I start my new job as a nurse tomorrow!

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After 4 years of training (access course then degree), I’m finally qualified as an Adult Nurse, on the NMC register and about to start my dream job as a district nurse tomorrow!

I’ve been on here for years but name change all the time. I’ve spent a LOT of time on the relationship boards, asking for advice on exdp. He was a gaslighter and mentally/financially abusive to me. 7 years ago I was working in a total dead end job, suffering from depression, living in a tiny little flat with no carpets because exdp was too tight to pay for them and crying myself to sleep every night whilst trying to look after baby ds.

Finally worked up the courage to leave him and lived in a hostel for a bit, got let go from my job so was on benefits for a few months. Had loads of family
Support but just no room for us. I’d still cry myself to sleep every night and felt like THE biggest failure in the world. Was so tempted to go back to exdp as life was ‘easier’ but stood strong

7 years later I’m just about to buy a house with my lovely, lovely boyfriend. Ds is thriving, he’s such a happy boy. Struggles in school a bit but is getting help and is confident, happy and kind. He sees his dad every other weekend and loves going to his. I have loads of friends and a busy social life. I have managed to go to university and complete my degree, juggling the stresses of that with caring for DS. It’s been so hard, god it’s been hard but it’s done.

And now tomorrow I start a job. DP is away tonight and ds is tucked up in bed and I’m thinking about how far my life has come. I could cry for the younger me of 7 years ago. I cannot believe how much my life has changed and if someone had told me all them years ago whilst I was in that hostel that this is where my life would be I’d have literally laughed in their face. I’m so proud of myself, it’s not something I’d say out loud but I am. Im totally rambling now but anyone who feels stuck or that it’s too late or in a crap relationship or anything like that, things can change. They really can. Life doesn’t have to be so terrible.

Anyway! Not sure what the point of this post was and Im aware I probably sound drunk because I’m rambling so much 😅. But yeah, I’ve spent a lot of time on mumsnet since ds was a baby and I’ve had a lot of help and advice so just wanted to share!

Fabulous! Well done! And good luck for tomorrow!

Well done massive achievement..I qualified 3 years ago and can still rember seeing my name on the nmc register. Enjoy xx

Well done. I qualified in April. Live the dream

Well done, hope it goes well xxx

What a great post! Thank you. I think I'm pretty much like 7 years ago you, left an emotionally and financially abusive H, starting out trying to figure out my new separated life with 2 young dc, no job and needing benefits, and so on. It feels so hard right now! It's very good to know you've done so well and gives me hope.

Oh this is amazing 🤩, well done! I undertook my nurse training under challenging circs (nowhere near as challenging as yours though) and am now in a very senior position.

Enjoy every second of tomorrow, after everything you have been through you will absolutely fly. Wishing you all the luck!

Badass!!!!! I love this!!

You are incredible!! Wishing you all the best for tomorrow xx

Congratulations! Well done. I did my nurse training in similar circumstances to you when dd was small. It was hard work but so worth it! You’ve done well.
Good luck for tomorrow. You’ll meet some great people along the way, and some less great… don’t let them get you down! I really hope all goes well for you.

This post has gave me tummy flips

You deserve it all

Well done you
Excellent work

This is a really beautiful and uplifting. Post!! And actually, seven years is a relatively short amount of time to turn things around so much when you faced such adversity and hurdles. So a huge congratulations from me! And no doubt your story will lift and inspire others. Ifeel proud of you and I don't even know you. I hope that tomorrow goes really well.

Congratulations 🥳

Congratulations lovely. You've done amazingly well. I work with lots of nurses in my role in the NHS, I have huge admiration and respect for them all, such a beautiful group of people from all walks of life. Hope tomorrow is the best day ever, you deserve nothing but happiness x

Thank you everyone! I’ve had a few weeks off, I’ve been away with the girls from uni, took DS to a caravan for a week and had a lovely weekend in London with DP who treated me to a weekend away as a well done. Plus 4 ‘celebration’ meals with various people/family so I’ve been celebrating big time and now the uniform is way too tight 🙈.

