Anyone kept their LO sleeping in their room longer than average?

[Malibukev]

I'll give a bit of background so as not to drip feed. I have one DD aged 2.5. Born after several losses including a stillbirth. This has caused me to be very over protective and anxious about my dds well being.

So at the grand old age of 2.5 she is still sleeping in our room. And I love it. No urge to move her or logical reason as far as I can see although I do realise she is getting older and would probably need her independence before long.

Anyway I've tried her in her own room tonight, it's not gone well she's back in ours but I know I gave in too easily. I just aren't ready for it. I'm only really doing it as mil is always on about it and I think people have been getting in dps ear about it.

Has anyone had their LO in their room for this kind of time. Any pros / cons in the long run?

Thank you everyone. I didn't actually expect so many responses from people with similar view points. Noone I know does it in real life apart from one friend who's 4 year old moves during the night from his room to hers.

Her bigger bed is all set up in her own room. Her smaller bed in ours. I think it's a good tactic to keep it that way and let her choose.

I do think for her to successfully sleep in her own room we need to be at the point where she's not napping through the day and is ready for an earlier bedtime.

I've actually had the most crap nights sleep just for putting her in there last night to try. Bad dreams all night. Totally not worth it.

@Esspee

I can't help wondering how cosleeping impacts on your relationship with your partners.

I'm glad that my dh has enough empathy and love to understand that it's not about him, a grown man, but more about meeting the emotional needs of our young child.

He gets enough sex and intimacy, if that's what you're alluding to.

My ds co slept until he was 6, my dd until she was 4. They slept with us until they chose to go in their own rooms, which they had all ready for them.

My baby is one and she will be in with us for years to come too, although when the time comes she will share with 7 year old dd so I suspect she will be excited to do that as a toddler and may be a lot younger than the others. It will be up to her though.

They all had their own rooms/beds but never slept in them.

Ds is 19 now and is unscathed from the years of co sleeping

My DS is nearly three and he sleeps in our bed. I'm happy to do it as long as he wants to.

Plumtree391 (me) said: "....we still has some to make love ...".
What I meant was, we still had some time to make love. Don't know why it came out like that.

Malibukev: Noone I know does it in real life apart from one friend who's 4 year old moves during the night from his room to hers.
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People don't always tell the truth. I remember overhearing a conversation between my son and a few of his friends in which they all said they got in bed with mum and dad (except one who said his would never have him and his sister in their bed), but they didn't talk about it because mum and dad said people would think they were 'babyish'.

Lots do it, for years, and no harm done. In some cultures it's the norm.

Yes my 4 year old is still in my bed but that’s because I have an autistic child that can’t share a room.

We still have our 18 month old in with us! She is a dreadful sleeper and we all get more sleep for it!!!

My older three went into their own rooms at 12 months, DC4 at 20 months and DC5 is still in our room at 13 months. Whatever suits you is fine, it really doesn’t matter. I’d say they should be in their own room by school age.

I co-slept with DS2 until he was about 8 months and then in his own room but he’s 7 now and still gets into bed with us most nights!
We have a massive bed so makes it easier but he’s always been one for close contact. I figure he’ll grow out of it in a few years!
If you have the space and it doesn’t impact on you or your DH sleep then crack on!

My 5yo often hops in with us and I don’t mind at all. DH has no issue either and prefers it when he’s in with us. Certainly no jealousy or other issues on that front.
I’m sure when he’s older he won’t want too so I enjoy the cuddles while they last!

This whole thread is making me so nostalgic for the snuggly co-sleeping days. If anything, I'd go back and have them in my bed for longer!

Dd2 slept with us until 7, she's the most independent on the kids!

My ds2 only moved out at Easter when I got bunk beds..

He was 3 years 3 months...

DS slept in our room until he was nearly 5 as our second bedroom wasn't really suitable for a small child for various reasons.

I quite liked it tbh.

I think its more common than you think.

Who the hell is in your partner's ear about it and who's business is it of theirs?!

Really if that's the biggest dilemma going on in other peoples lives they need to get a grip.

You do you op. Your dc is only two and half for Pete sake not 16. Hardly any age to warrant concern over.

I'm not sure about DP. His work colleagues have younger children so I imagine it's something they discuss.

When I ask him why he thinks she should be in her own room he just says because she should now she's older. He has nothing to back it up with which is what makes me think he's listening too much to other people.

I've laid her in her own room tonight to read her a story before sleep and see how we get on. Do came up just after 8.00pm. I've come down out of the way.

The only perk I can see to her being in her own room is that we will have adult time downstairs but if he is still going to go to bed at 7. 30pm Iiterally have no incentive to push it.

I can think of no other reason at all to move her. Once she's asleep she is asleep and I sleep well knowing she is safe close by. It causes us no problems.

I agree, there will be friends telling me a half truth for sure!