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Society treat professions like solicitors & police officers with much more respect? Anyone else agree?

32 replies

Homeontherangeuk · 29/08/2021 21:26

V brief intro... We're having an awful time with neighbours over, they have now started intimidating us & being passive aggressive towards us... DH & I are very much in agreement that they wouldn't dare mess with us if we were police officers, solicitors, govt or civil servants etc... Are we right or wrong?

OP posts:
Seesawmummadaw · 29/08/2021 21:27

Why would that even cross your mind?

Seesawmummadaw · 29/08/2021 21:28

Do they know what you do for a living?

MsTSwift · 29/08/2021 21:29

We are both solicitors and we had a bloody nightmare when we lived in London with rough as hell drug dealing grimmer neighbors so I would have to disagree!

SaminSeptember · 29/08/2021 21:32

More likely they wouldn't mess with you if you looked like a bodybuilder or gangster I'd say.

AlfonsoTheMango · 29/08/2021 21:35

You are conflating two different issues, OP - how society regards solicitors, police officers and your relationship with your neighbours.

MadMadMadamMim · 29/08/2021 21:37

Really?

I'd have said that very, very few people in society treat police officers with respect. Or teachers. Or doctors. Or solicitors. To name a few more professionals.

I've never seen such vitriol aimed at any other sections of society, frankly - but the abuse spilled at teachers, police officers and GPs over the past 18 months or so has been disgusting.

PinkFootstool · 29/08/2021 21:37

I never ever told my neighbours what I did for a living as a police officer. Too likely to end up with morons targeting me for my profession. I work in an allied role now, and still don't yeti many people what I do for a living.

EyesAsGreenAsAFreshPickledToad · 29/08/2021 21:37

I doubt your rough neighbours would know what a civil servant was.

SarahAndQuack · 29/08/2021 21:39

Why would they know?

I know my neighbours to varying degrees but the ones I get on with best, we don't talk about work. You'd look a massive prick if you constantly announced it, surely.

'Oh hello Linda from number 12, yes, we, the solicitors at number 11, did receive your Christmas card.'

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JackieCollinshasnoauthority · 29/08/2021 21:45

Not these days I don't think. Police maybe but not civil service etc.

AdoptedBumpkin · 29/08/2021 21:48

@Seesawmummadaw

Why would that even cross your mind?
This Confused I can't see your logic.
DameCelia · 29/08/2021 21:52
Grin If people know you're a solicitor they don't treat you with respect. They assume you earn a fortune, assume you 'get guilty people off' and assume you are solely responsible for slowing down the house buying process in this country. (£27k starting salary, no of course not, try blaming the lenders)
manipulatrice · 29/08/2021 21:52

I wish they did, maybe we wouldn't get assaulted each set.

TartanJumper · 29/08/2021 21:55

Society treats people like police and solicitors with respect if they are relying on them to keep them out to prison, and not always then.

Most people wouldn't care if their neighbours were professionals or not.

MrsPworkingmummy · 29/08/2021 21:56

Well, DH and I are teachers and I certainly don't think we're treated with a level of respect because of our jobs. To be honest, I think public perception of teachers is pretty poor.

WorraLiberty · 29/08/2021 21:56

Seriously OP? 😂😂😂

Sorry about your neighbour problem OP but your 'reasoning' is hilarious!

Draculahhh · 29/08/2021 22:00

I'm a 3rd year social work student, I don't tell anyone in Rl what I do. Social workers are either viewed with fear, disgust or people want your advice about the dodgy people at number 12.

FlowersinJune · 29/08/2021 22:04

I’m a barrister. My neighbour is a bully and has upset lots of neighbours. He has regularly threatened to report me to the Bar Standards Board. I use to get quite stressed about it, but now I’m like “go for it”. I’m sure the BSB would love to hear his complaints that I had parked too close to his driveway and therefore in breach of the Code of Conduct…

Zarene · 29/08/2021 22:07

Any other one here with a professional job and a nightmare twat of a neighbour.

I suppose I did at least have the ability to leave that flat, which I might not be able to do if I was skint. But that's not really the issue you mean.

MsTSwift · 29/08/2021 22:08

I am sure they would quickly realise he was a vexatious nutter and just feel sorry for you to have him as a neighbour

queenatom · 29/08/2021 22:34

I’m a solicitor and my husband’s a civil servant and I can assure you that these professions do not render you immune from dickhead neighbours.

Being a police officer might help, maybe.

plominoagain · 29/08/2021 22:42

I’m a police officer - treat me with respect ? Are you actually having a laugh ?

I have had nightmare neighbours before who gave not a shiny shit that we were police officers. In fact he would regularly threaten to get us sacked. And then ring the local county force for which we did not work and complain about our antisocial behaviour ( leaving and coming home at all hours , it comes with the job, even though we were practically creeping home ). They were most bemused .

Youcanchangeyournamebut · 29/08/2021 22:46

By contrast, we moved to get away from our arsehole neighbours...two police officers! Felt we were very unlikely to succeed in any complaint against them Hmm

NiceGerbil · 29/08/2021 23:00

Or if you were terrifying big men
Or looked really dangerous

I mean. So...

WorraLiberty · 29/08/2021 23:04

I'd like to think that no-one would be dickish enough to treat certain people with more respect because of how they've chosen to earn money.

By that reckoning you'd have to treat certain other people with less respect because of how they earn their money, wouldn't you?

Is this you OP? Do you respect solicitors and police officers more than you respect cleaners and refuse collectors for example?