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Cursed houses?

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RamblingJenny · 28/08/2021 15:02

Went to visit some family and one of my elder aunts got onto the topic of their last house being cursed, lots of odd turn of events, bad luck with health and strained relationships.
A neighbour leaned in and said she agreed as her first home had a bad energy they could not shift.

It’s not something I’ve experienced myself but wondered what others thought? It was an interesting topic.

I can sort of see how a house might give off a bad energy with low ceiling and not a lot of light. There are certainly some days our house feels more gloomy when it doesn’t get much light in some rooms.

Any thoughts? Can they be cursed / have bad energy?

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WorraLiberty · 28/08/2021 18:43

You can help it by keeping your nasty judgement to yourself. Has nobody ever taught you if you've nothing nice to say, say nothing?

Only my great-grandmother. Thankfully my grandmother and my mother didn't put up with that sort of shit, designed to silence women and their thoughts.

On that note, have you read the last line of the opening post? The part where the OP asks for our thoughts?

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 28/08/2021 18:43

Some houses definitely have bad vibes or a bad feeling. When we were looking to buy a Victorian semi we viewed half a dozen or so of very similar houses in a grid of roads. One had such a bad feeling about it, made me dread the thought of going up the stairs, I wouldn’t have bought that one if it cost £1. I couldn’t have lived In it.

Getyourarseofffthequattro · 28/08/2021 18:44

@WorraLiberty

You can help it by keeping your nasty judgement to yourself. Has nobody ever taught you if you've nothing nice to say, say nothing?

Only my great-grandmother. Thankfully my grandmother and my mother didn't put up with that sort of shit, designed to silence women and their thoughts.

On that note, have you read the last line of the opening post? The part where the OP asks for our thoughts?

She asked for thoughts, she didn't ask for judgement.

And nobody is stopping you expressing your thoughts at all. Just don't appreciate your judgement.

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WorraLiberty · 28/08/2021 18:47

And nobody is stopping you expressing your thoughts at all. Just don't appreciate your judgement.

Again, I can't help you with that.

Getyourarseofffthequattro · 28/08/2021 18:48

@WorraLiberty

And nobody is stopping you expressing your thoughts at all. Just don't appreciate your judgement.

Again, I can't help you with that.

honestly I don't get it. Some people just come here to be mean. What do you get out of it?!

IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves · 28/08/2021 18:51

No they can't be cursed. If like you say, there's poor lighting or something then that's something that is real and that will make you feel a certain way. People get scared in the dark, feel uncomfortable in poor lighting, and so on because we're animals and it is instinct to feel fear in conditions with risk (as perceived on a conscious or subconscious level). Some people just add woo on top of that for some reason and turn a perfectly normal animal reaction to darkness into something supernatural. So, a dingy house with poor lighting and that badly needs airing out becomes 'cursed' and has 'bad energy'. I have no idea why but I'd love to understand it. It's fascinating.

WorraLiberty · 28/08/2021 18:55

Honestly, Getyourarseofffthequattro do you not think you've taken the OP's thread on enough of a tangent?

It's really not all about you and your feelings/offence taken at other people's thoughts and opinions.

I'm going to bow out now and hopefully if anyone else's thoughts offend you, you'll learn to scroll by and accept no everyone thinks the same as you.

Getyourarseofffthequattro · 28/08/2021 18:58

@WorraLiberty

Honestly, Getyourarseofffthequattro do you not think you've taken the OP's thread on enough of a tangent?

It's really not all about you and your feelings/offence taken at other people's thoughts and opinions.

I'm going to bow out now and hopefully if anyone else's thoughts offend you, you'll learn to scroll by and accept no everyone thinks the same as you.

I agree not everyone thinks the same as me, I've not told you not to voice your opinion. It's your nasty judgement and your comment about the "type" I didn't like. YOU have took the thread on a tangent with your comment. You didn't like not being allowed to voice your opinion but now telling me to stop voicing mine?

Right.

HerRoyalRisesAgain · 28/08/2021 18:59

If they can be cursed then I want to curse this house. No one is allowed in my home
On a serious note I know what you mean about houses that just don't feel right. I've been in some and they feel cold, empty, overbearing. Yet mine is home. I couldn't imagine being anywhere else.

HerRoyalRisesAgain · 28/08/2021 18:59

not

HerRoyalRisesAgain · 28/08/2021 19:00

Strange I can't grin...

IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves · 28/08/2021 19:02

Probably all the gin

HerRoyalRisesAgain · 28/08/2021 19:03

Hic...

IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves · 28/08/2021 19:15

Topia · 28/08/2021 19:54

Yes some houses have negative energy. Others don’t. Some energies are “grounded” at location which means they will remain in situ regardless. Your instinct will tell you what kind of base energy a property holds - it’s important to go with that gut feeling.

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RamblingJenny · 28/08/2021 19:59

Thanks for all the replies! Interesting views/opinions.

Topia I love your honesty, I’d just like to ask your advice - I don’t think we’ve had one house viewing where we weren’t pressured to rush through the house. It’s a constant pressure cooker even on second viewings, always seems to be a spanner appearing to increase stress on the actual day. Therefore, my question is how can you listen to your gut or how is it best to listen to your gut during house viewings which are such intense situations?

