AIBU about DPD driver

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Today I went to put my 14mo down for lunchtime nap. Recently we've had a lot of Amazon delivery drivers knocking really loudly, and I was expecting a delivery around lunchtime, so I pinned a polite note on the door of our apartment saying "baby sleeping, please knock quietly".

Just as I was just putting baby into cot I heard a knocking. It progressively got louder and louder. The baby started crying and so I started trying to calm her back to sleeping. The knocking kept getting louder. There were multiple knocks then a pause, then another knock and so on.

I was really annoyed because I'd specifically pinned the sign up and now my baby was upset and I was going to have to work hard to get her down again.

I went out to the door to see who it was but before opening the door I peeped through the peep hole to check. I saw the driver from DPD, and saw that he was looking right at the note. Then I saw him read the note and very obviously roll his eyes and huff, and then knock pointedly and extremely loudly and slowly about ten times! Because he didn't know I could see him, I couldn't believe how horrible and deliberately nasty he was being! I wasn't sure whether to open the door as he seemed v passive aggressive. I also wasn't sure why he was still knocking anyway as we have a post room in the building where he could have just left the parcel if the person doesn't answer. Anyway, he then knocked again, but this time before doing so, he fished his massive tablet out of his delivery bag and banged on the door with the corner of it, really bloody loudly! His face was making a sort of "f*#% you" expression. It was so loud the whole corridor must have heard it.

I was so angry, by this time my baby had started crying again. I opened the door and had a go at him. I wasn't rude and I didn't swear but I was as angry as I've felt in years! I was seething and I think it was the mumma bear in me! I said "you are so completely out of line, I know you've read the sign etc". He started saying he needed a photo of the parcel by the door and I interrupted him and told him he'd had plenty of time to take it all the times he was knocking! He then took a photo of my face, and I shut the door on him.

I had to go and look after my baby but I was really fuming!

I'm thinking of complaining to DPD. Would you or should I just forget it? I think he must have knocked at least 10 separate times, each time getting louder until the tablet bashing.

@CalamityJaneway

Some poor guy?? Give me a break. Knock once, no answer, leave a note, move on. But ohhh no. He saw an opportunity to make a woman's life difficult because he's contrary and misogynist, has clearly never dealt with a newborn and is completely self absorbed. Screw that guy, completely justified response. Not to mention that bashed her door in with the corner of a tablet - what in the heck we`re just OK with tha?

Really?

The poor guy just wanted to deliver a parcel as soon as possible.

@RosencrantzandGuildenstern

He was literally just trying to deliver a parcel.

He didn't need to be a nasty piece of work though did he.

Please 😂😂😂

No reason to think that he consciously tried to intimidate a woman and make her life harder like some others up the thread have said. He had no idea if OP was a woman or a man, all he knew is that they had a small baby who was sleeping, or trying to.

It's very frustrating when you are trying to settle a baby and something keeps them awake, but tbh OP I would have ran downstairs straight away to make the noise stop as soon as possible, rather than waiting and hoping it did.

I know our DPD delivery person always takes a pictures of the parcel when I answer and I don't think they will leave parcels anywhere unless you update your delivery preferences or they have your written permission to do so?

Also, if you've ordered from Amazon, did you not get a 'your parcel is 8 stops away and will be delivered approx X time' notification?

I don't really get why you didn't shoot down the stairs after the first knock and answer the door? I'd never let someone knock that much if I was trying to get a baby to sleep. I'd answer as quickly as possible to get the whole thing over with.

You should have said in your note to leave the parcel out on the door step so that he wouldn't knock at all. Because you didn't answer when he first knocked, I guess he didn't know if you'd heard which is why he kept knocking louder despite the sign.

What utterly strange behaviour.

Agree @ZeroFuchsGiven it was really strange behaviour from the delivery guy who did exactly the opposite of what was politely asked of him.

@InTheLabyrinth

Youd told him you were in because there was a sleeping baby. You didnt respond when he knocked initially (and maybe gently). Then you didnt respond when he knocked a bit harder, then you watched him knock harder and harder trying to attract your attention. He was being an arse knocking that hard, but if you'd opened the door as soon as he arrived, you could have saved yourself quite a lot of grief, and minimised the disruption to your child.

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Yabu right now they have to take a photo with your door open to prove delivery, you didn’t answer the door but prioritised what you were doing

The app alerts you to where the driver is an always lets me know when I’m next, perhaps try using it next time?

These poor guys have anywhere up to 150 deliveries to do in a day so ignoring him was pretty selfish, had you used the app you could have delayed putting your baby down and creating this situation

He’s an arse - he knew exactly what he was doing. Most normal delivery drivers with their many deliveries each day knock a couple of times and if you don’t answer then they move onto the next one - they don’t stand knocking for ages with their hand and a tablet ffs. Idiot man.

DPD always leave the parcel they are famous for leaving parcels on doorsteps particularly my fucking laptop with HP written all over it on my doorstep right by my concealed porch that he can walk right into and put my parcel in its also my designated safe space

She literally has a post room he could have left it in

He was a twat

He knocked, you didn’t answer so he knocked louder. You stood and watched him while getting worked up but it’s his fault?

Fwiw I work nights, I’ve got a sign outside saying please do not disturb, leave parcels in safe place.

So .. you ordered something, heard him knock but then decided not to answer to see if he went away ?

Would you be complaining if he took the parcel back to the depot with him as presumably if you ordered via Amazon there won’t have been specific instructions ?

If you are worried about deliveries waking your baby might I suggest you don’t get deliveries there ?

Maybe its because you took so long to answer , do you know how many parcels they have to deliver a day , they don't have time to wait

Read g your updates why not just put on note please leave outside as baby is sleeping?? But anyone can knock on the door without warning , a neighbour , a salesmen etc etc ,

@Theunamedcat maybe he had instructions he had to get a photo ? Maybe they had issues with parcels at thos address before or street or driver
You order a parcel they knock if you don't answer of course they will knock louder again
And you can track it and have a rough time , plus why didn't OP put please leave in the post room ( but realising when doing this if it goes missing thats on you )

YABVU - he has a job to deliver the parcel and you took ages to answer the door. Not his problem if you have a baby sleeping, perhaps you can organise alternative delivery arrangements if you're going to be so precious about it.

Wow, some really unpleasant comments on this thread!