How soon is too soon to leave this mum meet up?

[dancygnik]

Sat with 4 other mums, no ones talking to me and it's really awkward. I want to leave. We are sat in a field and it's raining.
How quickly can I get away without it appearing too soon?

Not really Aerosocks
People are asking the OP to expand a little upon what the situation was, rather than putting a cryptic message, then changing it when someone thought it was odd, then not responding to reasonable questions to find out a little more.

@Galassia
You sound nice 😳😳

Why bother posting?

Honestly some people can be so fucking mean and heartless, assuming you’re on your phone so that’s why you were being ignored. They immediately assumed that and jumped in with the comments.

I hope you’re feeling better now OP.

I remember going to the (only) local mums group. We’re very rural.

I sat with my son for an hour and literally not one person spoke to me. I turned it into a game (in my head) in the end and wondered if I’d make it out to my car without anyone saying goodbye. I did!

I was only 23 then and my child woke every 1.5 hours for the first year. I’d say something as I left these days.

sometimes being a Mum is not enough in common... find another "gang"

How was it arranged? They sound awful

I’m still battling to understand why this was all happening in the middle of a rainy field

One of the todler groups I went to in first city we lived with kids - shut over school hoildays as many do but had a thing were there was a time and place to meet in local park (with no play equipment in park).

No-one was every there at the time and after a while I knew people to arrange things with - maybe it's something like that .

Though IME child friendly museums or actual parks with play equipment or big rooms full of different toys work better to start conversations and keep the toddlers entertained - at every least you can focus on your child interacting with stuff.

Groups do change with time - one good one ended up with nearly everyone aging out or favoring the cheaper children center but eldest was next door in the nursury and big room lots of toys worked for DS - so waited it out and it did get better new people joined and few people I knew from other groups decided to start coming - but for several months I felt shit afterwards despite making huge effort with the few mums there.

OP, are you saying that you spoke to the group, asked a question or something, and out of the four of them, all of them knew you were speaking to them, but deliberately, nobody answered? That would be way beyond rude and into Highly Strange territory.

Or did you try to but in quietly while other people were speaking, and get nowhere? I’m struggling to see how any adult with a modicum of social skill could literally blank you if you spoke directly to them.

Can you explain a bit more about the circumstances so we can better advise on how you can make something like this go better next time? Did you greet them, and they you, when you arrived? I’m struggling to picture this.

Don’t let it get to you!

I’ve started a new job before, where everyone in the office ignored me on the first day. I was nearly in tears after work.

Focus on something else to take your mind off it.

It may not be anything personal against you, it’s just how things roll sometimes

@Hen2018

I remember going to the (only) local mums group. We’re very rural.

I sat with my son for an hour and literally not one person spoke to me. I turned it into a game (in my head) in the end and wondered if I’d make it out to my car without anyone saying goodbye. I did!

I was only 23 then and my child woke every 1.5 hours for the first year. I’d say something as I left these days.

What would you say as you left?!

I’d think of something. “Local group for local people” springs to mind.

Hope your goodbye was accompanied by two fingers.

I have had that - where I have spoken and no one answered. I'd even repeat myself to find out if they heard me! There are truly some odd people about