Kids being abused in school by teachers?

[faithfulbird20]

I've read a lot in the papers in the last few days and it's scary. How can we protect our own kids? I'm having anxiety...

I haven’t seen any articles in papers about this myself recently. What incidences are you referring to?

Rare but possible.

Can you quote your source?

You nurture safe open relationships with your children and educate them on boundaries and appropriate behaviour to expect from others. You make sure that your children know 100% you have their back and that you believe them when they say they feel uncomfortable. You teach them about consent and teach them to be advocates for their peers too.
You can’t stop the bad things happening but you can safeguard against it progressing or being a repeated situation.

The deputy head teacher case www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-9975381/Wigan-deputy-head-Julie-Morris-44-charged-connection-rape-young-girl.html

The caretaker www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-9966507/amp/Sisters-win-settlement-against-local-council-abused-school-caretaker.html

I know the last ones old but there's a probability this does happen.

The deputy head had nothing to do with any of the pupils. It is still utterly horrific, but you’re not reading the whole article.

I know the last ones old but there's a probability this does happen.

So you haven’t actually read ‘a lot’ on it then?

The first case, horrifying as it is, isn't believed to involve a pupil from the school where the teacher worked. The second, as you say, is historic. I'm sure many of us can cite incidences of dubious behaviour by school staff in decades gone by. I know I can. It would be bad practice for a school to be complacent about this, but being vigilant isn't the same as being paranoid.

Considering your child is much more likely to be abused by a family member I think you're stressing a little bit more than you need to about these occurrences.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-58503313.amp

OP maybe has this one in mind. Utterly sickening and his school had a glowing Osted which highlighted how good the safeguarding was! Unfortunately, he was in charge of it.

One thing parents need to clue themselves up about is predatory grooming which can happen under their noses.

Instead of pouncing on the OP maybe we should just have a kind discussion on how to keep our children safe and educate them on such things. I can share your anxiety OP - it’s a free edible world we’re living in and I’m scared for my children too.

Free edible lol - no idea why that came up, I meant very terrible.

I've read the deputy head one FYI yeah it wasn't kids from her own school. But I'm pretty sure a couple if she had not been caught she would have aimed at girls from her own school somewhere down the line. And that's what's scary. How can you work with children and allow them to be raped? The 3 sisters one broke my heart. I've told my child never to be alone with anyone in a room. She's not allowed to be touched anywhere especially in certain places. That's all I can do for now.

@Rosesareyellow I honestly don't understand your comment. Yeah I have read the articles. Do you mean look up more cases of abuse? No thanks I've heard enough over the years. Don't want to traumatise myself.

Please, get help for your anxiety. Neither of these cases involve a child being abused by their teacher. Such things do happen, but the chances are low, and lower than in previous decades due to the Safer Recruiting procedures. A child is more likely to be abused by someone within the family.

Maintain a non-judgemental dialogue with your children so they can come to you with any concerns, teach them to listen to that uh-oh feeling and monitor their social media. These are general rules not just for potential abuse - you don't need to be putting scary ideas into their heads as that will just confirm what they will have already picked up from your anxiety. The NSPCC has resources (Pants campaign) to help with age-appropriate conversations.

when i went to school a girl I knew had a relationship with a teacher underage, spent lots of time after school with them etc, if your a parent be wary of things like that, kids who don't want to go home.

Happened when I was in school of the physical beating/hitting/throwing against a wall kind.

Do you mean look up more cases of abuse? No thanks I've heard enough over the years.

Well no I didn’t mean that - I find it incredibly odd that you came to that conclusion from what I said and makes me wonder if you have actually been doing exactly that. Otherwise, by just browsing the news, you wouldn’t be coming across so many articles relating to this subject. It happens of course, as many other bad things happen - the news is for the most part full of bad things - but it’s hardly a common occurrence. You initially said the last few days which you’ve now changed to years gone by - as someone else has suggested, go and seek help and support for your anxiety.

Incidentally, by just browsing a bit of news on my phone and having the news on in the background I’ve come across around 4 or 5 instances of babies and toddlers being killed by parents in the last month or so, it’s heartbreaking. So just for some perspective many many more children are harmed and abused at home than at school or nursery. Those who are not old enough to attend these settings are then the most vulnerable.

@SnowdaySewday

Please, get help for your anxiety. Neither of these cases involve a child being abused by their teacher. Such things do happen, but the chances are low, and lower than in previous decades due to the Safer Recruiting procedures. A child is more likely to be abused by someone within the family.

Maintain a non-judgemental dialogue with your children so they can come to you with any concerns, teach them to listen to that uh-oh feeling and monitor their social media. These are general rules not just for potential abuse - you don't need to be putting scary ideas into their heads as that will just confirm what they will have already picked up from your anxiety. The NSPCC has resources (Pants campaign) to help with age-appropriate conversations.

This 100%

@Rosesareyellow obviously you're here to pass time. Bye.

@SnowdaySewday thank you. I should have said any member of staff not just teachers. Both those articles were in the daily mail a day after another hence the anxiety. It's not like I've been searching for them. I'll have a look at that website. Thank you.

@InnPain

Instead of pouncing on the OP maybe we should just have a kind discussion on how to keep our children safe and educate them on such things. I can share your anxiety OP - it’s a free edible world we’re living in and I’m scared for my children too.

We teach them bodily autonomy and not to blindly accept that Grandad or Uncle Gary have the right to sit them on their knee or crawl into their beds. Is that the sort of thing you mean? Presumably, as something like 97% of child abuse cases are from a male close relative.

It has always been a terrible world we live in, this is nothing new it is just more talked about and when it is reported the story is more likely to be reported in the media. My mum is in her 70s and was the victim of a paedophile circle led by her father from a very young age. At the age of 9 she tried to get help by telling her mother who washed my mum's mouth out with soap and told her to never speak of it again and so the abuse continued for another 10 years. These days we know are far more likely to listen to our children.