Should I talk to the teacher about shouting?

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I don't want to be that parent. But.
DD started in her first year of elementary school this week. Today was the first day full time. Last week when they were doing half days, she told me one teacher was nice and the other was not nice because she shouts all the time and tells them off. I took all this with a pinch of salt and we talked about teachers being different, having different styles but it doesn't mean she is telling them off, and that the teacher has just come from a class of much older children so there was some adjustment for the children and some for the teacher etc.
Today I went to pick older child up for the dentist and I could hear a teacher through an open window shrieking at the children. It stopped after 2 minutes and I thought maybe it was a one off. I waited another couple of minutes for DS and it started again. I asked the teaching assistant who answered the door and you've guessed it, it's my daughter's teacher. Now I have the dilemma. I heard a kind of shouting I would never do myself, that made me feel sick for these five year olds. Do I address it with her or give her the benefit of the doubt? I have no idea what is best in the long run. At the start of term she was all "come to us immediately if you have any worries"...but my faith in her has been seriously knocked I'll be honest. It was not nice, my blood was hoping listening to how she was talking to them, but o don't want to be that mum. I also don't want to let what really sounded a lot like emotional abuse in a school go unchecked. This is not an English school, there's no open door policy. It's very old fashioned, but that doesn't excuse the shouting I don't think.

If its France then your dh may be right.
Awful.

@Pumperthepumper no its bot lose of control to raise your voice or shout , kids need to also learn a little bit of resilience as well, they will likely have someone raise a voice or shout at them in life .
You see so many inruly kids whose parents are saying please sit down and i will buy you what you want or ignoring bad behaviour rather than dealing with it

In our school we would be expected to raise something like this with the HT.

There is a difference between a raised voice and shrieking

Could you consider another school?

@Pumperthepumper i don't mean constantly screaming and shouting but to raise your voice and tell a child to say get down of the chair they are climbing on before they falll and hurt themselves is not in my opinion a lose of control

[quote worriedatthemoment]@Pumperthepumper i don't mean constantly screaming and shouting but to raise your voice and tell a child to say get down of the chair they are climbing on before they falll and hurt themselves is not in my opinion a lose of control [/quote]
But you do see the difference between raising your voice and screaming and shouting?

Which do you think is happening in the OP?

@Pumperthepumper I don't know as I am not there and if another country and culture. It could be more the norm there , so therefore it makes it hard to comment
How some of my colleagues in some european countries speak etc would be seen as rude and dismissive here but its simply just a cultural difference so its really hard to say. , but in any case as a parent if you feel how someone is speaking or treating your child. My advice would be speak up and address it with someone senior, I would be surprised if its not been noticed if a regular thing by other staff members

[quote worriedatthemoment]@Pumperthepumper I don't know as I am not there and if another country and culture. It could be more the norm there , so therefore it makes it hard to comment
How some of my colleagues in some european countries speak etc would be seen as rude and dismissive here but its simply just a cultural difference so its really hard to say. , but in any case as a parent if you feel how someone is speaking or treating your child. My advice would be speak up and address it with someone senior, I would be surprised if its not been noticed if a regular thing by other staff members [/quote]
Yes, that’s what I said to the OP.