Help settle an argument- daily puddings

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We have got into a bad habit of having something sweet after dinner every day.
We will usually have something like a biscuit, small chocolate bar, yogurt or occasionally something bigger like a cake and custard.
I have decided that it's not doing us any good. Me and dp have both gained weight and the extra sugar sometimes affects our dc behavior.

I decided today that we should stop the puddings. Maybe have them once a week but if we slip into bad habits then cut them altogether.

Dp thinks I am being mean and says that what we have is only a small amount and the children look forward to it. Admittedly, during the lockdown, it seemed to be the highlight of our day

I said he can continue to have it, it's his choice but me and the children will stop.

So,
Do you have a daily pudding?
Do you think we should stop them?

Only with a roast dinner really, though sometimes on a cold miserable day and also as compensation for eating homemade soup as a main!

We rarely have pudding. If we do it might be Greek yoghurt with some fruit or porridge oats, milk and sultanas. If I do a Sunday roast I might do a "proper" pudding such as crumble or syrup sponge.

We rarely have pudding, it's never been a thing in my family.

My version of a balanced diet is to mainly concentrate different nutrients in different meals.

I don't have a pudding most days, but I often have a lunch that's a large bowl of Greek yogurt with honey, seeds, berries and banana. I don't crave a pudding after dinner with that.

You don’t get to decide that you’re both stopping them. You decide if you want to, and leave it up to him to choose what to do for himself.

@54321nought

many people here are toting yoghurt as an alternative to pudding. There was a news item yesterday saying that one children's yoghurt was the sugar equivalent of around 16 biscuits

I don't buy children's yoghurts though, we have Greek yoghurt with no sugar.

Nope...if we have a Sunday roast (probably about once every 3 weeks in autumn/winter as its only me and DD), I'll do a pudding, and sometimes on a Friday night.

I prefer to have something sweet with lunch or mid afternoon with a cuppa.

These threads come up quite often and the thing that is clear is that we all have different ideas of what “pudding” means. Fruit is always on offer at any time of day here, and sometimes one or more of us wants some after a meal, and sometimes we don’t. I don’t class it as pudding. Sometimes yoghurt is on offer but I don’t always have it in the fridge. If the children ask for it after a meal and I have it in, they can have some. Anything else, like “proper” puddings (crumble, tart, ice cream etc) or chocolate/cake/biscuits etc we sometimes have but not on any particular scheduled day, more likely if we have guests or leftovers from having guests or a birthday or Easter for example. So we don’t have pudding as I would class it every day, but some people include a piece of fruit in that so they would say we do.

@54321nought

many people here are toting yoghurt as an alternative to pudding. There was a news item yesterday saying that one children's yoghurt was the sugar equivalent of around 16 biscuits

As per my previous post - we are all talking about different things when we refer to “pudding”. I saw that news article and the most sugary one that you refer to (with 5.5tsp sugar iirc) was a rolo yoghurt I think, which to me is absolutely pudding. As, to me, is something like petit filous, which we do sometimes have. I’m not referring to either of those things when I say yoghurt. We are none of us consistently applying the same pudding definition really, and this is the same with all threads on this topic in my experience

We only have pudding/dessert at weekends. If I started eating puds on weeknights I would be the size of a bus.

I was brought up on pudding once a week after Sunday lunch. I don't have a sweet tooth and eat something sweet very occasionally, like once a fortnight a bit of icecream of something. I'm still an absolute heifer though.

As per my previous post - we are all talking about different things when we refer to “pudding”. I saw that news article and the most sugary one that you refer to (with 5.5tsp sugar iirc) was a rolo yoghurt I think, which to me is absolutely pudding. As, to me, is something like petit filous, which we do sometimes have. I’m not referring to either of those things when I say yoghurt. We are none of us consistently applying the same pudding definition really, and this is the same with all threads on this topic in my experience

rolo isn't yoghurt, or classed as yoghurt anywhere?

And fat free just means more processed, and sugar free tends to mean artificial sweeteners, both of which cause as much obesity than plain straightforward sugar

My kids always have pudding - yoghurt, fruit salad, home baking, dried fruit, oat bar. DH and I eat later and don't do pudding.

Little yeos don't have added sugar btw

I agree with pp. If I want a piece of fruit at any day of the day I have it. I rarely have anything straight after dinner because I can’t eat big volumes at once, so I’m usually full after my main. But if I fancied a piece of fruit later in the evening I’d have it, and I wouldn’t label it as a late pudding. It’s just a piece of fruit. Similar with a biscuit. If I had a cup of tea and fancied a biscuit I’d have it. I would think of it as a biscuit, not a pudding. Maybe it’s different if you are a sweet person. I’m certainly more savoury. I tend to do a dessert if we have guests but other than that we just tend to follow our instinct, which tends not to be for puds.

@54321nought

As per my previous post - we are all talking about different things when we refer to “pudding”. I saw that news article and the most sugary one that you refer to (with 5.5tsp sugar iirc) was a rolo yoghurt I think, which to me is absolutely pudding. As, to me, is something like petit filous, which we do sometimes have. I’m not referring to either of those things when I say yoghurt. We are none of us consistently applying the same pudding definition really, and this is the same with all threads on this topic in my experience

rolo isn't yoghurt, or classed as yoghurt anywhere?

And fat free just means more processed, and sugar free tends to mean artificial sweeteners, both of which cause as much obesity than plain straightforward sugar

Are you telling me this for my benefit? We just have full fat Greek yoghurt if that makes you feel better, I don’t need an education in nutrition, I was just making the point that all of us seem to be referring to different things when we talk about pudding.

The rolo yoghurt was my memory of what was in the news report as the most sugary children’s yoghurt - perhaps your memory of the report is better? Presumably it’s a rolo branded chocolate/toffee yoghurt but I have never bought one so I don’t know.

My lot need the extra calories. I often make crumble, load plenty on their plates so there's hardly any left for DH and I.
DC are all thin.

To my mind, a pudding is crumble and custard, sticky toffee pudding, trifle....

I would not look at a yoghurt as pudding. That's just a snack. So is a piece of fruit.

My dc usually do. DH and I don't.

We love pudding. Often something like berries and cream, or (nice, homemade or plain) cake.

I don't have breakfast personally so figure it all balances out ...

My children usually have yoghurt, fruit, or cashew nuts. Occasionally a chocolate mousse. Sometimes they might have e.g. a fairy cake if we've been baking, or on a hot day, an ice lolly. We don't have 'proper' puddings like crumble very often, maybe when we have grandparents over for Sunday lunch.

I tend to think that is OK to have one sugary thing a day, but not often more than that. So if we have had cake or ice-cream at some point during the day, 'pudding' would be something simple like an apple or banana. If your children don't snack much or eat sugar during the day, then I would think that more regular sweet puddings wouldn't be too much problem.

Obviously a major factor is activity levels and portion sizes....

Yoghurt (greek yoghurt) or fruit on most days, some of us have some, others don't.

Usually once a week on date night DH and I have a more luxurious type pudding, and we usually do homemade crumble or cake at weekends.

OTOH DD took up baking in Covid so there are a lot of sweet treats floating around for snacks...

We never have puddling, I'm not really a pudding person, so it doesn't really enter my mind to offer one.

To answer your questions, no, we don't regularly have pudding. I find the main meal fills me up then I have a cuppa.

However you said later that is the only sweet thing you have in the day, whereas, in my case it definitely isn't

Daily pudding here... Fruit and sometimes yogurt.