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How to incorporate my male best friend in my bridal party...

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whatashamee · 12/09/2021 19:43

Hi!
I'm having a bit of a dilemma..
My wedding is summer next year, and so far I've got my two sisters, and three close girl friends in my bridal party.
I have a male best friend, he's been my best friend since primary school and is a huge part of my life. I'd love to have him as part of my wedding party, but I can't think of how best to incorporate him.
Has anybody got any ideas?
Our little nephew will be Paige boy, so I don't know what to do!

Any ideas are most welcome ❤️

OP posts:
Mariell · 12/09/2021 19:44

Usher?

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whatashamee · 12/09/2021 19:44

Thank you in advance! ☺️

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BlaiseAnais · 12/09/2021 19:45

Could he not be your man of honour or just another brides maid man

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KihoBebiluPute · 12/09/2021 19:46

My DH was "bride's best man" for hus best friend's wedding. She was Groom's Best Woman at ours. They have never been in any kind of relationship with eachother but have always been the best of friends. It was totally fine and cool.

Danikm151 · 12/09/2021 19:46

Usher or go fancy and make him the flower boy

Cattitudes · 12/09/2021 19:47

Yes have him as a bride's man, or do a reading.

Greytminds · 12/09/2021 19:47

Ask him to do a reading? That’s what I did with one of my best mates.

QuillBill · 12/09/2021 19:48

I would just have him in the same role as a bridesmaid and walking down the aisle with the rest of the bridesmaids with a tie or shirt that coordinates with their dresses. But I wouldn't put a label on it or go on about it.

Aquamarine1029 · 12/09/2021 19:48

Flower man.

Crimsonripple · 12/09/2021 19:48

Just put him in a suit with matching tie and have him walk down the aisle like your other bridesmaids.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 12/09/2021 19:49

At our wedding, DH chose his female best friend to be his witness, and I chose my brother. So they signed the register with us.

Gorl · 12/09/2021 19:49

Have a bridesman instead of a bridesmaid. He can wear a suit with a tie / handkerchief / shirt to match the wedding colours. He can fulfil pretty much all the responsibilities of a bridesmaid (except you maybe wouldn’t want him around for the whole of the getting ready process).

DirtyBlonde · 12/09/2021 19:50

Would he wear a frock? Grin

I think just have him as a bridesman (rather than bridesmaid) - it's nondifferent really to having a woman best man. Dress him in a similar style to the best man , but not identically as it's a different role and you need to tie in his appearsnce as closely as possible to the bridesmaids. Nehru jacket to match bridesmaids' dresses and best man's waistcoat?

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whatashamee · 12/09/2021 19:51

I should add that he will be travelling to the wedding from a fair distance with his husband, so I don't want him to feel separated from his DH for too long the morning of the wedding, and his DH wouldn't know any of my other guests to mingle with so I don't want him feeling awkward either.

My friend would happily get ready with us all the morning of! Xx

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LawnFever · 12/09/2021 19:53

Will there be ushers? He could be an usher, and have a matching suit, button hold etc, his role doesn’t have to sit with the bridesmaids

TheOneWithTwoParties · 12/09/2021 19:54

If you don't want him separated from his husband I'd suggest getting him to do a reading and/or be a witness.

CeeceeBloomingdale · 12/09/2021 19:56

We had an usher to hand out the order of service (small wedding so not a time consuming job) and to sign the register as a witness.

TSSDNCOP · 12/09/2021 20:16

A reading. I was asked to do one at my friend's wedding and felt so honoured. Ensure he has a buttonhole and toe to tie in with the bridesmaids.

TSSDNCOP · 12/09/2021 20:17

Toe? Now that would be different.

Tie

HollowTalk · 12/09/2021 21:15

When my son got married, his new wife had four bridesmaids and one of them was a guy. He just wore a suit.

Timeandtune · 12/09/2021 21:18

A friend of mine was part of the hen do and all the preparations. At the wedding he organised a flash mob and did some MCing.
He wore a kilt.

TheHouseIsOnFire · 12/09/2021 21:22

Agree with those saying maybe a reading or a role that doesn’t take him away from his DH. Leaving the DH on his own all day while your friend is doing all the BM duties wouldn’t be much fun for the DH, and might make your friend feel guilty for leaving him on his own all day. A reading or a role as usher for 20 mins as people come in would be good.

ItsAUserNameThing · 12/09/2021 21:23

Mine was the Maitre D or whatever they call it - master of ceremonies type thing. He sat at top table with his DH and spent the wedding mingling with everyone but at specific moments he was the one who announced what was happening next etc.

RandomWordGenerator · 12/09/2021 21:23

My good friend who’s a man did a reading at ours. A reading is a more important job than standing around looking pretty as a bridesmaid/ bridesman anyway.

cactijones · 12/09/2021 21:26

My friend had her male friend as a bridesman

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