Have you known "Great Love"

doadeer · 2021-08-23T15:34:15+00:00

I was listening to a romantic song at the weekend and got to chatting with DH about the notion of "Great Love" - the type they write songs about, make films about (but feel free to have your own definition).... If you died today would you say you've know great love? And are you still with that person?

Caramellatteplease · 23/08/2021 16:35

Yes. Not with the person
It wasnt the healthiest relationship

Hen2018 · 23/08/2021 16:46

No

potter5 · 23/08/2021 17:01

Yes. Met him at 16, married at 17. Am 59 now. Still together. Love him very much.

Galassia · 23/08/2021 17:02

Twice with a couple of toads in between.

Quick99 · 23/08/2021 17:04

I think dh wanted to meet someone and settle down it's never been a big passion fest love filled story. We love and care for each other and he makes me laugh.

ILoveAnOwl · 23/08/2021 17:05

Yes, but not romantically. I have been so loved by my family, my children and my friends. I am incredibly fortunate and try never to take it for granted as I know it's not everyone's experience.

MercyBooth · 23/08/2021 17:05

Yes Once.

Liverbird77 · 23/08/2021 17:06

Yes, but it was one-sided.

MangoBiscuit · 23/08/2021 17:08

Yes. And yes. I do feel really bloody lucky.

Hivis · 23/08/2021 17:08

Every time I thought I had I got shit on. There’s a pattern there. So I finally grew up and found a decent kind caring man who I love and when I hear his car coming up the road, I smile. But it’s not the love of songs.

Aquamarine1029 · 23/08/2021 17:08

Yes, my husband's love for me and mine for him. Been married for 25 years.

Hivis · 23/08/2021 17:09

I also agree with @ILoveAnOwl. I am very loved and love back.

tootiredtobother · 23/08/2021 17:10

nope

im married, have had a decent 30 years but.....

SwimmingUnderwater · 23/08/2021 17:11

Yes. It wasn’t a healthy relationship and has had profound effects on in my life. However it has made me who I am.

FoxgloveSummers · 23/08/2021 17:19

@ILoveAnOwl

Yes, but not romantically. I have been so loved by my family, my children and my friends. I am incredibly fortunate and try never to take it for granted as I know it's not everyone's experience.

This is such a lovely post and a welcome change to value those kinds of love as they deserve.

I bloody adore my husband, and he me. But it's much more domestic and less overwhelming than the swooning/off food/elope after a week love as depicted in films etc. I often think idolising that kind of love is more about nostalgia for how you sometimes feel as a teenager. Most times (as an adult) when I've felt almost painful longing for a person or I've behaved utterly irrationally, it was a sign that the whole thing will ill-fated and messed up from the start!

gab254 · 23/08/2021 17:20

Yes, he was KIA several years ago and I miss him so deeply it hurts, still, years later

Derrymum123 · 23/08/2021 17:27

Once, and I messed up and ended it. Didn't know what I had until it was too late. Married lovely man a few years later, but the great love was once in a lifetime and yes I miss him.

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doadeer · 23/08/2021 17:36

Thanks everyone I really enjoy reading all of your experiences and perspectives.

I am greatly in love, we have had a very hard year for other reasons than covid and it's made me value him a lot. We've been together over 10 years but I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I love him passionately.

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Soyouthought · 23/08/2021 17:41

No. I’ve had great passion and now stability but neither was what I expected. Or felt like Great love.

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 23/08/2021 17:52

I’m not sure I have. Even though I loved - I’m not sure it was real love as I always felt I was never myself and being what they needed me to be. I lived a lie.

The only absolute, unflinching, unconditional love has been for my pets.

It would be nice to know that kind of love with a decent chap.

chrisrobin · 23/08/2021 17:53

Yes, we've been together for 23 years and I count myself lucky each day.

riotlady · 23/08/2021 18:35

Yes, I think so, although I’ve just got back from my honeymoon so I might have my rose tinted glasses on!

Met DH when we were both in very bad places- mental health problems, unemployed, sleeping around (me), in an unhealthy relationship (him). He moved in immediately after we got together and I got accidentally pregnant 3 months later. On paper it was a disaster waiting to happen but we just knew we were right together, we lifted each other up and saw the best in each other. 4 years later we’ve just had a wonderful wedding, our daughter is 3.5 and a joy and we’re both healthy, happy and employed

SwimmingUnderwater · 23/08/2021 19:16

@riotlady

Yes, I think so, although I’ve just got back from my honeymoon so I might have my rose tinted glasses on!

Met DH when we were both in very bad places- mental health problems, unemployed, sleeping around (me), in an unhealthy relationship (him). He moved in immediately after we got together and I got accidentally pregnant 3 months later. On paper it was a disaster waiting to happen but we just knew we were right together, we lifted each other up and saw the best in each other. 4 years later we’ve just had a wonderful wedding, our daughter is 3.5 and a joy and we’re both healthy, happy and employed

That is amazing! Wishing you both so much joy in your marriage!

MutteringDarkly · 23/08/2021 19:35

Yes. Still miss DH, and it's over fifteen years since he died. Life now is happy, full of brilliant family / friends / animals. I enjoy my career and I feel very fortunate - but he was the one I could be my whole self with. I felt I'd found my home the first time I looked him in the eyes.

Craftycorvid · 23/08/2021 19:39

Had a very passionate ‘thing’ with someone that sent me slightly mad. I’m a different person as a result of it but it was very painful in certain ways and, whilst I look on him now as a thoroughly lovely chap, the insane feelings have gone.