Anyone else just having a really shit day ?

[spudinmysock]

I can't even be arsed to go into why I'm having a really shit day but it includes an extremely poor excuse for a 'd'h and wonderful set of colleagues who have just pointed out the obvious and confirmed what I've known for a longtime , hearing it out loud has knocked me about a bit so I'm having a pity party on my own and wondering how I've ended up here after seemingly having it all .

Anyway , I know I can't sit here for long , I need to start making a plan but for tonight it's what I'm going to do .

Anyone available to Cheer me up please ? Crap jokes , strong woman mantras, general shite chitchat etc .. my thoughts are hurting my head and my anxiety is through the roof , distract me please

Not fabulous but been unhappy in myself for a long time. And woke up to the fact that I'm married to a controlling narcissist. Make wife look like shit keep her subdued type... I did the freedom programme and it opened my mind up a lot I can see him for what he is, obviously I'm not cured but.......when he's at work all day he can't force food down my throat so I can eat well... then I eat my healthy dinner of a night when he's in the bath on the phone to the girlfriend he thinks I don't know about and tell him I've had the same as him but he was in the bath. He doesn't give a flying monkeys about me anyway..... the more weight I lose the more I get called a fat ugly whore.... but I see through it now. Worst thing he did was move out thinking I would come running, because now I'm out of his control!!

I wish I could screenshot messages onto here. He's gone from begging to insults to threatening suicide all in the space of a hour.... oohhh dear the narc has lost control and none of the tactics are working!

Oh I've found the thread for me! Will post more when I can....(hugs)

It starts with a 12hr ambulance shift where we didn't get the Police backup we desperately needed to keep a child safe and it's gone downhill from there. Wine has been had since (I've finished work!)

@Fedup2908

It's the script

Once you've had the 'I'm suicidal'text , next will come the 'see you don't care about me ' then a few more 'I'm sorry' then finally 'ok have it your way' radio silence for bit (designed to make you panic) before the cycle starts again .

It's so predictable, if you can , turn your phone off and do your best to ignore it .

I'm thinking about you , your not on your own

@AnotherVice
Sometimes your best is all you can do !

It's difficult not bring home though , some cases you won't ever forget ,

Your best was good enough today ,

I want to be a paramedic when I grow up but im only early 40's so im not quite there yet

@spudinmysock oh I've had it all already. The latest one is I'm ringing child services.... I said OK mate, your a nutjob under mental health that doesn't engage with mental health, with a alcohol problem u pretend u don't have... my house is clean the kids are well looked after and u don't fucking live here! I've had manic texts threatening everything from arson to suicide and u think they will be on your side? They will make me sign a bit of paper saying your not allowed anywhere near us or they will instigate court proceedings... if anything doing that will do me a massive favour when you take me to court for custody

I sometimes wish I was that away with the fairies

@Annunaki it made me chuckle anyway!!

[quote Fedup2908]@spudinmysock fat cunt is also my name! Are we married to the same dickhead?? Wouldn't surprise me to be honest... women are popping out the wood work everywhere!!

Well I just got a message saying "I hope you die and ill see you in court"

So I'm guessing plans are not to die and go to court

And this "fat cunt" has lost 4 stone in 4 months....I think dh doesn't like the fact I don't look like shit anymore![/quote]
Wtaf is wrong with men these days

This makes me so angry

@Annunaki

I had to read it 3 times !

I'm bit slow on the uptake today

Yep

@Queenie6655 they are not men. They are silly little boys trying to live in a grown up world! The worst bit is when I met him I hated him and told everyone he was a hoodrat with an agenda...then I fell for the charm that lasted all of one week....that was 7 years ago!

Little boys trying to live in a man's world and little girls trying to be in the man's world... .

Only when u step back u realise! But oh well all is not lost.... I'm still gorgeous and he's still toothless

I’ve also had a spectacularly shite day. Gloomy weather (constant rain for 2 days?!) no energy, ridiculous work pressure, ridiculous home pressure. Just want to step off the world for a bit.

@Blankspace4 all is not lost take a deep breath. Tomorrow is another day x

@Fedup2908 thank you. I’m just not sure how I will summon up the energy for it. I feel dead to the bones each morning

The worst mistake darling husband did to me was saying I needed to get off my arse and get a job. So I did only bar work, but when men(even tho there pissed) come up to men at events and greet u with I'm so glad I got the gorgeous barmaid....it does wonders for your confidence and makes u realise u ain't gotta settle for shit. And whether they mean it or not. U have 60 seconds of realising not everyone sees u as a worthless piece of shit!

@Blankspace4 your a woman. No matter what life throws at u. Every time there is a negative ignore it and find a positive. Write the negatives down and burn them. Keep the positives in your head

And if all else fails. A bottle of vodka helps

Yes.

Had a fight with my DH on the phone on the way back from the school run

Got home the dog had ate cat shit and left shit on the blanket.

After scrubbing the blanket and put it in the wash I got it out of the washing machine and had also washed my headphones.

Feeewemin.

@Annunaki wouldn't surprise me if u are also married to my dh nothing shocks me anymore. There surely can't be that many wankers in the world!!

I even had one of the hareem messaging my son telling him how much she loved my husband complete with 🍆 emojis... 9 had to Google what that meant!

Apparently the 18 year old or so child she was had met him on tinder!