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Blerg · 28/08/2021 20:12

I rented a house for two years that was awful. There was not much on the market and I had a gut instinct not to go for it but I did.

It was neglected and unloved - in need of some repairs, worn decor. We had a lot of bad luck there and I started to feel on edge all the time about what would break in the house next. Electrical items failed frequently. Possibly just old wiring.

It was around 100 years old. So not very old really. I had a feeling there had been unhappiness there. Partly because of locks on the outside of bedrooms etc.

I felt afraid in the kitchen and like something bad had happened there. I’m not a woo person but I started I feel like I was losing my mind a bit and like the house was getting to me.

One of my relatives said they felt it was haunted. I was sceptical but surprised when they mentioned the specific spot in the house that I disliked. They said to image positive energies and hang hearts. I made some with the kids and hung them up.

It did help. Possibly because of the positive placebo affect of taking action.

I was very relieved to leave. So it was an odd experience. I could blame my bad mh at the time but it felt like it was caused in part by the atmosphere. I had horrible mental images living there, and I don’t have them any more.

Blerg · 28/08/2021 20:14

So really meant to say yes, I felt that house was cursed but given the way I felt at the time I can see it could have been very much in my mind. But I don’t entirely believe that if I’m honest.

JTTWC · 28/08/2021 20:27

I lived in a flat which had been converted from some offices. I use to have nightmares about the place when I lived there and even a while after I moved out. Nightmares like it being haunted and just a bad feeling about it. I actually woke up one morning having a panic attack about it. It had 2 windows in the whole place and no garden. Riddled with damp and mould and constantly dark with no natural light. I think it was the structure of the flat that gave me a bit of a ‘dark’ feeling. I just asked my partner if he felt the same and he said I was crazy

Sceptre86 · 28/08/2021 20:54

I went to see a house with my inlaws, the idea being that all of us would live in it together which tbh was enough to put me off from the start. The house was dilapidated and had a long windy drive, overgrown with weeds. The house itself was enormous and I quite enjoyed looking around the downstairs but as we ventured upstairs I felt a chill come upon me and a presence. I persevered and looked around but felt a distinct feeling of melancholy. When we got back home my fil asked if I had felt it too and I said yes. We were the only two to have felt the weight of something that didn't want us there. We didn't buy it and ended up living with mil and fil for another few years in a very old but happy home.

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RamblingJenny · 28/08/2021 21:11

@Blerg Thank you for taking the time to write your account. So sorry for you to have gone through that. I think I may take your idea of trying to make our own home have a more friendly feeling for now. My mum was hinting at me moving as we’ve had a few issues here but nothing terribly bad for me to be able to pin point it myself - which is where the convo with my aunt came up.
My mother is very spiritual and does see things often. So I’m wondering if she’s felt something here but doesn’t want to worry me?
Did anything help in particular with knowing your next house was ‘right’?

@JTTWC Thank you for sharing. That sounds awful! I had a similar experience in a friends flat I was temporarily staying in.

@Sceptre86 Thank you for replying. I wonder why your Filnand you felt it, are you both more open/aware? Did you have a certain thing to look out for in your now property so that you felt at ease?

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RainbowZebraWarrior · 28/08/2021 21:14

When I split up from my now ex husband, (amicable split, agreed we just grew apart) I figured I could live with him for a while, but he cried so loudly every night after we had agreed to sleep in separate rooms, I absolutley had to get out quickly (turned out he was having an affair) I was 38. I'd owned and lived in multiple properties in my life. Viewed 30 flats in 2 weeks. Picked a stunning flat and bought it after every other one was utterly dreadful. Lived there for 3 years. Victorian, wonderful features. But spent those whole 3 years being terrorised by what I can only describe as a viscous and angry entity. I have never experienced anything like it before living there, and have never experienced anything like it since (moved home 10 years ago and every night I've slept well and never had any issues) I have had far more real problems in life since, so I can't put it down to stress. I really think it was cursed.

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RamblingJenny · 28/08/2021 21:31

@RainbowZebraWarrior Wow what a fascinating and traumatic story. One poster previously said the ‘off’ feeling at their property was not there at first and sort of developed. Did you get that situation at that property?
As I asked others previously, what different feeling or advice would you give to other house hunters to avoid the ill trappings of a house like that? What did you look out for, or did you put it down to your gut?
Think I will have to take my mum with me on our future viewings!

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annacondom · 28/08/2021 21:36

I do think places can have bad energy, yes. Some people are more tuned in to this kind of thing than others. I would say that if you feel uncomfortable somewhere then it's not for you, but that doesn't mean someone else couldn't be happy there. There was a house near us when we bought our previous house that we were told had a bad reputation for divorces, but the couple who bought it then, about 18 years ago, are still there!

Sceptre86 · 28/08/2021 21:40

@RamblingJenny fil was quite a spiritual person whereas I'm definitely not but was pregnant at the time although I didn't know it. I'm not sure if that made me more attune.

When we eventually bought our own house I got a positive feeling as soon as I walked over the threshold, it was flooded with lots of light and I could immediately picture us living there.

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