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My DM has sepsis- need a handhold

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Smurftastic · 07/09/2021 12:28

Yesterday my mum was taken by an ambulance and today we were told she has sepsis (probably as a result of an UTI). She also suffers from end-stage-liver-disease.

We managed to get a home visit from her GP last Friday. All he did was check her blood pressure and temperature and said he'll book a nurse to get her a blood test. It being Friday meant nurse only called on Monday to arrange something and didn't even come!

AIBU to be appalled at this? We don't know how severe her sepsis is as some of the symptoms overlap those of her liver disease, which I'm assuming is why the GP wasn't alarmed. She's in hospital on antibiotics now, but they'll not letting anyone see her due to covid.

Please someone tell me she can still get out of this alive Sad...

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Fernando072020 · 07/09/2021 13:21

Not surprised you're angry op.

Hoping your mum makes a full recovery💜

MujeresLibres · 07/09/2021 13:34

I don't have any experience with sepsis, but she is receiving the best treatment now so you have to hope. My dad spent time in ICU with kidney failure and we all expected him to die, but he recovered. Best wishes OP, to you and your mum.

Mynameismargot · 07/09/2021 13:41

I'm sorry to hear about your mum. This time 2 weeks ago I was very ill in hospital with sepsis, it was all very scary and there was talk about induced comas and ventilators. It hasn't been easy but with lots of antibiotics and various other medications, I am on the road to recovery. She is in the best place and if my experience is anything to go by they don't fuck around in hospital when it comes to sepsis. I hope she makes a full recovery.

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vampirethriller · 07/09/2021 13:45

I've had it twice, one time was worse and took me a good few months to get back to normal but the other only took me about three weeks to feel like myself again. They take it very seriously and she's in good hands.

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Smurftastic · 07/09/2021 14:43

Thank you all. No more news from the hospital other than she's not urinating- hoping her kidneys are OK. It's the fact she has liver disease and diabetes as well that worries me the most- it makes getting sepsis much more dangerous!

I just can't believe her GP didn't do more.
She also had to wait 8 hours for an ambulance and had problems breathing. My dad couldn't lift her off the bed on his own to take her to the hospital Sad.

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Smurftastic · 08/09/2021 18:56

Just thought I'd update, DM regained consciousness and antibiotics are working. Still unknown the primary source of infection but it will be confirmed tomorrow. I tried to talk to her but she wasn't very with it yet, I'll try again tomorrow.
Fingers crossed she'll get out of this as she's very frail.

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MujeresLibres · 08/09/2021 22:19

Hope she continues to improve,
@smurftastic

Chillyjellytotty · 08/09/2021 22:45

Glad she is improving, must be really scary for you all. The problem with blaming the doctor/nurse is sepsis can/does happen very very quickly. I would focus your energy on helping your mum recover, and learning the symptoms of sepsis.

My DM has sepsis- need a handhold
EIIa · 08/09/2021 22:47

My dad contracted sepsis after a UTI

He fought it off after a few weeks
He’s diabetic so everything heals slowly

This is a scary time for you OP but the battle can be won - my dad is hugely frail and he was alright after five rounds of ABs

WingingItSince1973 · 08/09/2021 23:05

Hope your mum starts feeling better and responding to treatment soon xxx

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Smurftastic · 20/09/2021 23:08

Unfortunately mum didn't make it. Sepsis was fought off but she suffered from other infections, including problems with her kidneys and gallbladder. She was too poorly from her liver disease to stand a chance. Thank you all for sharing your stories and support. I'm glad she was in hospital under good care and anaesthesia so she suffered as little as possible.

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halfhope · 20/09/2021 23:15

Oh smurftastic I'm so so sorry for your loss 💐. Your poor Mum. Be exceptionally gentle with yourself and take the very best care of you. May she rest in peace. X

ElizabethTudor · 20/09/2021 23:18

I’m very sorry for your loss @Smurftastic 💐

Babamamananarama · 20/09/2021 23:20

So sorry for your loss.

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Smurftastic · 20/09/2021 23:26

Thank you. Really struggling right now. One moment I think I'm ok only to burst in tears a second later. What is worse she died exactly a week after I gave birth and she never got to meet my baby.

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BlueMoons90 · 20/09/2021 23:28

I'm so sorry for your loss Thanks

wishing3 · 20/09/2021 23:30

Oh I’m so sorry. What a time for you. Xxx

nockybocky · 20/09/2021 23:31

I'm sorry, how awful for you Thanks

PersonaNonGarter · 20/09/2021 23:33

Oh that’s so sad. I am so sorry for your loss, and at such a special time for you too. Mums are the best Flowers

wheretonow123 · 20/09/2021 23:36

Very sorry about that. May she rest in peace.

hockeysticks89 · 20/09/2021 23:41

I'm so, so sorry to hear this. You sound like a lovely daughter xx

ElizabethTudor · 20/09/2021 23:54

Oh no, that awful Op. I really am so very sorry.

2018SoFarSoGreat · 21/09/2021 03:26

I'm so sorry to read this, what a terrible outcome. It is at least a kindness that her care was good at the end. 💐

Congrats on the new baby. My family believes firmly in the 'one out one in' philosophy. It offered a little help when my father died.

Porridgealert · 21/09/2021 03:37

I'm very sorry to hear this. I didn't post before because my dad had it and he didn't make it. He'd had it for a few weeks and had been to the hospital for a check up for a pacemaker, mentioned it there and they still did nothing. He went into hospital and it took them a couple if days(!) to decide to do blood tests but by then it was Friday so nothing can happen until Monday because no one in the NHS likes working at a weekend! He'd got it from the pacemaker which had infection in it. My dad was the loveliest man imaginable, never complained and the treatment he got was shocking.
I'm so very sorry for your loss. It will get better but it takes a long time. My dad has been gone 6 years and I still cry. Congratulations on your baby.

FuckingFabulous · 21/09/2021 06:37

I'm so sorry. What a sad set of circumstances.

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