Just pondering after the recent death of a delightful, much loved friend, who was always kind, positive and constructive, and genuinely so.
I am trying to become a bit more like my friend as I mature and age. She was such a positive force in the world. She didn't hide the very real difficulties she faced in her life but she never complained and never had a shred of self pity.
I know I have been far too negative and whinging and angry in the past, although some friends would say (in terms of relationship difficulties) I have had good cause, although probably no more than anyone else tbh.
How do I follow my friend's example without being fake? And while maintaining healthy boundaries?
Do positive people have a very few "inner circle" friends to whom they whinge and maintain a cheery front to everyone else? Or is the positivity embedded within them do you think, so what we would consider a catastrophe, they would respond to as a challenge?
Sorry this is a bit vague but I have always been fascinated to know whether the really positive people I know were naturally born like that, or whether they work hard at it?