Is there something wrong with me??

[Sadsoul222]

I’m just annoyed at everyone and everything. When ppl come to my house I get annoyed and feel as if they’re invading my personal space.. when people talk too much or ask me too many questions or don’t hear me the first time, I get really annoyed.. I have 0 patience and people must get things done on my timing or else I’ll be angry/upset and I hate waiting for others.. there’s so much more.. I just want to know what u lot think is wrong with me or if I’m just a little b*tch

I’m also always moody

How old are you? Is it a rcent-ish thing?

This is my personality.

Not helpful, but I really relate. It might be menopause or just clarity that you prefer your own company?

@GreyCarpet I’m 22

Ah ok well I was going to suggest perimenpause given I've seen this as a symptom.

Perhaps you just don't suffer foold gladly or need to take a deep breath and remind yourself not to sweat the small stuff!

I don't suffer fools gladly but have realised as I've got older that it's just pointless getting irritated and wound up by stuff.

People tend to have less and less social skills nowadays, especially since the pandemic, people just don’t seem to be able to tolerate other people. As long as your happy in your own company and don’t mind loosing touch with people then it’s no big deal

@SquarePeggyLeggy something happened in my past where I was alone for 2 years & I had no one, no family anything and now I just find people to be invading my space and I just always prefer to be alone

Ah ok so not menopause!!

But, without sounding like an arse, 1) at 22 I was similar and 2) brains don't stop developing until 25 so you might find it settles down over the next couple of years

Everyone and everything irritated me.

Are you quite bright? Process information quickly? That was part of it with me. I've become more patient with age but had to make a concerted effort to do so.

@GreyCarpet I hope it’s not premenopausal omg 😭. Everyday I remind my self just to be chilled out and calm like I was before but people just annoy me too much and I feel like such a bad person

Could you be depressed op? Depression manifests itself in different ways in different people.

@GreyCarpet can you teach me or tell me how you became patient with people please

@Seventhascent I’m not happy with where I am in my life but I always tell myself I’m not depressed but I am sad most of the time then when I think about why I’m actually sad there’s nothing to be sad about

Are you using hormonal contraception? It certainly affects DD's mood and attitude!

Have you always been like this or have you had the jabs?

Yep, but I'm just about to leave the house so will come back later x

It sounds like depression to me. Get yourself to the doctors and explain how you feel. I’ve recently started taking antidepressants and I feel like the person I’ve always wanted to be but couldn’t. I’m 35 now so have wasted a lot of years 🙁 please don’t do the same.

@LadyCatStark I don’t want to take antidepressants, I want to just become happier and calmer naturally but I don’t think I can do that

@GreyCarpet

Ah ok so not menopause!!

But, without sounding like an arse, 1) at 22 I was similar and 2) brains don't stop developing until 25 so you might find it settles down over the next couple of years

Everyone and everything irritated me.

Are you quite bright? Process information quickly? That was part of it with me. I've become more patient with age but had to make a concerted effort to do so.

I am a happy loner. Rarely see anyone face to face. And that is fine FOR ME. For decades now. I am fine with folk on the rare occasions when I see them; are you?

if it worries you then that is different but if it is just you prefer being alone?

Op have a look at the research done by a scientist called Besharat on the link between depression & anxiety and irritability.

This explains it in summary:

here

@SoloISland Yeahh I’m exactly like that. Too much human interaction makes me so exhausted and I need to be by myself to re charge. I’m so happy alone but people tell me it’s not good to be alone all the time

@Seventhascent thank you I will have a look

Btw, depression isn't necessarily equivalent to sadness. It be a greyness or "absence" of feeling which is not the same.

How about seeing a licensed psychologist to help you explore what is wrong?

Hormonal contraception made me a feel like this.

If you're not on the pill, and don't want to take antidepressants, try St John's Wort. I found it really helpful when I had PND and was allergic to the proper meds. It can make the pill unreliable though!

Here you go op, info on how to find the right MH (scroll down):

www.mind.org.uk/information-support/drugs-and-treatments/talking-therapy-and-counselling/how-to-find-a-therapist/