@NewlySingle2021 so sorry to hear you’re going through similar. All I can advise is that it is hard, some days you’ll doubt everything and feel so much built and anxiety but my worst day in the last 7 years was genuinely NEVER as bad as my worst day with exdp and that thought got me through. I’m lucky I’ve got loads of family
Support and that has made the difference so try and surround yourself with caring people.

So lovely to hear off other nurses! And to hear supportive words, most people I’ve encountered in my training have told me to find a different job 😅. Still find it surreal to think I’m actually a nurse, I keep talking about ‘placement’ but then have to catch myself and say work.

But thank you all for your words of encouragement ♥️.

I am thrilled for you.
You young lady are truly wonderful
I wish you all the best for tomorrow and your entire future, what a success story.
Thanks for sharing, it’s inspiring for anyone reading who’s going through shit right now to know that THINGS CAN GET SO MUCH BETTER.

Congratulations, you’re one hell of a Superwoman

Congratulations! I start my degree in two weeks time....!

Well done! Nursing is the best job ever. Wouldn't want to do anything else. Paediatric though. I wouldn't have the patience for adult nursing!

The weirdest thing is when you teach students. And realise that you actually know your stuff.

Congratulations OP, such an inspiring story as well, I'm glad you're proud yourself as you should be! I remember my first day with my pin and of work not placement, it took a while to sink in but was also an incredible feeling.

Congratulations, my DD is just starting her first year at uni studying nursing. You will be an inspiration to many students.

Oh my god how amazing! You are absolutely incredible! Good luck for tomorrow 💞 you're an inspiration to me as I'm starting an access course on Monday 27th in Nursing and Midwifery hoping to progress onto a degree in Adult nursing, I've been doubting myself as to whether I can do it or not but your post has just given me a kick up the bum. What you have achieved over the past few years is unbelievable with a baby DS and fleeing an abusive relationship 💞 I've actually got goosebumps and tears in my eyes I'm so happy for you, congratulations and best of luck for tomorrow xxxx

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Oh my god how amazing! You are absolutely incredible! Good luck for tomorrow 💞 you're an inspiration to me as I'm starting an access course on Monday 27th in Nursing and Midwifery hoping to progress onto a degree in Adult nursing, I've been doubting myself as to whether I can do it or not but your post has just given me a kick up the bum. What you have achieved over the past few years is unbelievable with a baby DS and fleeing an abusive relationship 💞 I've actually got goosebumps and tears in my eyes I'm so happy for you, congratulations and best of luck for tomorrow xxxx

I did an access course and am now very happily a midwife, this thread is lovely and full of positivity and inspiration! Thank you for sharing OP, it's brightened up my Sunday.

Thanks again lovely people 💐. And good luck to the people who are starting their training as well. I’ve threatened to quit so many times. I’m lucky that I’ve had good placements with solid mentors (assessors and supervisors as they’re called now!) and I have pretty solid childcare but I have reallllly struggled with the academic side. I’ve failed so many assignments but always passed the second time luckily. It is an absolute cliche and I hate myself for saying it but truly if I can do it anyone can. And the time flies. I saw on my Facebook memories it’s 3 years this week since I started my degree and the 3 years have gone by in a blink, I still remember which car parking space I parked in and walking around a campus full of teens all excited to be starting and away from home the first time and I felt ancient and I was wondering what to cook me and ds for tea that night 😅

I don’t think I’ll be able sleep much tonight but I’m going to try to nod off but thanks again, I don’t have a lot of confidence and every single placement has picked up on this. It’s something I’ve got to work on but I suppose years of being told how crap you are sits in your soul a bit doesn’t it. But I know deep down I’m not crap, I was told when I went to meet my new colleagues and collect my laptop last week quickly that I scored nearly 100% on my interview and I was the best candidate they’d ever had. They probably say that all the time 😅. But i need to remember I’m
More than capable and that I’ve got this.

Goodnight everyone, I’ll update the thread to let you know how I’ve got on

Congratulations and best of luck.

Don't get imposter syndrome. You did this. Nobody else. You.