Things you thought were normal/harmless until joining mumsnet

[Antsinyourpanta]

(Lighthearted )
lots of things that I thought were quite normal /fine/harmless before I joined MM seem to be quite abhorrent to a large percentage of posters. I often find myself wondering about whether my perceived normal is actually the minority. Some examples

Home made food or cakes - I bloody love home made cakes and think they are always nicer than shop bought - my first thoughts when offered one is usually yum, a cake! I've never given a moments thought to whether the person owns cats or dogs or has a hygeine certificate.

Ensuite bathrooms - I've got an ensuite bathroom. It's used for any instance where you may need a toilet. Apparently this is very very wrong.

Eating carbs

Bayliss and Harding toiletries - I would not be offended by this as a gift unless it was from my husband

(I'm with you on Thorntons though - they are nasty)

Answering the door to someone - if I see ex criminals selling stuff door to door, I dont answer, otherwise I dont have a problem with answering the door, and i get on with all of my neighbours.

Speaking to and socialising with work colleagues - i speak to, socialise (outside of work) and am friends with most of my work colleagues. I'd count many of them as friends. We buy each other birthday cards and presents and sometimes bring in cakes. (See point 1)

What are the things you've been educated on since joining MN?

Oh, and:
NORMAL - to allow someone who used to live in your house to bury the ashes of their late spouse in your garden
NOT NORMAL - to make your 16yo DC a sandwich

Someone was offended by being given home grown tomatoes by their neighbour!!! I really despair 🤦‍♀️

Our 22 year old lives with us and Doesn't Pay Rent.

I like dogs but am not a dog owner.

Keeping shoes on in house - yours or someone else's. Sorry, but I think it's rude to ask guests to take their shoes off.
Not cooking everything from scratch.
The inevitable - loo brushes - although I will concede I'm glad I switched to a silicone one.
Not having one's home completely immaculate and hospital-clean at all times. It's called life.
Letting your laundry be darked on.
Not welcoming unscheduled pop-ins to one's home from all and sundry with a joyful cry regardless of what one might need to be doing at the time.
Thinking that actually 10,000 steps and 5 a day aren't all that easy to achieve if you have a busy/sedentary job.
Social occasions that don't involve food! gasp
Letting tradesmen use the loo. (Use of 'tradespeople' deliberate as I have a sneaking suspicion tradeswomen wouldn't be subjected to the same strictures.)
Drinking more than a thimbleful of wine on Christmas Day and not considering it to be the top of the slippery slope to alcoholism.
Believing transpeople are entitled to make their own life choices just like the rest of us.
Not finding drag offensive.
Believing that in some ways men actually do make better friends than women and that to say so isn't a sign of 'internalised misogyny'.
Working part-time or even, gasp, being a SAHM.
Thinking that actually, no, children do not come first 100% of the time.
Being an introvert.

[quote cricketmum84]@TheLovelinessOfDemons yes yes yes and YES!!!

I have a trans daughter. I stay away from those boards as I always end up down a rabbit hole of arguments and it depresses me to see how utterly intolerant other people can be.

I hope your sons lives are filled with happiness! [/quote]
And this! Accepting trans people in daily life and not going around thinking they’re all closet sex offenders

Prior to Mumsnet I didn't know some people think those things are odd.

Having children.

@Antsinyourpanta

I have a toilet brush, don't change my bedlinen everyday, allow my cats to sleep on the bed with me, wash everything together in one washing machine load.

Your cats do the washing??? Can they do a youtube tutorial for mine?
Mine dont sleep on my bed , I dont really like it because they are more annoying than a fidgety toddler but they spend most of the winter on DDs bed.

I have no choice re the cats on the bed. They scream the house down if they are not allowed to sleep up close and personal with me.

@Inastatus

Someone was offended by being given home grown tomatoes by their neighbour!!! I really despair 🤦‍♀️

If that's the thread I think it is, you're quoting very selectively there.

