Help me assertive...hotel

[Yummypumpkin]

I'm staying in a hotel alone.

It's generally OK, though I've paid over the odds for it.

The issue is every morning at breakfast the lady asks if I'd like my room serviced.

I would. I'd like the bin emptied, towels folded, tea and coffee topped up, the odd surface wiped, more toilet roll.

So I say yes.

She then stares at me until I say no.

I want to get my room serviced but I really struggle with assertiveness. I don't know if she is the owner or staff. There is never anyone on reception.

I don't want to go through the same thing tomorrow.

How would you handle this? I know it sounds basic but her start is very hard and when I've heard her ask other guests they too have said yes please then no it is fine!!

@IntermittentParps

I think they've put her in a shallow grave... (joke BTW)

Nah I reckon she’s leading the rest of the guests in a rousing rendition of “do you hear the people sing” from Les Mis while waving their dirty pillow cases as make shift flags

Nah I reckon she’s leading the rest of the guests in a rousing rendition of “do you hear the people sing” from Les Mis while waving their dirty pillow cases as make shift flags
Yes, that's it

@FrankGrillosFloof

Ah, you’re in the Highlands… it all makes sense now. You can’t win, OP - just enjoy your 22 coffees and count them as a small victory in an unwinnable battle of wills.

The OP has been talked into doing the servicing of the rooms for the other guests... she is cleaning toilets and changing sheets as we speak.

The OP is currently buried in a mountain of coffee sachets, miniature milk cartons and individual tea bags

DO YOU HEAR THE PEOPLE SING
SINGING THE SONG OF ANGRY GUESTS
IT IS THE MUSIC OF A PEOPLE WHO WANT SERVICE
EVEN IF STAFF WILL THINK THEY'RE PESTS

Maybe she's been frozen by the death stare?

@ChateauMargaux

The OP has been talked into doing the servicing of the rooms for the other guests... she is cleaning toilets and changing sheets as we speak.

Actually, that's funny not funny…

Please update us, op!!!!

She asks if you want your room servicing, you say yes then she just looks at you?
There are so many things you can say or do at that point.
A couple -

do nothing. Just browse your phone or something.

Wait a moment then ask "was there anything else you wanted to ask?"

"Well, I won't keep you, I'm sure you're busy."

Etc.

@IntermittentParps

I think they've put her in a shallow grave... (joke BTW)

That was my first thought- death stare woman did literally that when OP didn't give in and say no!

OP did they stop you using the plug sockets altogether so you have no phone battery? Come on we need an update...!!

Oh Christ where is she?!??!

Say yes please and walk away, what a strange woman

@Yummypumpkin

This is helping. I thought people might say I was being a bit princessy wanting it serviced. But at £100 a night for a single room, I do want that little luxury!

These tips will help, especially breaking eye contact.

I wouldn't mind but everyday someone comes into the room and turns my heater and laptop charger off, meaning I have a cold room to come to every evening!

Wtf

@Clandestin

DO YOU HEAR THE PEOPLE SING SINGING THE SONG OF ANGRY GUESTS IT IS THE MUSIC OF A PEOPLE WHO WANT SERVICE EVEN IF STAFF WILL THINK THEY'RE PESTS

WHEN THE BEATING OF YOUR HEART ECHOES THE BEATING ON THE DOOR SHE STARES YOU DOWN, CAN’T SHE COME IN AND CLEAN YOUR FLOOR

Where are you OP?

On no everyone! I'm so sorry...my update I posted this morning didn't post and I've been hiking all day.

The conclusion was very undramatic. She asked me and I said "yes I do actually" and looked away.

And she said "you do. That's fine."

I am of course wondering what other areas of my life I can apply this new found power to! It felt quite thrilling!!!

Sorry for the delay...nothing untoward happened!

But... Has it been serviced?!

@Bumpinthenight hahaha....Good point! Oh my God maybe she did agree too easily!!!! I won't be back for about an hour......now I am wondering

@ShirleyPhallus, we are the Boublil (sp?) and Schoenberg of musicals about assertiveness and having your room serviced.

[quote Clandestin]@ShirleyPhallus, we are the Boublil (sp?) and Schoenberg of musicals about assertiveness and having your room serviced.[/quote]
It’s a pretty niche point in the Venn diagram

It has been serviced. And they've upgraded my biscuits from digestive to fruited shortcake!!! Thank you Mumsnet.

@Yummypumpkin

It has been serviced. And they've upgraded my biscuits from digestive to fruited shortcake!!! Thank you Mumsnet.

Fruit shortcake - double yay!! 😋 Great job OP, and great result.

Maybe it was a test... if you say yes again tomorrow you might get some tunnocks tea cakes... though fruit shortcake sound yum!!