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Not wanting to fill my time with other people when dp is away, weird?

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Moomarre · 23/10/2021 09:09

DP is away for three nights. I have a couple of things I need to do with the kids (clubs/parties etc) but otherwise I was really looking forward to my time being my own. My mum has already popped round for a couple of hours yesterday afternoon and has suggested we get a takeaway tonight. I’ve had two friends ask if I want to meet up tomorrow ‘so I’m not on my own all weekend’. I bloody love being by myself 😆. Is that weird?

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belimoo · 23/10/2021 09:11

Nope, I'm exactly the same. I love time on my own and would definitely not be filling it with other people if dp went away.

mynameiscalypso · 23/10/2021 09:12

God no. My DH is away for a few days next week and the following week. I can't bloody wait. DS goes to bed at 7 and after that I'm going to revel in the peace and quiet and eat whatever I want and not have to talk to a single person.

orangejuicer · 23/10/2021 09:13

Not at all weird, take advantage of any opportunities you get

Leaveitonthefloordrobe · 23/10/2021 09:15

It's probably weird to some; I believe there are people innexistance who don't like their own company. To me, thats's weird! I'm with you, op. Even to the point of my day off each week (I work 4 days). Some friends who know I have a day off often ask if I want to do something but I usually say I'm busy with housework (which is mostly true). I just enjoy having the time to potter around on my own and enjoy the peace.

PerfectPuppy · 23/10/2021 09:15

No I love it too!! Actively avoid plans when I know my dh will be away as really enjoy my own company

AnnieJ1985 · 23/10/2021 09:17

Love being on my own for a few days. DH is heading off today for 2 nights, and the dogs and I are going to have a lovely time.

icedcoffees · 23/10/2021 09:20

You're totally normal - I absolutely love it too!

LawnFever · 23/10/2021 09:22

DH was away last weekend and I purposefully made no plans to anyone, it was lovely!

I had a potter round the shops (hate shopping with anyone else), coffee & cake in a coffee shop then hung around at home with the dog watching films & knitting - it was bliss!!

StCharlotte · 23/10/2021 09:24

I'm quite the extrovert but quite often have Saturdays to myself when DH goes to football his hobby. When he comes home the conversation goes thus:

DH: spoken to anyone today?
Me: Nope.
Both: IT WAS LOVELY!

ipswichwitch · 23/10/2021 09:25

I’m the same - I get to a point where I’m all peopled out and need to be by myself and not talk to folk. DH went away with work for a couple of nights last month and I had a lovely time! Got myself a Chinese takeaway once the kids were in bed, ignored my phone (apart from speaking with DH earlier) and watched whatever I wanted. Some people have a hard time with being alone in the house, I love it!

DartmoorChef · 23/10/2021 10:54

I love it when dp goes away fishing. Its bliss having the house to myself so I don't make any plans other than films to watch..

AbandonedCharacter · 23/10/2021 10:57

Definitely not weird. I love having a day to myself without any plans with people! I do know friends who are the opposite & don't even like going for coffee on their own - I find that weird.

mistermagpie · 23/10/2021 11:39

I think some people (possible people who are more extroverted than you or me OP) can't imagine why anyone would want to sit by themselves, in peace, in their own house of an evening. For me it sounds like bliss but DH is always suggesting I invite people over if he is going out or away, when I just want to lie about eating biscuits and watching my programmes on tv after the kids go to bed. Just do what you want to do!

OhWhyNot · 23/10/2021 11:52

I get this when ds is away with this dad (single parent)

No I don’t want to go out because I can stay out later, no o don’t need to go for a night of drinking wine, no I don’t feel lonely (why when surrounded by people are work all day)

I miss ds but enjoy my time alone some people really do need to be around others all the time I really don’t

furbabymama87 · 23/10/2021 11:57

I love alone time but only if it means I've got a break from the kids too ( which is rare).Then I'll just do housework, watch Netflix, read a book or whatever. I just enjoy the peace and the chance to collect my thoughts.

bert3400 · 23/10/2021 12:01

Nope my DH is away atm, I haven't seen a soul, it's been bloody lovely. We have a very busy house, lots of visitors constantly ( we live overseas) and I love my own company . The older I get the more I dislike people, especially when they are in my home.

WormYourHonour · 23/10/2021 12:05

I really.dont understand the necessity some people feel to fill their lives with people and activities.
But I am werod, I admit it, I've loved in my house 2 years now and had 0 visitors beyond tradesmen.
To me, my house, is my space, no one is welcome, all are an inconvenience..
Apart from my daughter obviously..

Oblomov21 · 23/10/2021 12:47

No. I adore it. I don't get it that often, so when I do I really appreciate it.

LovelyMondayMornings · 23/10/2021 13:18

I'm like you but my husband would have every last second filled with something to do.

I like being alone, if only he'd take the kids too

ApolloandDaphne · 23/10/2021 13:20

When my DH goes away it is just me, the dog plus the bed and TV all to myself. I LOVE it! I don't tell anyone he is going away so I can enjoy the peace and quiet.

Claudethecat · 23/10/2021 13:26

My DH is away for the weekend. Just me and the cats here. I have no plans to see anyone, it is total bliss.

mistermagpie · 23/10/2021 13:31

@WormYourHonour

I really.dont understand the necessity some people feel to fill their lives with people and activities. But I am werod, I admit it, I've loved in my house 2 years now and had 0 visitors beyond tradesmen. To me, my house, is my space, no one is welcome, all are an inconvenience.. Apart from my daughter obviously..

I'm exactly the same. We have family over a couple of times a year but that's for DH's benefit (they are his family) and is still more than I would like.

My DH's family are all obsessed with 'hosting' each other and having people o Ed all the time and I hate it. My home is my sanctuary and I don't want anyone outside my immediate family in it really!

Pheebs2021 · 23/10/2021 13:47

When my DH goes away I often don't tell anybody!

Threewheeler1 · 23/10/2021 13:52

Not even a tiny bit weird.
Provided the kids have gone too, you can eat what you want, do what you want, sleep when you want, hardly any washing & no cooking for everyone. Never struggle to fill my time under those circumstances!
Absolute bliss.

BogRollBOGOF · 23/10/2021 13:59

DH is away and it's lovely and relaxed. Not that he's an issue more that our energy levels aren't always well syncronised and it can be hard getting in gear around him. We'll be off swimming soon, that wouldn't happen on a regular weekend, and last night we went straight from the DC's sports club to the local supermarket where they were allowed to choose a ready meal of their choice (Chinese, Indian & Roast) which they thought was a marvellous treat, and I only had to satisfy myself rather than the usual compromise of cooking for 4.

Had a nice chatty morning helping at parkrun. I'm certainly not hiding from the world and like a mix of quiet time and social/ doing time.

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