Cursed houses?

[RamblingJenny]

Went to visit some family and one of my elder aunts got onto the topic of their last house being cursed, lots of odd turn of events, bad luck with health and strained relationships.
A neighbour leaned in and said she agreed as her first home had a bad energy they could not shift.

It’s not something I’ve experienced myself but wondered what others thought? It was an interesting topic.

I can sort of see how a house might give off a bad energy with low ceiling and not a lot of light. There are certainly some days our house feels more gloomy when it doesn’t get much light in some rooms.

Any thoughts? Can they be cursed / have bad energy?

I'm not sure about a cursed house but there was a house I lived in with my parents where lots of weird and unpleasant things happened for no reason. My mum was convinced it was haunted. It was a weird house generally - funny layout etc, so had a strange vibe anyway and maybe it was that but even thinking about it now, 30-odd years later, makes me feel edgy.

@annacondom Thanks for replying. I completely agree, I think some people can tune themselves out as they’re less subjective to it so they can live happily there. I’d say I’m quite in the middle with my senses but veering towards having the capacity to sense slight things. Where as my husband wouldn’t feel a nail going into him so I’m guessing he could live he’d be one of those living 18 years on!

How do people give those nuggets away about past house info? I’ve tried sniffing about asking neighbours about out homes history but everyone’s quite stand-offish here naturally. (Snobby area!)

@mistermagpie did you ever find out what your mum looked out for in her next properties to avoid it repeating? Thanks for the reply and story x

@WorraLiberty that made me

I’m not a woo fucker at all, and usually just say “Physics” to anything unexplained, but when I was a child, around 10 my Dad says, we went to visit a distant relative and I refused to go in the front door. I froze, wouldn’t speak, and then screamed like a banshee when he pulled my hand slightly to get me to move.

I have no recollection of this at all, and didn’t even know the story until a few years ago when I was flipping through my Grandparents photos, and there was one of them in front of the house. “That house looks like it has bad ju-ju” I said.

DBro started laughing “Wtf did you just say, you’re a Scientist” Then laughed even more, when he saw it’s just a normal detached house and not even remotely creepy

I blamed the Jack Daniels. Not sure I can blame JD for 10YO reaction though!

@Sceptre86 Thanks so much for replying. I’d say that being pregnant definitely would of had an impact on your senses, they say children under 4 (maybe it’s 5) have a much closer relationship with the ‘other’ and I can vouch for that after hearing what one of ours used to ask me in our old house. So I can see pregnancy being of a similar ilk.

Great advice and I will be sure to bare that in mind for us. Thank you 💐

Have any of you ever investigated to see of anything bad happened at your houses of they felt a bit off?

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No, I don’t believe so — it’s usually down to layout, lack of light, aspect, poor air quality etc, or to the anxieties and assumptions people bring with them. For instance, as I said on another current thread, a murder happened on our first floor landing, but the house doesn’t feel in any way oppressive to us or our visitors.

I believe that some people do believe in curses, though, and will ascribe simple bad luck and unrelated misfortunes to them..

@Topia

Yes some houses have negative energy. Others don’t. Some energies are “grounded” at location which means they will remain in situ regardless. Your instinct will tell you what kind of base energy a property holds - it’s important to go with that gut feeling.

And thus it becomes self-fulfilling! You listen to and trust your instinct about the "energy" a house has so then you notice all the negative things that happen and blame it on the house. It has to be the house that has caused the illness, divorce, financial problems etc. It couldn't possibly just be normal life that has ups and downs, often clustered (because that is how random events appear) If someone is living in a house they hate, it's easy to blame the house for everything that goes wrong.

People believe it because they have a need to find a reason for things and because they don't understand randomness.

No, I've had no experience of that personally, and am inclined to think that bad feelings will have some explainable cause - other than 'curses'; however, when a couple came to view a previous house of mine, the man seemed to take an instant dislike to me (even though I'm nice and friendly!) and viewed every room with increasing distaste. The feedback from EA was that he didn't get a good feeling from our house. I guess he felt something like others in this thread have felt.

It was a lovely house, though, and sold quickly!

@RamblingJenny thanks for saying that. I also did some positive visitations of the house filling with golden light and love. Another friend recommended plants.

The next place I also wasn’t happy with, but again we have very little choice at the time. But it was because of the location and practical things. It is much more modern and I’ve never felt afraid here. We are moving to our first non rented house hopefully soon. I feel that was right because I pictured the kids playing there happily. It has been loved and a good family home I think, so just felt fine. It is more an absence of a gut ‘nope’ feeling, if that makes sense.

@ElephantCup in the strange house in my earlier post I had thought about looking up the history, and I sat and worked right near the relevant bit if my local library just by chance. But honestly I felt so much that something bad had happened that I just didn’t want to know. Now I have left I might do so though.

Actually that reminds me that I lived in university accommodation where something very violent and tragic had happened. We all felt very uncomfortable there but I didn’t actually look it up until years later. And all that I thought were exaggerated stories were true and covered in the national press. I was very glad not to have known the details at the time of living there.

