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CF potential neighbour-to-be? Should I say something?

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Givemebackmyhulahoop · 03/09/2021 10:40

NCed for this as it's very outing but I've been around on and off for a while (post-penis beaker but pre-spangran for a general idea.) I'll try to keep this as brief as possible while including all the information so I don't drip feed lots later.

We live in a 4 in a block set of flats, all with own front doors into gardens. We rent an upstairs flat privately and downstairs is also private but a different landlord. Downstairs has been empty for almost a year with the landlord appearing on random weekends to do work inside. There is a large shared back garden, with a shared area and then "divided" lengthways for each flat. However, there are no boundaries within the garden and our agreement with the previous downstairs tenants was just to share the whole lot as it made it easier. During this time they installed a large wooden playframe on "our side" which is still there although they took the swings from it with them. They also left a lot of damp-damaged furniture in the shared shed which the landlord has been meaning to clear out, and a bunch of toys across the garden which are piled up behind the shed now too.

Yesterday we heard the squeaky shared side gate open and close and some voices. The children from various neighbours often lose their balls into our garden so I expected it to be them but when I went into the kitchen I saw a couple walking along the back garden and a small child playing on the playframe. I guessed they were maybe viewing the flat and just wanted to check out the garden.

DD1 was at our front door with the dogs in our own enclosed front garden area when they were leaving, they asked if the driveway in front was ours (which it is) and then crossed the road to their car. DD1 got the dogs inside just before I saw their child run from the back garden to the road holding something (I guess a toy from behind the shed) and a large green hula hoop. OUR large green hula hoop. They loaded her and the hula hoop into the car and drove off before we had a chance to go down and say it was ours.

So should I put a note through the door for when the landlord is next there explaining that they mistakenly took our hula hoop and asking for it back? I could try and catch him in person but we never know when he'll be there and don't have contact details for him.

I know it's "just" a hula hoop, and it's a basic plastic one, not an expensive weighted one or anything, so I could just leave it, but it's the CFery of taking things out of someone else's garden that's pissed me off. If they do this when viewing a garden, I don't know what they might do as actual neighbours.

As per MN rules I've drawn a diagram to help. Not to scale. I'm using the app so I hope the photos appear as I know they don't always show up for everyone, there should be one bigger one then a cropped one of just our bit.

CF potential neighbour-to-be? Should I say something?
CF potential neighbour-to-be? Should I say something?
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chesirecat99 · 03/09/2021 14:16

I would assume that the landlord told them he was throwing out the previous tenants' toys and their DD could help herself.

I would say something to the landlord though because it is about more than a 99p hula hoop if the landlord didn't give it to their DD. If they just helped themselves, they are CF thieves and you don't really want them as neighbours! The landlord might think twice about letting to them, saving you a lot of bother.

I would also mention that their DD was playing on the equipment on your side and ask if they had been made aware that part of the garden isn't communal so you aren't in the difficult position of trying to stop them using your garden if they move in and are CFs. Far easier to offer to share the garden if they turn out to be nice than reclaiming your space from CFs.

Givemebackmyhulahoop · 03/09/2021 14:30

I'm just out of a zoom call and have a bunch of stuff to read through so will try to reply as quickly as possible here, sorry if I miss anyone.

Most of the toys left were broken so I don't know if there was anything "good" to take and don't know if the landlord would have said that. I can ask if we see him though. I haven't seen the property advertised anywhere so our only contact is if we see him (or with a quick note).

Thanks for comments about the diagram, I was awake earlier than normal so put my time to good use when everyone else was still asleep and I was enjoying a coffee. Grin Apologies for the lack of colour on it, DD2 has made all the coloured pencils vanish somehow.

The pencil does indeed say cuntychops. A friend gave me sweary pencils as a gift a while ago but most have now vanished (I suspect DD2 again, hopefully they haven't been taken to school) and I've been left with cuntychops, shitburger, thundercunt and wankspangle.

The dogs are a Lhasa Apso and Shih Tzu. They're old boys now but both still act like puppies.

The barbecue and firepit are only stored in that corner, we bring them away from the fence and plant into a more open area when we use them as the neighbouring gardens are much smaller and we don't want their house/washing to end up stinking of smoke when we use them (which is rarely to be fair.)

And no penguin bollards required thankfully. We have a rather dodgy metal driveway gate that is closed almost all the time to stop the dogs escaping. DH is wanting us to get a padlock for it since Amazon delivery drivers have been ignoring the sign to use the side (squeaky) gate and the hinges are almost broken on the driveway gate now. So if anyone did dare use the driveway they'd find themselves locked in. Grin

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chesirecat99 · 03/09/2021 15:07

Most of the toys left were broken so I don't know if there was anything "good" to take and don't know if the landlord would have said that.

All the more reason to say something to find out if they stole it.

I would guess that they were at least told that the old broken toys and furniture were being cleared before the new tenancy, even if they weren't told directly that they could take the hula hoop. It's still CFery if they genuinely thought it was destined for landfill but not quite as much as just helping themselves with no good reason.

If that is the case, it would suggest that they didn't consider that it might belong to someone else who also has use of the garden... I would check that they realise it is partially shared, they don't have use of your half without your permission and ownership of the garden furniture/fire pit is clarified.

KindergartenKop · 03/09/2021 16:33

I love your pencil :)

user1471538283 · 03/09/2021 16:48

Ask for it back. You may never see these people again as they could only be viewing it. Regardless if the landlord said they could you dont allow your child to take stuff.

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