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Current life vs dream life...

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Neverhapppy · 22/10/2021 08:54

Without going into too much detail pf your current... (the basics) Can i ask what your current life is like vs your dream life?

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LeavesOffTheCactus · 22/10/2021 08:58

Current: work a lot, one child
Dream: DP and I are both part time (but still have enough to get by), more kids, dog

DDUW · 22/10/2021 09:02

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ParmigianoReggiano · 22/10/2021 09:06

Mine are pretty close actually. I don't have big dreams of fame and fortune or travelling the world. I just want a kind husband, happy kids, a nice house and a job I enjoy - and I'm lucky enough to have all those things Smile

DarlingFell · 22/10/2021 09:06

Current life is my dream life. We will TTC in January but if it doesn’t work, we will still be happy with each other and our gorgeous dogs 😊

themadcatparade · 22/10/2021 15:13

Current: wfh 3 days a week, 2 in office. Boring job, underlining manager. Have kids half the time at home. Constantly chasing time and trying to book time off work to get out more, requires constant planning. Usually too tired in evening midweek to leave house.

Dream: work part time doing something that's 100% flexible on my terms and feels like I'm making a difference to the world. The rest of my time have time to travel around the mountains during the day or for long weekends. More mental breathing space and more physically fit because of the mountain roaming.

ilovebagpuss · 22/10/2021 15:36

Actual - part time DH 2 DD’s live in nice house in a lovely area and can get by but no savings or anything except house equity.
Dream - not far off just a bit more wiggle room in finances for a lovely holiday a year and better cars less worry around money. Would like to leave job and seek a new one but with that cushion of money meaning there was no rush.

SpunBodgeSquarepants · 22/10/2021 16:20

Dream: married to a husband with a professional job, mortgage on a house with a garden, 2-3 children, set of mum friends
Current: single, renting a flat above a shop with universal credit, 2 children, no friends. My life is not where I thought it would be at 33 at all.

Nc123 · 22/10/2021 17:51

Dream: bigger house in nicer area, smaller mortgage, some savings, dog, working 3 days pw and all from home

Current: OK house which we are still refurbing but which we are rapidly outgrowing, savings all going to refurb, no dog, working 4 days pw and all from home.

I’m hoping to move house in the next 12 months and then I’ll be closer to what I want.

mamaduckbone · 22/10/2021 18:13

Current - full time work, stressful job, 2 children, Dh with MH issues that prevent him from working full time (or at all at present)
Dream - part time work in more creative job, 3 children, Dh who has a well-paid career, or even any career...hell - just a job and an ounce of self-belief would do.

BertieBotts · 22/10/2021 18:27

Current life

3 kids (13, 3, newborn) no pets
Live in medium sized flat in lovely area in Germany with DH and kids
Have a few friends
Can't drive
Speak reasonable German
Totally unsure whether to go back to work in a year or so
Haven't been back home in 2 years due to covid

Ideal life

Same DC, 2 cats, maybe a dog. Wish I was a bit more proactive at parenting the teenager.
Flat is fine but wish it was magically self cleaning :o or have a cleaner is perhaps more realistic.
If we had dog & cats, would prob be better as a house. DH would be happy with a house too. I worry with a house it would just be more of a tip because we suck at cleaning. I suppose ideally I would like a bit more space.
Would like to be able to drive.
Have my ADHD better controlled, maybe medication
See friends more regularly. I think Corona has got me out of the habit of socialising and I'm a bit lonely.
Speak/understand German without having to think about it or it being tiring.
Have a job where I can use my brain, or maybe study something.
Have the money to visit England whenever I want to, ideally a couple of times a year.

All of it is achievable really, I just need to be a bit more organised. Getting a decent job would boost our income and/or DH getting a better paid job. Actually it's a shame a lot of this comes down to money.

621CustardCream438 · 22/10/2021 18:43

Pretty close. I mean obviously in my dream life covid didn’t happen, I’d have the body of a model, no one in my family ever got sick, there was a cure for cancer and world peace broke out. But my realistic dream life looks a lot like my current one.

bobsholi · 22/10/2021 18:49

Current life: work in a shit job, earn shit money and live in an average house with tiny garden. Have 3 lovely DCs and a DH
Dream life: I'd live in a beautiful eco house with lots of land for crop growing and animals. Would love to home school my DCs.

