When DH and I got married, back in the last century, we wanted our friends & family to share our day. So far so good.
So we arranged it:
- in an easily accessible location
- on a date to suit the most important family members
- timings so those with children could get home that day
- children invited
I am regularly amazed on MN of people:
- expecting / putting strong pressure on others to travel abroad or to a distant location
- expecting bridesmaids etc to stay overnight even when they have young children, but not inviting those children
- not running dates past key family before booking but then expecting them to attend
- etc.
We wanted to make it as easy as possible for our guests to share the day with us.
So many others seem to think it is 'their' day and others should be expected to put themselves out as much as necessary to dance attendance.
So my question is:
A) do you view a wedding as something the hosts should make easy & pleasurable for the guests?
OR
B) is a wedding the bride & groom's 'special day' so everyone else is beholden to make it special for them?