Here’s a supportive arm punch if you don’t have relaxing weekends either

[tunnocksreturns2019]

I am happy for people feeling “Yay! It’s the weekend!” but weekends are often tough here. DS (ADHD) is already in a state this evening, and I have a range of homework to coax him through on Sat/Sun. I have chores to do I didn’t have time for in the week. And I miss my late DH most at weekends. Other adults may feature on Sunday but not on Saturday, and none of them will be him anyway. DD is generally pretty easy going, but that’s not guaranteed.

So I hope you’re going to have a good weekend - I will be doing my best here - but this thread is here in case you need to offload.

I think I’m going to go to the corner shop for chocolate. Even one drink will make me feel less able to cope with tomorrow (is this a 40s thing?!) or I’d do that too.

I feel ya. Weekends are certainly not relaxing here. I miss looking forward to the weekend.

@tunnocksreturns2019 I've had weekends like yours though that sounds relentless. Good luck and enjoy the chocolate guilt free

I’ll be trying to lose weight, Wedding reception next weekend and no money for clothes. Also, starting to pack and sort stuff to donate as we’re selling our house🤦‍♀️ We need to downsize.

Hope your weekend goes as well as possible OP

@SomethingNastyInTheBallPool

I feel ya. Weekends are certainly not relaxing here. I miss looking forward to the weekend.

We will look forward to them again one day!

[quote actiongirl1978]@tunnocksreturns2019 I've had weekends like yours though that sounds relentless. Good luck and enjoy the chocolate guilt free[/quote]
Thanks, DD and I just popped out and bought some of the Cadbury’s marvellous creations chocolate with the jelly beans in. I have no taste therefore it is my favourite 🤣

Sorry about the loss of your late DH, op.
Weekends aren’t relaxing here either. Ds (age 2) is under community Pediatrics for assessing potential ASD (example, hitting himself, completely non verbal hasn’t said a word), no nursery over the weekend throws his routine out of sorts and he struggles. Come Monday its a day of tears in nursery, and I struggle to get him to eat anything at all.

😩

@AdoraBell

I’ll be trying to lose weight, Wedding reception next weekend and no money for clothes. Also, starting to pack and sort stuff to donate as we’re selling our house🤦‍♀️ We need to downsize.

Hope your weekend goes as well as possible OP

Good luck with all of that. Hope you get some satisfaction out of the pack and sort - I hate it at the time but feel better when I see progress

Much empathy @tunnocksreturns2019 stressful weekends with DS1 (who it turned out had ADHD) led to the Internet search wherei discovered Mumsnet 15+ years ago!
I used to retreat to a very hot bath fir refuge.
Hang on in there and enjoy the chocolate.

Our Friday evening has descended into chaos as the children were fighting over Minecraft. DH and I trying to get the house straight after workmen were in it this week. DH and DS (7) yelling at each other - but DS has ASD and so the row is pointless. I’m trying to get other DS to sleep and I’m so exhausted. So yes, I hear you!

Mammma91 bless you, you have a lot on too. Lack of routine can be a nightmare. I hope you get the support you need with your lovely DS

@Wbeezer

Much empathy *@tunnocksreturns2019* stressful weekends with DS1 (who it turned out had ADHD) led to the Internet search wherei discovered Mumsnet 15+ years ago! I used to retreat to a very hot bath fir refuge. Hang on in there and enjoy the chocolate.

Hot baths! Yes! So often my answer too

@IamJuliaJohnson

Our Friday evening has descended into chaos as the children were fighting over Minecraft. DH and I trying to get the house straight after workmen were in it this week. DH and DS (7) yelling at each other - but DS has ASD and so the row is pointless. I’m trying to get other DS to sleep and I’m so exhausted. So yes, I hear you!

Oh this is just TOO relaxing for words. Fortitude.

DS has gone out to a youth group until 8.30pm. I love him but phew! DD and I are going to catch up with Bake Off now, but I will be back to check on you all later

Im supposed to be picking DS3 from a party 15 miles away on country roads but he's not answering his phone so i have no idea when or where to find him. Hes got ADHD too. I'm failing at the Friday feeling at the moment.

@Wbeezer

Im supposed to be picking DS3 from a party 15 miles away on country roads but he's not answering his phone so i have no idea when or where to find him. Hes got ADHD too. I'm failing at the Friday feeling at the moment.

That sounds most relaxing hope you’ve got hold of him! Mine expects me to answer his calls immediately, but it’s obviously unreasonable to expect him to reply to me…

My two are heading to bed ever so sloooowly

Mine went to bed ok but I have just had a row with DH about the amount of time the children have played on the switch this week (tbf it is excessive). I’m really pissed off because I have them after school every day despite working close to full time. I’m actually happy to have them and save the money on wraparound care but the expectation that I’m not doing work or 100% focused on the children is unreasonable.

Urgh. Did he have a great solution that involved him covering some of those after school slots so you could work uninterrupted??

Tbh I dread weekends at the minute -DS2 has asd and has been on permanent threat of (and sometimes actually having) meltdowns every weekend since starting back at school. Mainly due to masking all week long, and the transition to new classroom/building/teacher etc.
It’s the same every September so I’ll be hit to by the chocolate and warm baths hard when he’s in bed. I don’t even want to think about the homework I’ve found in his bag for us to do/have thrown off my head. I’d have a drink but then I’d find it hard to stop after one
🤣

DS has only just settled down which has kept DD up because he’s noisy, and me cross.

Of course not! He’s far too busy and important for that. Part of my issue is that immediately after school they’re sometimes too zonked to do much other than chill out with the tv. So I usually get a bit of admin sorted between 4 and 5 (if we don’t have after school activities). Usually by the time he comes home they’ve perked up a bit and are more playful but he’s being very militant about homework etc but he’s not here and gets to play Disney dad when he comes home.

That sounds rough! I hate it when mine don’t go to sleep.

ipswichwitch I do think it’s a particularly exhausting time of year with these kids who take a long time to settle back into the new school year - they hold it together at school and show no mercy when they get home 😬😬

IamJuliaJohnson marvellous. He can take on some enriching activities and supervise homework with the DC this weekend whilst you have a bit of a break, then. Clearly he’ll be much better at it

Just to cheer you all up a little my DS ASD now 19 was exactly the same for many many years. Health anxiety school anxiety any kind of anxiety. Weekends where spent just worrying about the week ahead. Over time he has grown and matured and though he still does suffer with anxiety...a cold here currently causes a mini meltdown about whether it may or may not be covid with hours working up to a test.ither than that he is much more chilled. He recently passed his driving test and entertains himself most evenings and now enjoys his weekend. I know that doesn't help with missing your DH but hopefully gives you something for the future.