My husband is having emergency brain surgery, hand hold needed

[NewbieSM]

So my husband has hydrocephalus with a couple shunt fitted, has had it for nearly 20 years. This morning he woke up with a 10/10 headache, vomiting and blurred vision. CT scan showed very enlarged ventricles and a blocked shunt. He went in to theatre at 4pm to replace the shunt -normally a 2 hour procedure. His surgeon called me at 7pm saying that he has had a haemorrhage after they put the new shunt in, he's still in surgery now. I am absolutely terrified that I'm going to lose him, he's only 33 and has two you daughters I can't believe this is happening. Please mumsnetters I don't post here much but feel so scared and alone. He is the love of my life and I can't do this without him

Squeezing your hand so tightly and sitting here praying for good news for your and your DH. Keep faith OP. He will be ok. Sending lots of love and prayers. Xxxx

Thinking of you OP.
Hoping for the best possible outcome for you and your girls.
💐

Sending you love and positive thoughts OP xx

Thinking of you OP.
My dd had to have surgery for a brain haemorrhage so I understand. It’s so scary.
Hope you get some positive news soon 💐

Hoping you get good news soon. Best wishes OP.

Holding your hand, Newbie, it all sounds very frightening. He’s in the best possible hands; I hope you hear some encouraging news soon.

Hoping you hear back soon from the hospital with some good news

So sorry for you and your DH. It all must be very frightening.

Here’s a hand to hold too. Am thinking of you and your family. 💐

Do let us know how the operation went, Fingers crossed for you x x

Thinking of you and your DH tonight.

Slow your breathing down....focus just on the moment, nothing more. No considering future outcomes. Tell us about your girls

Is anyone with you right now @NewbieSM? If not, could you call someone to come and give you some company?

Sending lots of love and hoping things get better for your husband so young

Sending you lots of love and positively. He can & will pull through. Stay strong for him. ❤

Thinking of you from way across the pond in Atlanta,Georgia! Wishing your husband a speedy recovery and you peace and comfort

All the best to you, and echoing those who've asked if you have someone with you. I know it's really late, but please call someone if you're alone.

I hope your husband will be OK. Sending you lots of positive thoughts and a virtual hug

Handhold here

Thank you so much for the messages of encouragement, it's just the waiting and no news which is killing me. He is such a pinnacle of health otherwise, he's a personal trainer so very strong and physically fit he eats cleans, doesn't drink, this is so unfair.

My two gorgeous step daughters are with their Mum now who has been really supportive. They were with us this weekend so had to witness the paramedics working on him which was awful for them, I feel so guilty. They are asleep now but have been crying for Daddy which breaks my heart.

I'm sitting in my car in the parking lot as they won't let me wait inside because of COVID and they don't know how long he will be in surgery for and then recovery etc. They said I should go home and sleep but I can't leave him.

My amazing friend has driven over and is sitting with me, telling me funny stories and keeping me distracted, so I'm very lucky to have an amazing support system and all of you too now.

Just need to hear that he is ok, I will never ask for a single thing again if I can just have that reassurance

Sending love and positive thoughts. I hope you have someone with you. Your husband is in the best hands. Keep us posted x

Glad you've someone with you, he's in the right place. Hope you get some news soon x

Handhold for you

Thinking of you both. I really hope he recovers quickly.

Handhold and hugs 🤗