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Do some mothers become poisonous when they get old?

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Jellypot · 03/10/2021 14:19

I don't usually get offended easily but there was an incident at home recently.

I live at home. In recent years I fell in love with making homemade soups. It's often inexpensive, tasty, nutritious, filling and there's enough soup for a few days. I love looking for different soup recipes. It's so easy too. Typically it's cooking some veg in a pot, adding a liquid stock and blending it all up. It's so easy.

I live at home with my mother and there was a cooking show on TV and the cook was making a homemade courgette soup. It looked interesting. I never would have thought about using courgette in a soup and it definitely peaked my interest in the show. My mother sat watching the cooking show criticising his soup and criticising homemade soup in general saying something like
'who in their right mind would go to all the bother of making a homemade soup...theres too much trouble in it....when all you can do is buy a packet or can of soup.' So she said what she wanted to say and then the worst part was she said it again and then turned her words around to say it again in a different way. She knows I love making homemade soups and all she did was criticise the making of homemade soups. The issue was she became so vocal about something so minor. It's a soup on TV. I felt to some degree she was trying to critise me and my liking towards making soups. There was definitely something there in her at that time and I saw it in her face. Her face was bitter. It was horrible.

It was later that night when I became disappointed because I just let it slide when I should I have answered her back and said something like - 'what is the point of watching cooking shows if your not going to make anything from them.'

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gamerchick · 03/10/2021 16:37

Ah - should have guessed - my shit oh meter was off whack!

It's not often I think 'nope' and back away slowly from a thread. You remember the username.

I do like home made soup though. It's given me the urge to make some cabbage soup for tea Grin

Mariell · 03/10/2021 16:37

There comes a time when no matter how much you love your mother or your daughter, sharing a kitchen gets on your nerves.

I experienced this as a young woman when I moved back home for six months and clashed with my mum in her kitchen.

Then decades later my adult daughter would clash with me in my kitchen!

Kitchens can become very territorial places!

Tellmewhat · 03/10/2021 16:40

Yes I wondered if it was about sharing a kitchen. If I stayed with my mother, she would hate me to be making soup/s. In fact I know she wouldn’t let me as chopping and using pots and pans etc would stress her out!

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lifecoachingandotherbollocks · 03/10/2021 16:40

Is there more to this than soup? Can you move out?

MichelleScarn · 03/10/2021 16:45

@gamerchick

Ah - should have guessed - my shit oh meter was off whack!

It's not often I think 'nope' and back away slowly from a thread. You remember the username.

I do like home made soup though. It's given me the urge to make some cabbage soup for tea Grin

Ooo yes gamer one of those earlier threads had to do a brain scrub!
TheYearOfSmallThings · 03/10/2021 16:47

It's given me the urge to make some cabbage soup for tea Grin

I've got soup on the brain too now, but I'm leaning towards a lentil dhal soup which will use up the last bit of coconut cream

CoronaPeroni · 03/10/2021 16:51

Anyone else can't get Julie Walters out of their head? 'Two soups?'

Andante57 · 03/10/2021 16:55

It is difficult. With my mother she seemed to lose her empathy around age 65 ish (trying to think of when) then she developed Alzheimer's disease which took the filter right off. Horrible things said. I didn't live there luckily but times together pre diagnosis were hard*

Flibberty that’s exactly what happened with my mother. From being the most lovely, easy going person she became rude and difficult, and as you say, her empathy vanished. We didn’t realise at the time but she was in the early stages of dementia.

bg21 · 03/10/2021 17:00

not meaning to sound rude but maybe ease up on the soups and go and get yourself laid ? lol

gamerchick · 03/10/2021 17:02

@TheYearOfSmallThings

It's given me the urge to make some cabbage soup for tea Grin

I've got soup on the brain too now, but I'm leaning towards a lentil dhal soup which will use up the last bit of coconut cream

That definitely sounds better than cabbage Grin
FlibbertyGiblets · 03/10/2021 17:11

@Andante57

It is difficult. With my mother she seemed to lose her empathy around age 65 ish (trying to think of when) then she developed Alzheimer's disease which took the filter right off. Horrible things said. I didn't live there luckily but times together pre diagnosis were hard*

Flibberty that’s exactly what happened with my mother. From being the most lovely, easy going person she became rude and difficult, and as you say, her empathy vanished. We didn’t realise at the time but she was in the early stages of dementia.

Andante I hope you are okay. Mine died this summer, dreadful disease.
QueeniesCroft · 03/10/2021 17:14

Perhaps she was a bit panicked by the thought of courgette soup- I would be!

Andante57 · 03/10/2021 17:42

Andante I hope you are okay

Thank you Flibberty. My mother died a few years ago now after several years of this terrible disease.
It’s tragic seeing the decline and obviously I don’t know what was going on in her head during this time but she used to cry and moan so I don’t think she was in a good place.

FlibbertyGiblets · 03/10/2021 18:11

[gentle arm squeeze]

PickUpAPepper · 03/10/2021 18:31

It's difficult to answer the question in the op without knowing the context. Was this a one-off? Does she usually slag off anything you are interested in when you are interested in? Or is it because being a mother is bloody hard in Britain and not getting any easier, or a comment on economics in Britain not working? Could be anything.

Patapouf · 03/10/2021 18:42

How old are you OP? Is there a reason you have to live with your mum?

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