Not wanting to fill my time with other people when dp is away, weird?

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DP is away for three nights. I have a couple of things I need to do with the kids (clubs/parties etc) but otherwise I was really looking forward to my time being my own. My mum has already popped round for a couple of hours yesterday afternoon and has suggested we get a takeaway tonight. I’ve had two friends ask if I want to meet up tomorrow ‘so I’m not on my own all weekend’. I bloody love being by myself 😆. Is that weird?

I'm an introvert, which is NOT the same as antisocial! I'm meeting friends today, having friends stay over tonight, and am also looking forward with great excitement to them all leaving, including my husband, to give me the afternoon alone tomorrow.

Bliss. Lots of lovely friends then the house to myself to recover.

I will never understand people who aren't comfortable with their own company.

My husband was away for 3 weeks recently for work. OMG, the peace and quiet. Amazing.
I had zero desire for any company and really enjoyed being in my own.

No Im the same as you. I had a friend years ago who only ever wanted to meet when her dh was away and then wanted to meet every few days, then I wouldnt see her for a few months. I got really annoyed when one time her dh went away and I was very busy so couldnt meet her when she wanted and she messaged me saying 'well when CAN we meet?' 🙄

You lucky thing! I can't remember the last time I was DH/DC free! That would be total bliss.

Dogs and I have had dinner and I'm watching trash telly while the wine cools. Finished my book and had a lie down mid afternoon. Two thirds of us are now conked out in front of the fire. Blissful

Definitely not weird. I love my time alone, in fact I love it so much I am planning to remain single. I love my family and friends, I love my time alone, can't fit a partner in!

Nope!

But more extroverted people either actually or claim to "not get it"

Dd and I are both naturally on the introvert side of things, not such a problem for me as I live alone and the people around me understand, dd is 20 and just started uni and while she is enjoying the social side she is also struggling with some taking offence when she says she needs to "decompress" for a few days and have time alone when not at uni or work (public facing role too which she finds mentally draining)

I've also spent last couple years alone at Xmas which a few people were a bit funny with me about, I love Xmas on my own! Can do what I like when I like and no other bugger to suit!

When I was married and dh was deployed I had people who didn't know me well - inc in laws - who worried I'd get lonely/bored especially of an evening and even then dh would be like "god no! She loves having peace and quiet to suit herself! She gets annoyed with me even being there when I first get back" which was true! Not because he was especially annoying there's just an adjustment period

I must admit with that experience less than a week is nothing to me! I had 6 months of peace at a time! I'd have the CO's wife giving it "remember just gimme a buzz if it gets too lonely we'll go for a wee coffee or a drink" and me thinking "aye right! I'm quite happy at home alone thanks"

Jeez no!

The advantage of 1 family meme et disappearing is it's 1 less personal to think for and more time for you!

Maybe suggest your mum has the kids overnight and has a takeaway with them?

You have your own, on your own