. As I don't really know her so I wanted to kind of introduce myself but I don't think it's a big thing.

Having said that, I know most of the names of the parents anyway. It’s a pretty small town.

@DigOlBick

It’s not really about being precious. It just wouldn’t occur to me put my name. I literally don’t give a fuck about other parents names so I wouldn’t think they would about mine!

Quite awful really to think during social interaction you don't wish to know anyone's name purely because they have children and are therefore homogenous mass. Do you behave like that at work? Do you know your colleagues names?

*one homogenous mass

Just for ease of reference. How about just asking their name?
E.g hi, thanks for replying. So great David can come to the party. What’s your name? See you on Saturday!
Your name

I don’t really understand the drama….

@Comedycook that’s some major mental gymnastics you’ve done there

Have you ever had a children’s party before? I don’t have time to stand around chatting to people and I am able to talk to people without knowing their name.

It’s nothing like a professional environment where I need to address people.

I always give my name. But I received an invite this week for my DC with just a number to rsvp. Haven’t a clue what their name is.

My phone contact list is full of "Izzie Mum", "Harry Mum" etc. it makes it really hard when I want to call my own Mum.

Mumsnet is full of mothers who think their little darlings are so wonderful and gifted when in reality other people probably see them as op described in her post.
This thread has cheered me up

Blimey, I’ve probably done this.

The question I’ve been asked is can dickhead come to the party so that’s what I’ve answered. Probably. Wouldn’t cross my mind to be bothered but had I read this thread a long time ago, I probably would have changed my habit!