Your most WTF mansplaining experiences

Sundancerintherain · 2021-10-02T07:23:15+00:00

Inspired by a thread in AIBU, which is the most WTF mansplaining I've heard of so far in my long life . Mine was having pregnancy sickness explained to me by a 17 year old male kitchen apprentice whilst I was throwing up in the staff loo with my 2nd pregnancy. Oh and I work in healthcare. It was all in my head , all I had to do was TELL myself I was fine & my borderline hyperemesis would magically disappear 🙄

alloalloallo · 02/10/2021 09:17

We had a bbq back in the summer, invited some friends and DH invited a friend that he knew through his business. I don’t know him very well.

It was basically just 4 hours of him explaining stuff at us.

My DD has Tourette’s, he knew some superficial facts and seemed to be on a mission to educate me on my own daughter’s condition, that we have been living with for several years. Every time I corrected him about something, he would argue with me. E.g, he kept telling me that DD’s verbal tics was her subconscious talking, when I explained that it wasn’t the case, he argued with me because he’d “read it somewhere”.

He then discovered we had horses and explained the dangers of ragwort on horses - he doesn’t have horses, never ridden or had anything to do with them, ever

Asked me where I worked then explained the company I work for to me

He was quite socially awkward so, giving him the benefit of the doubt, I think he was nervous and trying to make conversation but it was such hard work

QueenofLouisiana · 02/10/2021 09:22

Recently, my DFather explaining the government’s policy on Covid and the impact on us all.

He lives in Australia and has done so for nearly 30 years.

WheelieBinPrincess · 02/10/2021 09:46

Knowing the wife of my male friend had a really long and difficult labour, and my friend telling me (I was pregnant at the time) that all I needed to do to avoid the same myself was to get control of my breathing and this would in turn manage the pain. Unfortunately you see his wife had not managed her breathing correctly, despite him attempting to coach her through it, and thus ended up with a 50 hour labour.

Shoefleur · 02/10/2021 09:53

Telling me how it will feel when I go into labour (41 weeks pregnant with my second baby so not a complete novice). Apparently I’ll know exactly when it’s going to happen for several days ahead of the event. He knew all this better than me because his sister once had a baby.

gardeninggirl68 · 02/10/2021 09:56

'Mansplaining' is a horrible term....just like 'Karen'

waybill · 02/10/2021 09:59

No, 'mansplaining' is nothing like the K word. It is not a direct insult upon an individual.

OneRingToRuleThemAll · 02/10/2021 10:00

I saw on Facebook this morning a man offering advice to Emma Raducanu who has been chosen to join another tennis event.

'Act like you didn't win the US open, don't get complacent, treat each tournament as if it is a new experience'.

The bloke looks like he's never held a tennis racket.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 02/10/2021 10:00

At university I taught a male friend how to cook. Nothing complicated, just the basic adding a jar of sauce to meat or boiling an egg, or washing up sort of thing (yep his mum had done everything at home!). Within a few weeks he was trying to explain it to me...

(Although the worst mansplainer I know... is actually my 8yo DD.)

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 02/10/2021 10:00

Being told by now ex (thank god) brother in law that I should eat the skin on my jacket potato as that's where all the goodness is.

He also told me not to be sacred about taking my baby to an evening meal in a restaurant. I wasn't. I just didn't want to take her as it wasn't likely that be a pleasant experience for my baby, me or people at surrounding tables. The baby will just sleep. Says the man who has never changed a nappy or put a child to bed in his life despite having 3 children.

BlameItOnTheBlackStar · 02/10/2021 10:04

@OneRingToRuleThemAll

I saw on Facebook this morning a man offering advice to Emma Raducanu who has been chosen to join another tennis event.

'Act like you didn't win the US open, don't get complacent, treat each tournament as if it is a new experience'.

The bloke looks like he's never held a tennis racket.

Brilliant advice - don't use any of your actual wisdom and experience.

Fuckwit.

FTEngineerM · 02/10/2021 10:05

Studying for a fluid mechanics exam on my
lunch break at work.. with a calculator on my desk.

Male colleague comes over to ask for help with work thing, sees calculator and practice exam paper.. “I thought you were good at maths, why do you need a calculator then”

👀

egglette · 02/10/2021 10:13

Some friends moved to the area in lockdown and asked us to take them on some walks to show them around. All of it was new to them - they'd never explored the area before.

