Help settle an argument- daily puddings

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We have got into a bad habit of having something sweet after dinner every day.
We will usually have something like a biscuit, small chocolate bar, yogurt or occasionally something bigger like a cake and custard.
I have decided that it's not doing us any good. Me and dp have both gained weight and the extra sugar sometimes affects our dc behavior.

I decided today that we should stop the puddings. Maybe have them once a week but if we slip into bad habits then cut them altogether.

Dp thinks I am being mean and says that what we have is only a small amount and the children look forward to it. Admittedly, during the lockdown, it seemed to be the highlight of our day

I said he can continue to have it, it's his choice but me and the children will stop.

So,
Do you have a daily pudding?
Do you think we should stop them?

I think it depends on these things in the context of your wider diet. If you’re not having much sweet the rest of the day, I don’t see what harm a biscuit after dinner can do.

My DC get yoghurt and fruit after dinner. They do, however, get something like a biscuit with a snack at another time in the day.

We usually have something like yoghurt and fruit after dinner, sometimes a fairy cake/crispie cake if we have baked with the dcs. Often a "proper" pudding like crumble and custard on a Sunday. I actually find having something after dinner gives me my sweet fix and I don't spend the evening wanting chocolate. Our diet is pretty healthy otherwise.

We often have a biscuit after dinner with a cup of tea, I wouldn't personally class this as a 'pudding'.

Generally I don't think a pudding every day is a good habit to get into. But I don't have a sweet tooth so it's not something I'd fancy very often anyway.

We have yogurt/fruit as pudding most days. On Saturdays I do a roast and we have a proper pudding with that - usually fruit crumble and custard or steamed sponge and custard depending on time of year. At the moment Sat pudding is strawberries and ice cream!

Modern kids get a hell of a lot of sugar and refined carbs in their day to day food. They really don't need carby/sugary puddings as well.
That said, mine always have an icecream after dinner so I'm hardly following my own advice.

Never here. Only at Xmas etc .. birthday.

I always had pudding, and so did my children. These were home-made puddings, often with custard. they were always thin, fit and healthy, and still are. I feel sorry for all the Mumsnet children who have to make do with yoghurt. My house is a yoghurt-free zone.

We always have a pudding and it's always quite unhealthy but we are quite an active family. If any of us were overweight I'd probably cut them back to every other day or make them healthier.

I’ve had a pudding pretty much every day for over 40 years. I do try and make it fruit based so pies, crumbles, yoghurt and fruit etc.

We all seem to be doing ok.

My DC have pudding every day, but it is just yoghurt or fruit. Occasionally a mousse or something. DH and I don't, it's only usually a special occasion thing.

I don’t think it’s a great habit to teach your kids no. I’ve never done puddings unless it’s a dinner party or special meal Ie birthday dinner, Xmas etc. I really don’t think there is any need for it.

I have sugar free jelly and zero fat Greek yoghurt daily. I think that's okay. Am type 2 diabetic so am careful what I eat.

We do, but I avoid sugar in our savoury food, so no sugary cereal, no sugary sauces, snacks etc. Most children I know eat as more sugar in their breakfast than mine do in their pudding.

We always had dessert growing up and none of us were overweight . Now dh has a pudding every night , generally cheesecake / pie and custard / rice pudding etc , he would rather skip the main than miss out on dessert . I have dessert occasionally if I’m out but never at home , mainly because I’m just not keen on sweet things .

Kids get pudding every day here, often twice. Yes, it may just be fruit, but there is always the option, assuming they have made a decent go at mains.
Started with weaning DS1. He was skinny thing, and needed the calories. Hes still skinny, and very good at self regulating.
As adults, we often dont join in.

I always have a pudding after dinner. I really look forward to it all day. (And the dinner!) Life has had few pleasures recently so it's nice to have a treat.

We have pudding maybe twice a month, it is a rare treat. If the children are still hungry they can have seconds of the main course (I often make enough for leftovers for lunch the next day). I just don't really see any nutritional benefit to desserts as they are often sugary and full of empty calories. Full fat Greek yoghurt and berries is sometimes offered but usually rejected!

I think you have to look at it in the context of the rest of your/your kids' diet. It's fine if you're eating healthily the rest of the time and only having something small for pudding. Not so great if actually your kids are having a mid-morning biscuit and cake or an ice-cream in the afternoon. And of course if you're all putting on weight, then you need to up your activity levels or reduce your calorie intake.

We always had a pudding every day, and cake, and biscuits!
None of us are overweight, all fit and active, no one is diabetic. My mum has a serious heart condition, but that was genetic, and as she’s 85, I think this speaks for itself.
Love rice pudding , bread and butter pudding, jam roll poly and the like. With plenty of custard. And loads of exercise , activity, and mental stimulation, what’s the problem?

many people here are toting yoghurt as an alternative to pudding. There was a news item yesterday saying that one children's yoghurt was the sugar equivalent of around 16 biscuits

I don't think it's ever good to cut out things like this completely. Doesn't it just make children crave them more as a result. Fine if you want to cut down, but what does cutting out entirely achieve?

I think everything is fine in moderation.

If they aren't having biscuits, yogurts and cake during the day it's fine at dinner time.

Ds and I don't really have a sweet tooth for puddings. We have decent sized meals that fill us up that we don't want dessert.

But ds swim trains for 17 hours a week and he's terrible for eating too many biscuits and chocolate on a Sunday when he doesn't train - so he doesn't need pudding as we always have a full on roast too!

The pudding is the only sweet thing they have in a day unless we have gone on a day out and get an ice cream or similar.

When they go back to school they will be having a pudding after their hot meal.

I think one sweet treat once a day is more than enough.

We have eaten dinner today and no one has asked where the pudding is.

Growing up, I always had a 'homemade' pudding, daily. So something like apple crumble and custard, trifle, blamanche, Angel delight or cake at tea time. But I lived with my grandparents who were very old school and regimented with their routine and made everything from scratch. Snacks were very limited, maybe a piece of fruit or crackers. So you were really hungry by meal times. I didn't grow up with a weight problem, In fact was one of the slimmest of my friends. When I met my ex dp, he came from a background where they didn't get much and he thought I was spoilt for getting pudding every day, because he got it only on special occasions or for a treat. I did think that was a bit mean!

Saying that, kids these days, do get a lot more processed snacks and mealtimes aren't as regimented as they once were. Mine can have a lolly, yoghurt or chocolate after dinner if they eat most of their main meal.. they don't always want it, nor do I. I don't tend to do the 'official' sit down pudding after dinner as everyone's always full. I don't do so many puddings with custard anymore, only because dh isn't really into them. None of us have a problem with our weight, but I do stress about cleaning teeth. I think the being slim thing tends to be genetic though.