Sorry everyone else I do agree with @WorraLiberty, I don't think she was being offensive, she was just saying what she has seen, and to be honest I sort of agree. Some types of people are more either sensitive about "feelings" in houses.
I do believe in negative energy in houses, but think there are logical reason such as light, or lack of, lay lines and electricity pylons. (Never buy a house under an electricity pylon!) Many people I know have very simply and cleverly transformed the feel of their homes using Feng Shui.

Not sure what I believe, But I know what I experienced..

I moved into my boyfriend's house (now ex) lived there for years. I would get a feeling everytime I walked up the stairs, a feeling that I was being watched, a feeling that I had to get up the stairs as quickly as possible, a feeling of dread, like something bad was going to happen. I would go back to normal once I got off the stairs. (After we split up I moved into my own place and have never felt that way since)

A few days before I moved out I slipped on those stairs and fell from top to bottom, breaking my arm. I knew something was trying to get rid of me at that point lol

Oh great replies everyone!

@Blerg can I ask what you mean by positive visitations? Did someone spiritual bless the place etc? I understand exactly what you mean by the ‘nope’ feeling. I had this when viewing our first properties, no kids then but one house stood out where it was just soulless and I couldn’t imagine a future there.

@ANameChangeAgain Thanks for replying, currently interested in feng shui myself so that’s good to hear.

@ikinw oh wow what a story, sorry to hear that happened! Did your then boyfriend experience anything or believe you?

I do feel some houses have bad energy and others good. Many other cultures have entire systems to plan houses to maximise the good energy and minimise the bad—eg the Chinese have feng shui, Indians Sthapatya Veda, etc. These systems govern things like layout, orientation, and design of the exterior and interior of the house. In countries where these systems are followed you often find that even ultra modern buildings, eg banks and big corporate headquarters, are built in accord with the principles.

A person going into a building created in line with these systems will often not know the principles on which the buildings are structured but may get the feeling of harmony that good design engenders.

As well as the design I think that the quality of the people living there over the years can affect how a house feels to others.

I moved overseas, & was allocated a villa as part of my package.

There were practical issues - I ended up moving ds into the converted garage, which was intended as a second living room, to give the dds a bedroom each.

All fine.

But that house just felt unpleasant from day 1. The open plan downstairs never worked - we spent several weekends lugging everything about & swapping the dining & seating areas over. Still nope.

I created a lovely downstairs reading & TV room overlooking the garden & 'something' was definitely looming over me & breathing on the nape of my neck. Couldn't get the kids to linger after we watched movies in there, & it was noticeable that visiting/sleepover dc didn't much care for it either.

We moved after a year - landlady wanted her house back. Absolutely fine by me, although dc were disgruntled at having to move as the upstairs was fine & they liked their rooms.

New house was great (we've moved again since). On paper, spooky as fuck, with lots of odd dark corners, but completely welcoming.

A colleague moved into the Not Friendly house with his young family a couple of years after we moved out - landlady had decided to rent it out again. Obviously, I didn't say anything about it having bad vibes, but we talked about practical issues such as the dodgy boiler & nightmare landlady, etc.

He's recently moved.

'Corvus...was it me, or is that house just fucking horrible for no obvious reason?!'

'Well, the bedrooms are definitely a pain in the arse with that poky 3rd room etc etc'

'Yes yes, but I mean the bit of the L shape downstairs, my wife wouldn't sit there at night because it gave her the total heebie jeebies'.

'Ah yes...I dunno, might just be the big windows over the garden but yeah, we found that a bit spooky'

'The whole house REEKS of misery, did you not notice that Corvus? We hated it.'

'Well, I wasn't going to say anything, colleague, because I assumed it was us, but...yep.'

Work has put a new family there. Colleague & I are watching with interest. Both of us are resolutely non-woo, but I'm struggling to disagree with him - the unhappiness in that house feels baked in to the walls.

I can't explain any of this. It ought to be total bollocks & no doubt it is, but that house is Just Not Right.

Not cursed as I don’t believe in that, but there’s a house over the road from us where no one has ever stayed very long. Someone was stabbed there once, thankfully not fatally, and it’s also been a weed factory. No one noticed that until the police raided it. In reality it was overdeveloped for its plot, with a badly placed streetlight that made off street parking tricky. The current owners have spent a ton of money personalising it and managed to get the streetlight moved, so I think it’s probably lost it’s supposed ‘bad vibes’ now.

I lived in a house that didn't feel good. It felt very threatening.
The last two places I've lived have had a very happy feel.
Most have been neutral.

I am a pretty sceptical non woo person and have never felt uncomfortable anywhere I have lived.

But….

We have lived in our house for 12 years and it’s never felt quite right iyswim. Nothing I can put my finger on really. I certainly don’t feel scared or anything like that.

Then over lockdown we painted every room and laid a wood floor throughout the ground floor. I swapped all the curtains for blinds and when lockdown was over got new windows at the front of the house.

Now it feels like home and I feel so relaxed here.

I do wonder though if our financial ups and downs since moving here had something to do with the not feeling right. Once we had our own stamp on the place it changed how I feel about the house. This is the first time we’ve had the money to change anything.

Sorry that is all a bit rambling!