Why does this happen when you go shopping?

[TomAllenWife]

DP gave me money this morning to 'buy yourself something nice'
Off I tripped into town and nothing
I wanted a nice dress for an event next weekend and some autumn / winter clothes

Maybe it's because you went looking! When I'm on a mission to buy something I never see anything I like. I have to stealth shop.

Yes exactly! If I go in skint there's lots I like

I think when you have actual cash to buy something you become more picky.
It becomes real shopping

I'm more confused that your husband gave you money to 'buy yourself something nice'.

Why are you confused?

@ShrikeAttack

I'm more confused that your husband gave you money to 'buy yourself something nice'.

I also don't see what the issue is here. My husband has often given me money to buy myself something. He used to earn a lot more than me. Now the roles are reversed and I always pick him up bits when I'm out shopping.

@TomAllenWife

Why are you confused?

The way you've phrased I does make it sound like you've come from the 1970s

I agree, it's odd. You're married so all his money is yours and vice versa anyway.

Oh, partner not husband. But still. It's odd, and old fashioned.

If I have a good idea of something I want, e.g. a pair of grey trousers, I can guarantee nowhere will have any.

Fgs leave the OP alone.

OP I know exactly what you mean!! This always happens to me and it’s very frustrating.

@Whitechocpizza

I think when you have actual cash to buy something you become more picky. It becomes real shopping

Nail. On. Head.

I have a big John Lewis wish list but when I actually had money to spend in JL (returned birthday presents) I really struggled.

@ShrikeAttack

I'm more confused that your husband gave you money to 'buy yourself something nice'.

I don't find that odd. My husband gets an annual bonus from work and I don't so he gives me a proportion of that to spend on something I want for myself.

We have a joint account but both have our 'own money' too.

@Perfect28

I agree, it's odd. You're married so all his money is yours and vice versa anyway.

I’m married and all our money is certainly not piled together, we each pay in to a bills account and then keep the rest for ourselves. That way we can buy each other stuff and get things for ourselves without feeling guilty

@ShrikeAttack

I'm more confused that your husband gave you money to 'buy yourself something nice'.

Gifts confuse you?

This happens to me when I get given giftcards. I open them and think "ooh, I can treat myself" then end up not being able to choose anything.

@Perfect28

Oh, partner not husband. But still. It's odd, and old fashioned.

What is confusing about a present of cash?

Wow people on mn are so weird! She said partner not husband so perhaps they don’t share money!

Me and DH share all our money and when we get paid, we also take exactly the same amount of 'personal money', to spend on whatever we want.

DH has often given his money to me in the past and told me to treat myself, just as I have to him

What a strange thread this has become

Anyway thank you to those who know what I meant!
Some of the stores today were like jumble sales!
I miss warehouse, oasis, coast, Debenhams

Stradivarius, Quiz, Zara etc were all hideous. Quiz was like a haven for clothes to lap dance in

I understand your thread and think it's lovely that your OH wanted you to spend some money on yourself - why does everything get turned into a political or sexist debate these days?
I do agree about the lack of the good shops though - I miss Warehouse particularly.

What’s odd about partner giving money? I’m a stay at home mum so all the money comes from DP. He gives me a set amount each week to easily cover shopping, bills, etc. But I can have more if needed. He has often given me money for clothing items as he isn’t confident in buying me clothes himself as sizing can vary between stores and I may want a specific item.

@ShrikeAttack

I'm more confused that your husband gave you money to 'buy yourself something nice'.

Oh dear God, you have made yourself look really silly I agree with you OP, I can never find anything I like when I look for something It's sods law

Gosh live and let live people.

Agree OP, happens to me every single time without fail. When I had very little disposable income I would see a million things I wanted and would use credit cards etc. Now I've actually got the funds to treat myself and zero debt, I see very little and, when I do, I am still reluctant to spend out. No logic!

Has Warehouse gone?!