@Birdkin

Letting your children try something sugary before the age of 25

But according to one post a few weeks ago they're not yet adults at 25!

@stairgates

Having children.

Eh??

@Thecurtainsofdestiny

Prior to Mumsnet I didn't know some people think those things are odd.

I seriously don't believe a lot of the performance home-making, a lot if purely to make the poster feel superior.

@Daisyandroses

Was there really a thread about being given tomatoes My neighbours dropped off some plums the other day. I’m home a lot with new babies and it was nice to have a quick chat. They didn’t get eaten but I appreciate the gesture…

The OP on that thread had recently moved house and was finding her new NDNs intrusive including being given tomatoes. They had the cheek to say hello when the OP left her house too.

@Antsinyourpanta I initially read it as you also wash the cats and the toilet brush in the same load with the bedlinen. Took me a couple of goes but I got it right in the end!

What I've learned from Mumsnet is that it's not enough to be slightly irked or mildly put out about anything- one should be fuming/disgusted/outraged etc.

Also- judging others for being judgmental is absolutely fine.

And the loo brush thing, obviously.

Re shoes off/on- mine is a shoes on house, which I tell people when they arrive, if they don't already know, and invite them to leave their shoes on or take them off, whichever they're more comfortable with. I didn't realise I had to be hard on one side or the other.

Evaluating people, newspapers etc according to their merits rather than whether they agree with MN on trans issues. See Liz Truss, Daily Mail etc.

I often leave washing outside overnight. I didn't know this was a terrible thing.

In ye olden days before covid when I went to an indoor cafe, if it was self-service, one of us would go to the counter while the other one found a table. I didn't know that this was a terrible thing.

But garden bonfires are terrible things - anti-social at best (especially during the first lockdown when we though covid was a respiratory disease) and dangerous at worst - lets start a house fire!

Dressing a girl in dresses and pink- or god forbid pink dresses

@OnlyFoolsnMothers

Dressing a girl in dresses and pink- or god forbid pink dresses

Oh yes!

Mumsnet would be horrified with me.. I have girl/ boy twins and everything is pink and blue. Moses baskets, bottles…

I have two loo brushes, I occasionally forget to bring my washing in and I’m currently at Center Parcs - oh the shame!!

@PurpleFlower1983 OFF WITH YOUR HEAD!

@lockdownmadnessdotcom re the cafe...I do this all the time with my mum, hubby, friends...always have done. How else would we get a table?! Or...we choose a table, then go up individually while other person minds the table and our bags etc...

We have a tap lock on the outside tap because the kids kept leaving it on after filling up their water guns. Apparently this means that passing homeless people will be forced to go thirsty.

Members of my family just call over whenever suits them. Not only that, they also just walk in 😲

Playing music in the garden. I'm not talking about anything super loud but music that's just loud enough to be carried on the wind. Apparently you're meant to be absolutely silent in your garden to the point where even breathing is not allowed.

BBQs are not allowed either. I love a good BBQed burger!

I'm clearly a weirdo due to all the things I do that are disapproved of on MN 😁

I talk to strangers in all sorts of places and also open the front door to unexpected callers - unless I spot the double glazing salesman or Mormons in the street before they knock. I chat with the neighbours over the fence - hell, DH even poked his head over the fence to the neighbour at the back the other day to ask her to turn her music down as it was too loud - and guess what, she did!

I have always let tradesmen use my toilet as I want them to get on with the job not disappear off to find a toilet elsewhere.

I have an ensuite which is used for everything the main bathroom is used for. I wash everything together, sorted by colour only. Bedding is washed as and when. DS (24) is currently back living at home rent free. I do his washing and cook meals for him - and he cooks for everyone once or twice a week in return. We have toilet brushes. MIL has just been to stay for a week and we all had a lovely time. She's 93 and was appreciative of our hospitality, sent a thank you email and flowers after she went home.

I could go on or just shout HOUSE as I'm sure I've marked off most of the things mentioned (except I don't have a dog or cat!)

To ask for money as a wedding present.