DD is 19 and her boyfriend is 20. He is absolutely lovely and has been very good for her. DD has BPD (fully diagnosed and on medication) and is quite hard work.
We moved back to the UK a year ago due to Covid and at the same time I separated from her father.
She has been with her boyfriend for nearly a year and they see each other every day. She needs a lot of emotional support and her boyfriend, 'Samuel' has really supported her in this time and I like him a great deal. He also helps around the house and is a refreshing change from the BPD dramas I have with DD.
He is obviously still young but pays for his own flat and has a full time job. DD is doing her A levels quite late after repeating 2 years due to her mental health issues.
They have asked if he can move in so he stops spending all of his money on rent and can save for a car/further education in his field.
What are your thoughts? I've just got out of a really challenging relationship due to living overseas and have been relishing my freedom back in the UK and I have a pretty challenging job. The two of them seem to want a lot of parenting, with meals and clothes washing on tap.
My gut feeling is to let him move in - with the risk that DD will BPD him and try to kick him out after a row. I'd like to support him in his further education by not charging rent plus put down ground rules on council tax, fuel bills and food/cooking.
What do you think?
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Should I let DD's boyfriend move in?
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KnotnowDear · 21/09/2021 22:01
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