We met up again a few weeks ago and I suggested we redo one of the usual walks from before, and led the the way. After a little while the husband started piping up with directions to me before each turn, which I thought was to show off his newly acquired local knowledge. At the end he said with absolutely no hint of irony: "That's one of our favourite walks we discovered - glad we could show you it". On its own might sound like an odd one off but it is very much him - he's a lovely guy but I think he's somehow stuck in the mode of having to be an authority on everything. Runs a business and I think it's hard to switch off from that persona.

RHOShitVille · 02/10/2021 10:21

I love this story .. I was explaining mansplaining to DD and DH talked over me to explain it.

To be fair when I asked him if he just mansplained mansplaining he owned it and shut up sharpish.

VladmirsPoutine · 02/10/2021 10:34

I saw the best twitter exchange in which a man was trying to explain the central thesis of a book to a woman who having had enough told him she probably understands the central thesis slightly more than he does given she wrote it.

StCharlotte · 02/10/2021 11:23

Every time I reverse park DH says "that's it just straighten up now."

Annoying enough but he doesn't even drive.

StCharlotte · 02/10/2021 11:24

@RHOShitVille

I love this story .. I was explaining mansplaining to DD and DH talked over me to explain it.

To be fair when I asked him if he just mansplained mansplaining he owned it and shut up sharpish.

loafcake · 02/10/2021 11:51

@JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn

Being told by now ex (thank god) brother in law that I should eat the skin on my jacket potato as that's where all the goodness is.

He also told me not to be sacred about taking my baby to an evening meal in a restaurant. I wasn't. I just didn't want to take her as it wasn't likely that be a pleasant experience for my baby, me or people at surrounding tables. The baby will just sleep. Says the man who has never changed a nappy or put a child to bed in his life despite having 3 children.

I thought that potato one is real! I never peel a potato unless it's absolutely necessary 😂

That second one though 🙄🙄

EnjoyingTheSilence · 02/10/2021 11:59

For some reason the term mansplaining really winds my dh up. Can’t imagine why 😊

DrWhoNowww · 02/10/2021 11:59

The most recent and outstanding one to me is the police commissioner who explained women should be more streetwise and knowledgeable of the legal process to ensure they didn’t get falsely arrested, raped and then killed.

Maybe, just maybe, he should have shut up and listened to the women telling him what they need to feel safe.

GiovanniBitMe · 02/10/2021 13:10

@VladmirsPoutine

I saw the best twitter exchange in which a man was trying to explain the central thesis of a book to a woman who having had enough told him she probably understands the central thesis slightly more than he does given she wrote it.

There's another one I've seen of a man challenging a woman about a computer game "I bet you haven't even played it etc etc".... she wrote it. And told him the ending

Soubriquet · 02/10/2021 13:19

Where do mansplainers get their water from?

A well actually.

Some men are a bit full of themselves thinking they know better than us simple women

Soubriquet · 02/10/2021 13:20

I remember reading about a man who corrected a gynaecologist when she said vulva.

He kept telling her “actually, it’s vagina”

When he got corrected several times, he then came out with “well most people call it vagina anyway”

Splann · 02/10/2021 13:31

My Dad recently mansplained Facebook to me. I run a business which uses fb to get a large amount of our sales. I would say I understand how it works pretty well. He on the other hand has never used Facebook. Never clicked on it (according to him) got an account or used it in any way shape or form. But apparently he knows how it all works including all the perils and pitfalls 🤷‍♀️

I love him very much but fucking hell the man can mansplain!

Bullsh · 02/10/2021 13:46

I have the news explained to me, my self-employment explained to me, how to peel an apple explained to me...

FuckingFabulous · 02/10/2021 13:56

I have had so many. Top three are probably these-

When my BiL told me that vaginal stitches are actually not as painful as people think because there are less nerve endings internally than externally. He chose to tell me this when I was sitting on an ice pad with about 60 stitches in MY vagina after birthing a 10lb baby.

When my husband told me that my system for doing laundry wasn't working as well as it should. There was a lengthy explanation about which items should be seen as essential and which setting to wash them on. From a bloke who has next to never used the machine. I told him he could take over. He got as far as buying unnecessary laundry bags and avoiding it like mad because he didn't know what the fuck to do.

When the postman told me that if I wanted to keep my hair healthy, I'd have to brush it daily.