LtGreggs · 22/10/2021 18:55

Current = teenage children, ok financially via running our own business which is a bit uncertain and hard work but is ours. Love where we live.
Dream = live in same area but house with more downstairs space & out buildings. Housekeeper and an excellent handyman available. Double the income with half the work. Have DH less anxious. I'll keep the children! Magically have some of my old friends and my sister live nearby, in addition to keeping my local friends.

Redyellowblue34 · 22/10/2021 18:58

Current- survived a really tricky time in my life. But feeling battle weary.

Dream - be able to actually feel it is going to be ok.

Puffykins · 22/10/2021 19:08

I'm sort of mid the dream. I have the job I always wanted - it's sometimes stressful and exhausting but I love it. We've got a house by the sea that we're renovating into exactly what we want - we don't have a kitchen or a bathroom currently but we will soon I hope. I always thought I'd have 4 DC - I've got 2 but that's sufficient. I'm much fatter than I am in my dream life but that's up to me to sort out/ change.

Cuntness · 22/10/2021 19:24

Current life - nice and happy, but not especially exciting.

Dream life - nice and happy, but not especially exciting but in a house with a sea view.

Samanabanana · 22/10/2021 19:49

Current: work full time, public sector salary
Dream: work part time, private sector salary (but stay in the public sector Grin)

Camomila · 22/10/2021 19:50

Current - Live with DH and 2DC, rented flat near DS1s school, nice but boring job.

Dream - Keep DH and have an extra DC, buy house with garden still near DS1s school, more interesting and better paid job.

SevenZebrasDancing · 22/10/2021 20:02

Ooh mine is close right now. But its taken 2 deacdes to get here (I am 48).

Current life- 1 lovely DH, 2 lovely Dcs. 1 DC is quite ill and I am always worried about him. But with the agreement of DH I am about to take a few years out of work so I can just take care of him, his brother and the home. DH is grateful I can take on the home load so it eases him and the work load. he is supportive and thinks I am getting the short end of the stick whereas I am thrilled that soon i will no longer be dragged into all directions. I think he is getting the short end because he will be still in corporate life and actually he loves it. So we each think we are lucky and support the other. We are financially okay but not awash with funds. Can go on holidays. I have nice friends and a lovely family.

Perfect life- I'd love to live somewhere very very rural. I'd love to be in the cold north and to spend loads of time outdoors. I'd like to do more baking, and have an allotment. I'd like fair isle sweaters to be a bigger part of my life.

Tanyaaah · 22/10/2021 20:07

Current : Work full time, 2 kids, separated. Feel too busy most of the time but have a house and nice job and friends and kids are mostly lovely.
Dream: work part time, have a committed partner, can afford lots of holidays...

carlysmily · 22/10/2021 20:07

This is so interesting. I really wonder if you can have it all. Nobody I know does. There's always something.

On the surface - I have a great, interesting job and own a lovely home in Cornwall. 2 lovely dcs, a dp who adores me. Plenty of friends, well, travelled and seem to land on my feet with opportunities for interesting things.

Dream - not being so bloody busy and frazzled, not constantly worrying about the dcs, xh pulling his weight so I can occasionally plan things for myself without it being a humongous ballache, more time to rest, travel and actually see the friends I've got.

Hodgehog · 22/10/2021 20:08

Weeeeelll In my dream life I am rich …

I guess in my dream life id not have had MH issues and would have pursued my dream career of research.

However I’ve not done too bad as I have a job which affords me a decent standard of living etc etc. No husband and no kids - which I’m not unhappy about either.

XenoBitch · 22/10/2021 20:10

Current - unable to work, single, precarious housing, broke
Dream - with a partner, and working in a decent job, good mental health

girlmum02 · 22/10/2021 20:17

Actual life- STAHM currently pregnant with baby 2. Partner works and living somewhere pretty crappy.

Dream life- Own my own business, partner work part time so we have more family time. Also moved out of our current home and into a nice one with more garden space for the kids, plus a dog would be nice 😊

PositiveLife · 22/10/2021 20:18

Current: single parent, 2 kids, work full-time, mortgage is affordable - small house but plenty of character, partner who I don't live with.

Dream: I'd love to win enough money to live in the country and not have to work. There's so many things I'd love to spend my time doing. Sometimes I think about contracting and earning enough to take big (3 month +) gaps between contracts to really have time to do a lot of the stuff I want to.

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