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Have you known "Great Love"

57 replies

doadeer · 23/08/2021 16:34

I was listening to a romantic song at the weekend and got to chatting with DH about the notion of "Great Love" - the type they write songs about, make films about (but feel free to have your own definition).... If you died today would you say you've know great love? And are you still with that person?

OP posts:
ActonSquirrel · 23/08/2021 19:41

Yes. Once. He broke my heart.

Seagullsstopit · 23/08/2021 19:43

Yes and he died before we could marry.
No one else has come close.

ladygindiva · 23/08/2021 19:43

Yes. It ended badly. Very badly. He was not a nice person.

Mybestgirl · 23/08/2021 19:51

Yes.

Washyourtoes · 23/08/2021 20:02

Yes. In a quiet, lovely kind of way. When I am with him I feel safe, loved and like I am 'home'. And he feels the same.

Peeceandquite · 23/08/2021 20:18

No, I don't think so. I have love and stability, but definitely not the all consuming passionate love. I've had great lust before, and someone else who could've been a great love had things been different.

All things considered I'm happy to have the love I have.

DramaAlpaca · 23/08/2021 20:19

Yes and yes. I'm very lucky, and so is he Grin

DarlingFell · 23/08/2021 20:30

Yes, I am married to my ‘Great Love’. We both met in our mid forties, got married within six months of meeting and have been very happily married for 4.5 years. We absolutely adore one another, perhaps a little obsessively! He is my world and vice versa. I want to be with him all the time and vice versa. We miss each other when we go to work. We love one another more each day. It took me 43 years to fall in love though, before that, my life was good but I never felt properly, wholeheartedly ‘in love’ with anyone. He is my ‘other half’.

alwayswrighty · 23/08/2021 20:34

Yes, married 3 years nearly now. We were together 27 years ago for 3 years, then broke up due to location changes and working hours and somehow we managed to find our way back to each other.

Hivis · 23/08/2021 20:45

The only absolute, unflinching, unconditional love has been for my pets

Pets and children are the only times unconditional love is a healthy love

Plumtree391 · 23/08/2021 20:49

Yes I have. I wish I had appreciated it more.

msssm · 23/08/2021 22:40

Yes. He tragically died when we were both in our 20's, leaving me and our very young children.

I've never had a love like it since and don't believe I ever will. He was beautiful and I loved him passionately and completely. He was my best friend. He felt like home.

SharpLily · 23/08/2021 22:48

I've experienced the insane passion and the quiet comfort but I never really believed you could combine the two. Happily I was wrong and have had both for the last ten years and there's no sign of it changing. It feels like we're a part of each other and I've never before been as much my true, undiluted self as I can be with him. It's so incredibly relaxing.

Izzi0909 · 23/08/2021 22:51

Yes..about 10 years ago. It was very very intense but not sustainable. He referred to me as ‘his heroin’ to paint a picture

pumpkinpie01 · 23/08/2021 23:03

Yes and yes . Been together 16 years , never argue , lots of banter ,passion and laughs.

Nannyamc · 23/08/2021 23:03

Have been married to the love of my life for 42 yrs. Met when we were 17 . He is an awesome husband dad and granda. Everyone loves him. So blessed as i had a terrible upbringing. His family treated me as a daughter. Love spending time together.

EishetChayil · 23/08/2021 23:07

Yes. I loved her madly. Desperately. But she died after just a short time of being together.

I'm married now, to a man I love, but it will never match what I felt for her.

PostMenPatWithACat · 23/08/2021 23:13

Yes. Knew instantly and so did he. 33 years on.

PostMenPatWithACat · 23/08/2021 23:13

Such sad stories of loss on this thread. Flowers

OldScrappyAndHungry · 23/08/2021 23:15

Yes. Together 30 years so far. I count myself incredibly fortunate. Two beautiful children too. He’s an incredible father and husband and all round top human Smile.

MrsSkylerWhite · 23/08/2021 23:16

Yes and yes. Know how lucky we are.

minipie · 23/08/2021 23:39

No. I think I’m very lucky to have my DH but it’s not a movie/epic novel kind of love. I don’t think I have the right personality for that kind of love tbh.

halfhope · 23/08/2021 23:42

Yes, I've been very lucky. Utterly crap family of origin but super husband who I met when I was 20.

StormBaby · 23/08/2021 23:45

Oh god yes, I’d pined for it my whole life, I knew something was missing, and as soon as DH and I saw each other we both just knew. We’d have got married that first day if we could have

Verbena87 · 23/08/2021 23:52

Yes and yes (first day we were together I accidentally said “so when we’re married…” - but I meant it).

Like a previous poster I’ve also experienced really vast, restorative, sustaining love from family from birth. It is a massive gift and I think it makes it easier to love others too.