Three reliable signs of autism in girls

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I saw a video (just came up suggested on Facebook) where someone stated that these three signs of autism in girls are very reliable

1. Doesn’t like close contact/hugs
2. Likes/relies on routine
3. Suffers with too much social stimulation at for instance school and is completely exhausted afterwards and needs quiet time to decompress

I found this really interesting as they apply quite a lot to me. Have others heard of these signs before, how reliable do you think they are?

Just sounds like an introvert to me.

These will all apply to everyone to a greater or lesser extent. Don't take medical advice from tiktok videos!

Well I am definitely an introvert

Thanks for the reality check !

Sounds like most neurotypical people to me

I mean, who likes hugs? Yuck - stand back!

Not massively, TBH.

Plenty of neurodiverse people really enjoy deep pressure in the form of hugs and are affectionate with family.

Plenty of neurotypical people like/need routine.

And practically every introvert finds social time exhausting and needs time to decompress.

Same dragonpox !

Sounds like my NT DD.

Well I assume she's NT. She just likes alone time.

I'm really not into labelling people this way I have to say, those three things sound like a happy and healthy way for a girl to be TBH.

I think your should report that video for giving unqualified medical advice

I'm NT. Hate hugs from anyone other than DH - I wasn't raised in a touchy feely family and it's alien to me. I hate following routines but I have to rely on it to get things done or I fall down rabbit holes in Wikipedia / a good book / arguing with people on the Internet. I get peopled out quite quickly, always have.

It's just TikTok and Facebook, not reality. The amount of shocking lies, medical misinformation, discrimination and general "fake news" is astounding. Take it all with a pinch of salt, and always fact check anything like that.

My dd 9 has ASD. None of those apply to her! She's extrovert, loves close contact and being around people. Her communication and eye contact are poor though and she can't follow verbal instructions easily.

There won't be 3 signs that fit all cases. Each child with ASD is different.

Autism is a huge spectrum and a neuro developmental disability, if you feel you maybe on the spectrum then seek an assessment from professional, s qualified to do one,.

No. That's not correct. While girls with autism may display those traits they equally may not, or just have one, or two.

I can see where they've got it from - it's a very simplistic interpretation of the triad of impairments. These being communication and language, social interactions and rigidity of thinking.
And the Triad is itself very simplistic, it's a way of putting a range of difficulties into groups.

I think I saw that video, I thought it was a bit daft at best, misinformation at worst. I'm autistic, I love hugs bc I'm hyposensitive to touch and deep pressure is amazing. Others might hate physical contact bc of being hypersensitive to touch. It's not a diagnostic feature at all.

The only one of those that applies to my autistic daughter is number 3. It’s really not that straightforward.

@Dragonpox

I mean, who likes hugs? Yuck - stand back!

I have ADHD and I love hugs! I am starved of them because my DP has ASD and I dream of being hugged. I need touch. It is crucial for my health and wellbeing and I am tempted to leave him because of it. Covid has meant no hugs from friends or family either.

I am all these 3 things but I'm not autistic, I am an introvert.

ASD is a vast spectrum, these things could be anyone and you wouldn't even be considered for investigation on these alone.

There is a new trend where everyone is ASD at the moment I have noticed comments like "we are all a bit autistic" and "my child is autistic" and when further in the conversation it turns out they were investigated and denied diagnosis.

ASD is a serious health condition to many people and these trends seem to diminish the struggles of actual people with ASD.

Oh god yes.
We're all a bit autistic.
No.
Fuck off.

See also shitty man being a shitty bastard to his partner - could he be on 'the spectrum" op? 🙄

I have autism

1. Doesn’t like close contact/hugs

totally depends who it is.

2. Likes/relies on routine

Not really. its far more complex than that. feel trapped by routine in many ways but Im PDA as well, so that shows up quite differently. Add in ADHD and I can have a fixed routine for a period of time and then suddenly hate that and create a whole new one

3. Suffers with too much social stimulation at for instance school and is completely exhausted afterwards and needs quiet time to decompress

This a bit more. Unless Im enjoying it in which case not.

There are no hard and fasts with autism apart from the 'difficulties in the 3 areas' but everyone with ASD is as different as the neurotypical people are different.

I’m autistic and there are no ‘three signs’. Diagnosis is a complex process. And TikTok really is no substitute for, ya know, medical knowledge

Doesn’t like close contact/hugs

My diagnosed with ASD DD loves hugs and deep pressure, it's a sensory need for her, so whoever wrote that list hasn't got much of a clue.

Anyone who says "all autistic people do xyz is a twat simply not educated enough about autism to know that's not true.

If you've met one autistic person, you've met one autistic person and their traits are unique to them.

@RogueRebel

ASD is a vast spectrum, these things could be anyone and you wouldn't even be considered for investigation on these alone.

There is a new trend where everyone is ASD at the moment I have noticed comments like "we are all a bit autistic" and "my child is autistic" and when further in the conversation it turns out they were investigated and denied diagnosis.

ASD is a serious health condition to many people and these trends seem to diminish the struggles of actual people with ASD.

Oh yes, Ive heard this is the shiny new thing to 'identify' into.

Im all with 'I think I MIGHT BE autistic' but unless you have had an independant diagnosis from someone who knows what they are looking for, I really hate that people are claiming a diagnosis on self

'but we know ourselves/our child better than anyone else/a dr who only sees them for an hour'

No. You Dont. You see what you want and are as influenced by bias as when you read your horoscope. Your insights and background info will form an important part of the diagnostic process, and the people assessing are looking for stuff that you possibly wouldnt even pick up on.

'you are exclusionary/making a diagnosis only available to those who can afford it/ keeping the diagnosis in the hands of the 'establishment'
no. its ridiculously long waiting times, but you WILL get seen. And if you/your child has it, you will get a diagnosis. Its not the trendy new flag to drape yourself in to make you feel special and winning at the competative victimhood, and take over as 'spokesperson for 'the autistic community' many of whom have some serious problems and who's parents or selves DONT celebrate the real difficulties facing them daily, and who's voices get drowned out.

TBH most of the identity autists, many of the ones on TicTok sound more like narcissists.

sorry. rant over

Those three signs would also apply to boys and neurotypicals.