Dd in A&E update.

[JackOfGentleman]

I thought I'd create a new thread so it's easier to find the update.

She was woken up from the sedation this morning, which went well apparently. I saw her this afternoon and she's doing really, really well. Still in ICU for the moment but they'll be moving her tomorrow.

I can only see her for an hour a day which is so, so hard. But COVID rules are there for a reason.

Such a relief for you @JackOfGentleman x

We're going to get private psychiatric care for her.

You could do that but also see what the NHS offers after this incident. They can be really good when they assess the level of risk as severe, which I imagine they will in this case.

I do know as I've spent a long time in the system and they've been ok at the time.

Private psychiatry I didn't have a particularly good experience with, but private therapy was worth it.

Keep in the NHS system too, so they know about her and can give her support when needed.

Most parents don't know if their child self harms, it's not crap of you to miss it. x

So pleased to read she's awake. As others have said people who self harm are very good at hiding it, I had no idea my DD was doing it.
Make sure you have some support too x

@me4real

Such a relief for you *@JackOfGentleman* x

We're going to get private psychiatric care for her.

You could do that but also see what the NHS offers after this incident. They can be really good when they assess the level of risk as severe, which I imagine they will in this case.

I do know as I've spent a long time in the system and they've been ok at the time.

Private psychiatry I didn't have a particularly good experience with, but private therapy was worth it.

Keep in the NHS system too, so they know about her and can give her support when needed.

The thing is that they've basically told us that the acute mental health team probably won't see her and there's likely to be little follow up. Quite how someone who has ended up in ITU trying to end their life isn't going to qualify as a priority is beyond me. But the services are desperately stretched 😞

Thank you very much for sharing your experience. This is a new and wobbly path for us all and every insight is so valuable.

If you can go private, absolutely do it. Puts paid to all the anxiety around waiting times and finding the right fit.

Private psychiatrists are less fixated on drugging patients too.

Hope your beautiful daughter continues to improve.

We paid private for an psychiatric assessment- this identified her needs.
As you mentioned the NHS is hugely stretched and with a suicidal thoughts we wanted to access help ASAP.
I feel the NHS is fire fighting only urgent help available after attempting numerous times before access to help! (I know it’s the system not the people’s fault)
We worked with CAHMS - the private assessment meant we could get on with it. She had CBT through CAHMS and once the course was done we paid for private therapist.
It was a stretch but worth it with the right therapist!

So for us a mix of it both worked along side each other.

Im glad shes doing better op but i think its actually disgusting theyre not going to give aftercare and people wonder why theres so many people with mh problems that just slip through

Oh that’s so lovely to hear op. I was just thinking of your post the other day, don’t forget to look after yourself & don’t beat yourself up as others have said you can’t be there all the time. I’m glad she’s getting the help she needs

Worried234
Cutting isn't for show and is not a random behaviour.
Stopping it is best - diverting it is sometimes all that can be done for a period in someone's life.

I have heard about the elastic band diversion.

Found you, hope your daughter is ok

Glad she is OK. See if you can request dbt? I've heard this is good xxx

Been thinking about you both hope she’s soon home and she gets the help that she needs take care x

I'm so glad to hear she is improving OP, I had everything crossed for you. Sadly the lack of support she will get is not surprising, as you say, you do have to wonder though, what does qualify as a person in crisis if someone who has made such a serious attempt on their life isn't seen as such.

I wish her all the best with her recovery and please do get support for yourself, you have been (are going through) a huge trauma and will probably need some help to get your head around it at some point. Sending love to you and your family.

Good morning OP, really good news to hear that she has woken up smoothly. I put a link on your old thread to here hope you don’t mind.

I cut when I was younger and even hid it (mostly) even from the partner I was living with and sleeping with! You can’t know everything.

Thanks for updating OP. Wishing your daughter well. Hope she can begin therapy very soon.

Really glad to read a positive update. Sending you and your daughter the very best wishes, and hoping that you find support for her. Look after yourself too 💐

So pleased for you and it sounds like you have really positive plans which is great