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CF potential neighbour-to-be? Should I say something?

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Givemebackmyhulahoop · 03/09/2021 10:40

NCed for this as it's very outing but I've been around on and off for a while (post-penis beaker but pre-spangran for a general idea.) I'll try to keep this as brief as possible while including all the information so I don't drip feed lots later.

We live in a 4 in a block set of flats, all with own front doors into gardens. We rent an upstairs flat privately and downstairs is also private but a different landlord. Downstairs has been empty for almost a year with the landlord appearing on random weekends to do work inside. There is a large shared back garden, with a shared area and then "divided" lengthways for each flat. However, there are no boundaries within the garden and our agreement with the previous downstairs tenants was just to share the whole lot as it made it easier. During this time they installed a large wooden playframe on "our side" which is still there although they took the swings from it with them. They also left a lot of damp-damaged furniture in the shared shed which the landlord has been meaning to clear out, and a bunch of toys across the garden which are piled up behind the shed now too.

Yesterday we heard the squeaky shared side gate open and close and some voices. The children from various neighbours often lose their balls into our garden so I expected it to be them but when I went into the kitchen I saw a couple walking along the back garden and a small child playing on the playframe. I guessed they were maybe viewing the flat and just wanted to check out the garden.

DD1 was at our front door with the dogs in our own enclosed front garden area when they were leaving, they asked if the driveway in front was ours (which it is) and then crossed the road to their car. DD1 got the dogs inside just before I saw their child run from the back garden to the road holding something (I guess a toy from behind the shed) and a large green hula hoop. OUR large green hula hoop. They loaded her and the hula hoop into the car and drove off before we had a chance to go down and say it was ours.

So should I put a note through the door for when the landlord is next there explaining that they mistakenly took our hula hoop and asking for it back? I could try and catch him in person but we never know when he'll be there and don't have contact details for him.

I know it's "just" a hula hoop, and it's a basic plastic one, not an expensive weighted one or anything, so I could just leave it, but it's the CFery of taking things out of someone else's garden that's pissed me off. If they do this when viewing a garden, I don't know what they might do as actual neighbours.

As per MN rules I've drawn a diagram to help. Not to scale. I'm using the app so I hope the photos appear as I know they don't always show up for everyone, there should be one bigger one then a cropped one of just our bit.

CF potential neighbour-to-be? Should I say something?
CF potential neighbour-to-be? Should I say something?
OP posts:
SarahAndQuack · 03/09/2021 10:56

I wonder if your the LL said something about there being toys left behind by the previous tenants and to help themselves?

Mariell · 03/09/2021 12:22

It seems obvious to me that the landlord has indicated the toys belonged to the previous remnant so simply contact him and tell him that the hoop is actually yours.

EL8888 · 03/09/2021 12:24

I would ask for it back definitely

ApolloandDaphne · 03/09/2021 12:28

Yes I would pop a note through the door saying that the people who came to view on X date at Y time took a hula hoop belonging to your child and could they ask for to back please.

Disfordarkchocolate · 03/09/2021 12:30

Ask for it back and set up a small business doing diagrams for other MNs who struggle.

SW1amp · 03/09/2021 12:33

@Disfordarkchocolate

Ask for it back and set up a small business doing diagrams for other MNs who struggle.
😂😂😂😂
TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 03/09/2021 12:40

Can't make my mind up about the hula hoop but I am a little concerned that your firepit and BBQ are dangerously close to a bush.

CatalinaCasesolver · 03/09/2021 12:40

Christ you have a lot of time on your hands to produce a diagram like that 🤣

StarryStarrySocks · 03/09/2021 12:45

Definitely write a note asking for it back. Be prepared not to actually get it back though. Sad

abigailsnan · 03/09/2021 12:46

I also think maybe LL has told them to help themselves to garden toys but you just wouldn't take them with you would you ? play with them when in the garden yes but take them home with them is a no no.
If they are going to be new neighbours keep a sharp eye on your belongings in the future.

mammalazarou · 03/09/2021 13:01

Very CF. Off topic but I love your pencil Grin

SpiderinaWingMirror · 03/09/2021 13:06

All that to say "should I ask for a 99p hula hoop back from people who drove off with it?"
I would say life is too short.

LittleCatDog · 03/09/2021 13:11

Does your pencil say cuntychops on it?! 😂 Great diagram, I like the dogs 👍🏻 I agree the LL probably said they belonged to previous owner so help yourself. I would pop a note through and say it was yours

danni0509 · 03/09/2021 13:14

No advice but I love your little washing line 😂

Perching · 03/09/2021 13:18

Ask for it back its v cheeky
👏👏👏 for the diagram
@MNHQ can we please have a diagram of the year award? December is not too far off… we can have a zoom award ceremony and everything.
I’d like to nominate the OP

Woodswoman · 03/09/2021 13:19

Great pencil. Any chance you could add a bit of colour to the diagram? I struggled to see which was your house and had to go for a little tour of your area first.

gardeninggirl68 · 03/09/2021 13:21

Love the dog drawing

And the fact it's a squeaky gate and not just labelled gate!

The hula hoop? Yeah I think he said help yourself to the abandoned toys......where on the drawing was the hoop? I missed it in the excitement if a detailed diagram!

Sssloou · 03/09/2021 13:21

Bee garden?

4 socks on the washing line ….. !

Love it - what breed are those two dogs?

ThePoint678 · 03/09/2021 13:24

Wow - that drawing! The dogs and clothes line is just showing off. Agree you need to offer yourself talents to others.

Oh and I wouldn’t care about the hula hoop unless it’s worth some money. Maybe send a note telling them what’s happened (assuming they told them they were the old tenant’s belonging, when some are actually yours) so they don’t make a similar offer in the future.

MrsScrubbithatescleaning · 03/09/2021 13:43

Surely if they were only viewing they shouldn’t encourage their DD to take home something from someone else’s garden?
Cheeky fuckers indeed!

I hope they don’t move in if that’s what they’re like when just viewing a property. Shock

If a child leaves a toy/coat at our local playground, I’d expect it to still be there when they next went to play. Taking something that clearly doesn’t belong to you is theft, plain and simple.

Whatamesssss · 03/09/2021 13:50

Def ask for it back.

I especially love the washing line with T shirts hung the correct way. I like the attention to detail.

⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

godmum56 · 03/09/2021 13:54

I am thinking misunderstanding BUT I am also thinking that you should fence off your area of garden now if its not a formal "right of way" type shared space, ideally with something solid but temporary. That way there should be no misunderstanding with the new neighbours. If they are good eggs you can take the fence down again and if not them not.

Whatamesssss · 03/09/2021 13:54

Also you will need to invest in a 🐧 Penguin Bollard as they will be parking on your drive.

Sssloou · 03/09/2021 13:54

If it’s advertised (board or online) with an agent - call them.

godmum56 · 03/09/2021 13:55

squeaky gate hahahahaha