Unsupportive mother with second pregnancy.

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When I was 18 I fell pregnant with my first child - I was young and me and his dad were in a relationship but it wasn't stable it was a shambles, my mam supported me and was over the moon. (Myself and my first borns father have now seperated).

5 years on and me and my now partner have just found out I'm pregnant (5 weeks and 2 days), I decided to tell my mam and she has never looked so disappointed, she couldn't even smile at me or say congratulations. I walked off crying being supported by my OH and we then went to his house for the night.

My mam then rang me saying she just thinks it's the wrong time as we arent settled and don't have our own place yet (we are saving), and went on saying my partner doesn't have a stable job and is in debt (he has paid all of his debts off and is working whilst at college doing electrical courses). She has been so bitter and it absolutely broke me. She will never love this grandchild like my first born and it has now made me resent my mother more than I ever thought I could.

My OH is amazing with my little boy and had a son of his own, we get on well and rarely argue, we are putting money away for our own place and we had already planned to be in our own place by the new year. What is her problem?!

I walked off crying being supported by my OH and we then went to his house for the night.

I’m assuming the op does not live with her dp - given that she put this in her first post.

I'm sorry you're getting such a hard time here OP. Whilst your situation isn't great and I can see why your mum might not be thrilled, there will be time to turn things around. If you both have jobs and are saving then that's a good start and you're already in a better position than many.
Please don't feel pressured to terminate the pregnancy (unless you want to of course), I can't believe people are suggesting this based on very little information and without knowing you.
There's no set way to do things, some people have kids young and then get the rest of their life together, others have them later in life but that's still not a guarantee that things will turn out well.
I have a friend who had her first child at 17, then subsequent children (yes, by a different father, shock horror!) in her 20s. Now we're in our 30s, her children are school age and she earns more than me and has a bigger house (whereas I did the traditional uni-job-house-marriage-kids trajectory, but my career has now stalled due to having a baby). Enjoy your pregnancy and try not to worry.