As a female do you have the courage to walk alone in the dark?

[Vaccine001]

I have done so but rarely. It has always terrified me. What if i akways think to myself..

Do dogs make you feel safer?

I should take a leaf out of your book to be honest @Ifyoudontlikeitdosomethingelse!!

@Vaccine001

Do dogs make you feel safer?

Not from Covid. (Although apparently dogs can sniff it out).

@Vaccine001

Do dogs make you feel safer?

Yes he does make me feel safer. He would attack anyone who went for me. He's an excellent gaurd dog.

I still went for night time walks before having him though. Especially during lockdowns when night time felt so peaceful and freeing.

I say he would attack... I don't actually know for sure! 😂

I'm wondering at the posters who mention they think they're unattractive. Attractiveness isn't an issue, it's female-ness that's the issue. Men who terrorise women want to terrorise women. They're not measuring their attractiveness - it doesn't come into it.

137 Covid deaths yesterday.

People caught it just going about their daily lives - work, shops, etc.

We need to take precautions in our lives, yes, but we need to have perspective wrt risks.

Tealights there maube a small chance if attack but after my attemotrd rape and then later on a mugging i do not feel safe. Also my current life circumstances would make me vulnerable. I think i know what you're getting at. Maybe nothing has ever happened to you?

@urbanbuddha

I'm wondering at the posters who mention they think they're unattractive. Attractiveness isn't an issue, it's female-ness that's the issue. Men who terrorise women want to terrorise women. They're not measuring their attractiveness - it doesn't come into it.

I don't agree. Not fully anyway. I think it's a factor.

I walk alone at night wherever I need to go.

I have done this always. I am female and I will not stop doing this. Nor will I teach my daughters to be afraid of the dark.

I make my risk assessments based on the likelihood of danger.

I understand why you have your fears. I really hope you find a way of managing your concerns. I think you mentioned therapy? Look into self defence classes too. It can really boost confidence.

The fact remains that we are far more at risk from Covid than being attacked by a stranger. Yet there is less concern about that danger. Or are you all staying in and keeping your children off school?

I need phase 2 of therapy. Different issues now. Ill be ok.

Look into the Israeli self defence classes. It's meant to be one of the best in the world.

I hope the stage 2 therapy helps too.

@Ifyoudontlikeitdosomethingelse

I think that age - and therefore vulnerability - might play some part. The younger the victim the more likely they are to be people-pleasers and less likely to sound off and kick up a fuss. But it's women in general who need punishing and degrading as far as these tossers are concerned. And any woman is fair game.

I walk mile and half home every night at midnight up hill with no lights sadly for me it called life, I don't wear headphones and I walk in middle of road as more chance seeing someone coming towards me than on narrow path
I do same walk at 4/5am some mornings

I’m not sure I want to do any research into it but I do think that surely many of these creeps prefer attractive women? Sarah was attractive for starters.

Someone else mentioned being blonde and busty so it’s obviously considered a factor when it’s the other way around and someone is attractive.

Used to be when young and not fully aware of the bigger picture. But for a long time now, about ten years, If it’s dark, even if I have a ten min walk off the bus back home I will always call OH and I will say every few mins ‘landmarks’ where I’m just passing. Would literally take a moment for someone to do harm, I’m not prepared to take that risk.

@Yayayaya20

I’m not sure I want to do any research into it but I do think that surely many of these creeps prefer attractive women? Sarah was attractive for starters.

Someone else mentioned being blonde and busty so it’s obviously considered a factor when it’s the other way around and someone is attractive.

For years only attractive (white) missing women were shown in the media. Same with missing children. Always the cute, white ones.

There's more diversity in the media now.

But I do wonder how many men/boys and non white women were left out of media coverage when missing.

What makes the media choose some people and not others?

I think it depends where you live. I would on my estate but other parts of town definitely not. I live in a small town on the north east coast.

I walked back at 12:30am today and all I could think about was Sarah Everard

Depends where I am going and the time. (ie dark at 6pm with people around is different from dark at 2am with nobody around)

@urbanbuddha

I'm wondering at the posters who mention they think they're unattractive. Attractiveness isn't an issue, it's female-ness that's the issue. Men who terrorise women want to terrorise women. They're not measuring their attractiveness - it doesn't come into it.

I agree. I was a young child the first time some creep was "attracted" to me. I know that nobody meant it like that, but I feel uncomfortable reading it- like it's a women fault she's too attractive and the man couldn't resist attacking her.

No way. I get quite nervous in quiet parks and the countryside during the day too. I'm not a meek nervous type at all... more jaded from too many threats, flashers and assaults.